GodofNietzsche Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 I have randomly posted on this forum. I have tried to work through my breakup, only to be more distraught as time passes. Things are getting worse. I no longer have any motivation, nor control over myself. I believe I had found the person that was best for me and screwed it up royally. I don't know what to do. Every second of every day I think of her, and I can't get it out of my head. I hate myself, and know that nothing better will come my way. I had a similar (yet not as bad) experience before. But back then, I forced myself to do things despite my pain (study, exercise, etc.) However, now, I can't even motivate myself to do that. This is not self-pity (i.e. why did this happen to me?). This is self-hatred.
Rafa Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Hi GodofNietzsche, I feel your pain, I really do. Many of us here are going through various stages of the exact same thing. In fact you are one of thousands (millions?) of people all over the world who are right now experiencing the pain and loss of someone they love. The early stages are very up and down, so it often does feel like things are getting worse. Unfortunately your heart is breaking and this drowns out a lot of the sense that people will tell you. I think of it as a form of temporary insanity - much like when we fall in love actually, when sense doesn't matter, all that matters is what our heart is telling us. Nobody is immune to a difficult breakup. The most dynamic, interesting, and attractive people in the world are statistically likely go through this horror too at some point in their lives, so there is no need to hate yourself for it. I guess bereavement is just part of a normal life. It's a long road back and you will have to be strong my friend. Many millions before you have felt the same way, only to find themselves finally over it, having found happiness again in the future. And many millions will feel it after you too are the happy one. Unfortunately GodofNietzsche it's your turn this time, but have faith, be strong, surround yourself with friends, and this will pass,
HopeDiesLast Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Hi GodofNietzsche, I feel your pain, I really do. Many of us here are going through various stages of the exact same thing. In fact you are one of thousands (millions?) of people all over the world who are right now experiencing the pain and loss of someone they love. The early stages are very up and down, so it often does feel like things are getting worse. Unfortunately your heart is breaking and this drowns out a lot of the sense that people will tell you. I think of it as a form of temporary insanity - much like when we fall in love actually, when sense doesn't matter, all that matters is what our heart is telling us. Nobody is immune to a difficult breakup. The most dynamic, interesting, and attractive people in the world are statistically likely go through this horror too at some point in their lives, so there is no need to hate yourself for it. I guess bereavement is just part of a normal life. It's a long road back and you will have to be strong my friend. Many millions before you have felt the same way, only to find themselves finally over it, having found happiness again in the future. And many millions will feel it after you too are the happy one. Unfortunately GodofNietzsche it's your turn this time, but have faith, be strong, surround yourself with friends, and this will pass, Thats such a great post, Rafa. GodofNietzsche....I'm with you too. Have faith life is happening as it should. If you don't, you'll feel like you're going crazy. Know you're gonna get through all this, promise.
Sysyphus28 Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Your right rafa its probably millions. It is temporary insanity. It is love withdrawal.......and it SUCKS! No matter waht anyone says you need to hear it over and over and over and over. One of my friends is totally sick of my ranting and sadness. We'll all make it through this. But here is the important thing. Make it through and become mentally stronger. Your ex is. They think they made some amazing decision and are changing their life because they left you. In a way they are. BUT. Disappear from thier life. We are probably all here because we did not know how/or were having great difficulty letting to. that may translate to calling your over and over, or emailing, or confronting them with the "please take me back" speech....whatever. It didn't work, lets all move on and support eachother. I need support.
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