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[shm772]

Hi I am new here and i must say i wish i wasn't here. My girlfriend of a little over a year has left me 2 weeks ago. It has been hard. hurting bad. so here i go. 2 weeks ago we had a fight, i'm not getting into the particulars but it was a fight. later that night i called her and she wouldnt answer. i text her telling her that i will give her the space she requested a few days prior. she text back thank you i'll call when i'm ready the next day i sent her flowers and text her i was sorry. she text back leave me alone. now i did get a letter from her and it started off with how she misses the old me but something changed or a series of somethings. she said "i dont want that (personal) in your life because i love you." she went on with "i dont have all the answers nor do i know how to fix you, me, or us but i do know i need time to work on myself and get my head on straight." she states that she wrote the letter because "she was worried i thought she walked away with out a care" she says "this is not so. her heart is broken too." now am i crazy to look at this as perhaps some hope for the future? I'm struggling with letting go. I'm 36 and intellectually i know there are others and this is not my first loss but this one in particular hurts bad. sugestions please!!! other than the letter there has been no contact. by me or her. i've been tempted but i refrain. i just miss her so much . what should i do or dont do? i did play a part in this i did change during the course of the relationship. i took it for granted and didnt show muvch enthusiasm. plus i was very self centered.

[CherishG]

I personally think you two need to be apart from each other to really think things through... to grow.

I know a lot of people on here will suggest to go NC (No Contact) and it may be the hardest thing to do considering how much you love this girl, but at this point, you both need to work out the issues you two have that made it get to this point.

Good luck and keep posting on LS, trust me, it helps.