doc555 Posted August 21, 2003 Posted August 21, 2003 My ex-girlfriend wants to start dating again. So I told the girl I saw after 2 dates about whats going on and broke it off. Seemed fair. Well the guy she told me she had feelings for when we first broke up is still hanging out with her. She told him that she just wants to be friends. Well the other day they had an argument about something and he sent her a dozen roses. She also has been hanging out with him quite a bit. Yet, when I come over to hang out I always end up spending the night. We have a great time in and out of the bedroom. She told me that he is just a friend. But it is hard to take. She told me that she has had sex with the guy. So I am sure he is trying to get back together with her. What should I do?
Need Some Heart Posted August 22, 2003 Posted August 22, 2003 First, are you okay with her having slept with another guy already?? If you are, and are willing to date her again, talk about what you want to do differently from the past relationship. Obviously, there must've been something wrong/lacking, so if you 2 hook up again, you need to clearly set both of your expectations. And I don't trust this guy that seems to be wooing her...if she's serious about being with you, she will cut off all contact with this person. He sounds like trouble, and I would only go back out with this girl if she were TRULY over this fling. I'm talking from experience as the girl that's left her boyfriend to temporarily be with someone else. The renewed relationship is not the same, and the success of the renewed relationship depends on how committed and trusting you 2 will be of each other. If you are NOT okay with her having slept with another guy, don't bother pursuing her. You will just harbor resentment and there will be fights/trouble/discord in this renewed relationship.
JayCam Posted November 8, 2003 Posted November 8, 2003 Originally posted by Need Some Heart First, are you okay with her having slept with another guy already?? If you are, and are willing to date her again, talk about what you want to do differently from the past relationship. Obviously, there must've been something wrong/lacking, so if you 2 hook up again, you need to clearly set both of your expectations. And I don't trust this guy that seems to be wooing her...if she's serious about being with you, she will cut off all contact with this person. He sounds like trouble, and I would only go back out with this girl if she were TRULY over this fling. I'm talking from experience as the girl that's left her boyfriend to temporarily be with someone else. The renewed relationship is not the same, and the success of the renewed relationship depends on how committed and trusting you 2 will be of each other. If you are NOT okay with her having slept with another guy, don't bother pursuing her. You will just harbor resentment and there will be fights/trouble/discord in this renewed relationship. Excellent post
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