MrEELB Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Out of interest. had to have some contact with my ex today in regards to some pets we had together during our relationship. We spoke about how we were and what we had been up to and on one reply she said oh I know I read your facebook every day. So question is considering she has some one new in life why does she feel the need to do so. Not fussed either way just cannot work out the logic behind it. Cherrs
northstar1 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Out of interest. had to have some contact with my ex today in regards to some pets we had together during our relationship. We spoke about how we were and what we had been up to and on one reply she said oh I know I read your facebook every day. So question is considering she has some one new in life why does she feel the need to do so. Not fussed either way just cannot work out the logic behind it. Cherrs Facebook is the work of the devil, plain and simple - allows way too much speculation, stalking and misconstrued impressions.
Katherineos123 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Haha, I agree with Northstar. Facebook is indeed the Devil's plaything, I find myself looking at my ex's page all the time. As of late though, Ive been much better about it... Maybe this means Im begining to truly move on?... Sounds to me like in your siutuation, there are still some feelings lingering on the part of your ex, new relationship or not. Your ex seems to still want to be updated on your life, or better yet, be a bigger part of it. But it seems like you two are still on good terms, maybe she wants to re-establish a deeper friendship with you again.
Shygirl15 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Facebook to me is simply a social networking website for friends and family. Heck, just today I reconnected with my former manager whom I got along very well with, and I was very happy indeed. Furthermore I have never had boyfriends who used it, and if they did, I do not care. On topic: it's very likely your GF still has feelings for you, the same way you still have feelings for her (yeah, I know you do ). She probably has not bonded with the new guy just yet, and still misses your companionship etc. Not sure how long ago you two broke up, but feelings don't vanish overnight.
allanDR Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Yeah, my ex said she stalked me on facebook all the time. I like facebook and find it really useful but I had to get rid of it. Just caused me too much stress.
0hpenelope Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 So I'm assuming that you've maintained LC with your ex? Just clarifying that's all. I focused on this: So question is considering she has some one new in life why does she feel the need to do so. Not fussed either way just cannot work out the logic behind it. I think it's just a "human thing" to want to stay connected to someone who was once important to us. I don't really know if there's a "logic" to it as much as it is merely a... feeling? An impulse almost? It's not really important, but they just want to know about us anyway for one reason or the other. I can't relate to those people - I know Lawrence has a photoblog, but I have not looked at it for the longest time. The impulse was there for a while, but I just kept telling myself that if I looked at it, it won't do me any good. Sounds like your ex-gf needs a re-course in self-discipline and how to maintain it... I guess in our generation, MySpace and Facebook makes it that much easier for any ex to stay connected to us. I've been Facebook-less for months now. It's useful, but not a necessity.
CaliGuy Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 From my experience, they miss you a LITTLE and are curious to know what you are up to but that's it. They want a HANDS OFF approach to seeing how you are doing, but don't want to be with you. If they did, they'd be contacting you.
lovelorcet Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 From my experience, they miss you a LITTLE and are curious to know what you are up to but that's it. They want a HANDS OFF approach to seeing how you are doing, but don't want to be with you. If they did, they'd be contacting you. Yes, I would agree. If an ex really wants something from you then they will be banging at the door otherwise just assume they are long gone and having fun without you...
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