northstar1 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I know alot of people taken up exercise, or travel, or new hobbies/volunteering in order to help get over an ex and those are great changes that benefit in the long run regardless on if you ever get back or not........ What are some of the good and/or bad things you've done while trying to get over an ex? (ie. bad could be drinking too much, or taking up smoking, etc)
0hpenelope Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I know alot of people taken up exercise, or travel, or new hobbies/volunteering in order to help get over an ex and those are great changes that benefit in the long run regardless on if you ever get back or not........ What are some of the good and/or bad things you've done while trying to get over an ex? (ie. bad could be drinking too much, or taking up smoking, etc) Not eating. I literally had to remind myself to put food in my mouth, regardless of feeling the hunger pangs. Lost sleep. I kept dreaming of Lawrence for a really long time, and the longest I've gone losing sleep was 2 days (I only had a total of about 8 hours of sleep those 2 days - not cool). Good thing that pretty much encompasses everything good that I've been doing to move on: not breaking NC. How? My roommates are my close friends, I exercise at 8 a.m. on the dot for at least 3 times a day, I re-discovered hobbies, I burned stuff that reminded me of Lawrence (I took a video of it for the friends who wanted to see me do that but couldn't be there), I found joy in working again, and finally... I gave up. Some battles just can't be won and this was one of such battles for myself. I learned that the tighter you hold on to someone, the more he/she wants to be rid of you... so I gave up and let Lawrence go. I knew I had to let go and now I'm in full belief that Lawrence and I are done. No more denials. He is his new gf's problem now.
Eve Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 What are some of the good and/or bad things you've done while trying to get over an ex? The main positive thing I did when I was 'starting again' was to change my hairstyle. No negatives because I always seemed to be the one doing the dumping back in the days of being single..
CherishG Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 bad things: no sleep not eating staying in bed alot sleeping good things: can't think of one...
Katherineos123 Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 bad things: drinking more than I usually would crying more than I usually would not eating not sleeping obsessively wondering what hes doing/thinking good things: starting therapy begining to feel desirable again making new friends realizing the error of my ways (relationship and otherwise) learning to focus on myself having time for more of my hobbies investing more time in my amazing friends & family Seeing it all in writing is making me realize that I have gained more than I have lost... Huh. Imagine that.
9Lives Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 good things wrote down what I did not like about him stayed on LS wrote down what I wanted that I wasnt getting. gave up stayed in NC Bad thing wrote him a letter that I almost delivered
Jono Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Good things: Went to the gym Hung out with friends Got a new job Set some new goals Bad Things: Drank Smoked Took some other stuff I definatley shouldn't have Felt sorry for myself all day Stayed in contact with her for too long Looked at her bebo page
kyta Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Best thing alomost forgot her and moved on with my life and now happy again all in less than 4 months.
EmperorR Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 good things went shopping Started reading again Bad things Stop eating Begged her to come back
Crazy.S Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 good- started working out seriously, i am actually kicking the bad habits out, started to care about how i look and dress less of a bum, hiked mt Lafayette, i graduated, became closer to friends and family, LS bad- almost did not graduate, grades went down, loss of appetite, bars * i don't think i would have gotten this far if it wasn't for LS. i think i would have still be hurting and things would have been worse
wayfaerer1 Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Yeah, I have to admit, LoveShack has really helped me a lot. It's like free therapy and you get to talk to other people who are going through the same firey hell as you. I had been dumped before, but I never had the opportunity to get so much advice from people on this forum. It really helps a lot. By far, the best thing I've done to cope is the gym - It's the first time I've been going this frequent. And I hope that in a few months time I'll be looking damn good, and better to attract girls out socializing. Also, having my friends for support - thats essential.
alwayssme Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Good things seeked God more met new people went out on dates started sleeping early had more time for friends and family learned to never trust someone blindly again Bad things lost my appetite lost alot of weight took too many pain killers to numb the pain called, texted and begged for him back messed up in school cried and felt like crap all the time
ahhhchooo Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Good things -Started exercising for the first time in a year! (gym/running) Have cut down my 5km time by 4 minutes in 7 weeks -Considering better career options that were not as possible with the plans that I had with the ex. Bad Things -Let her walk all over me.. she was a cold hearted b*tch but somehow that pressed a desire in me to change her back. I was on call for her whenever she wanted me but that was anything but reciprocated! That did NOT help me move on. -Turned into an alcoholic, chain smoking insomniac. Have kinda got that under control now. -Worn a frown every day for the past 2 months. Sick of my mother asking me what's wrong every time I see her! Do not feel like admitting how much I miss this cold hearted b*tch.
wayfaerer1 Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 Ahhh hang in there ahhhchooo, It's been a month now and I still miss the crazy cold-hearted b*tch too.
SRV Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 GOOD THINGS -Lost weight without having to go to the gym. -Started working out. -I will be fine, its just a matter of time. -Have set new goals and finally implementing them. BAD THINGS- -I miss my daughter like crzay and also the coldhearted b***h
HopeDiesLast Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 Good Things- Joined a yoga center Going out more Spending more time with friends and family started old hobbies again made a bucket list started a journal kicked his a$$ to the curb!!!! Bad things: bad sleep habits loss of appetite (and 15 lbs) drugs drinking wrote a letter, texted, asked to talk, told him we should try again got lazy at work 9lives- i need to write down what i want and wasnt getting. brilliant idea!
sultry33 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 BAD... wasted too much time on him slept with him after he left me numerous times enjoyed it too.. broke nc lost my confidnce slept with a guy.. cus i could.. was bitch to another guy.. feel real bad about that stayed in bed and cried for 2 weeks almost non stop begged .. pleaded.. forgave! got so drunk i fell over cried in front of my children.. lost my pride and respect:sick: GOOD lost 2 stone ended the rollercoaster ride of emotions wth him put the vets bill in his name;) put his stuff in the bin total nc on my terms for 31 days now flirted online had god fun new clothes more money now he not eating all the food.. true got a life.. no more his interests every weekend bookng a holiday to somewhere hot.. and abroad hopefully getting a job outside the home soon went on a date:D i like to finish on positive note:p
nutter78 Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Good things Took a holiday Read a lot more! Caught up with family more Bad things So many bad things! Lost a lot of weight Cried at work Checked his accounts Called him, text him, etc Emailed his boss
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