jusified Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Hi guys, A girl and I have been emailing back and forwards three four times a week for over a month. THe emails started very casual and gradually become a little mroe personal...eg what we did on the weekend etc. I casually asked her out to meet up for coffee during lunch. She wrote back saying that "I am really busy with work at the moment so I can't make it this week. But perhaps next week. I will get back to you" I'm at the stage of trying to get to know this girl but so far I do think she's a nice girl and hahaha, I haven't really met a nice girl in a while. Let me know what you all think of the situation and what i should do. I plan on letting her get back to me and let her take as long as she needs.
Flowerpower7 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Hi guys, "I am really busy with work at the moment so I can't make it this week. But perhaps next week. I will get back to you" I haven't really met a nice girl in a while. She is interested, but she's busy. As she has offered to meet with you at a later time she specified. If she wasn't interested, she would just say she was busy and leave it at that. Remember if she's a nice girl and you havent met one in a long time...then give her space and time...as she wont be like the other women.
Bells Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 She is interested, but she's busy. As she has offered to meet with you at a later time she specified. If she wasn't interested, she would just say she was busy and leave it at that. Disagree, I had experiences with women saying, "I'll get back to you". And they never got back with me. It's akin to saying, "Don't call us, we'll call you."
Vertex Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 If you've been talking back and forth 3-4 times a week for a month, I'd say she's being honest here. Have some patience, and give her a week/give her the benefit of the doubt. If she doesn't really get back to you as she's said, then she's probably not super interested.
Krytie TV Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Busy = too uninterested to make time for you.
Author jusified Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 I'm the type of person that will take the time out even if I'm really busy. So I do think on the line of if she's too busy the whole week to meet up then it's really not good. Owells
D-Lish Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 I'd guess she isn't ready for "the meeting" just yet. It's not about being interested or not because she doesn't know you yet. I think at this stage of the game she is "intrigued".... But it's still scary to think about that first meeting with someone. Just don't push the meeting and continue chatting on e-mail. Let her bring up the meeting. In tht meantime, don't put all your eggs into one basket. Find yourself a few girls to chat with. I spoke to a seemingly nice guy for 6 months via e-mail, msn and phone. He kept saying he wanted to meet, and then pulled back. I never asked him to meet... But finally, after 6 months of all the chat- I got bored and fed up. It seemed like a game. So I deleted him from msn and stopped taking his calls or answering his e-mails. Sometimes you just have to say enough is enough. So- having said that... set a time frame for how long you are okay with waiting for a face to face. If it drags on too long... move on.
Author jusified Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 D_lish you still on the forums hehehe. Don't think you will remeber me I think I'm trying to sus her out...and maybe she is susing me out too. Let's just saying in our emails we have both tried to keep it open and continous so we would email each other back. After she emailed and said maybe later I wrote back saying yea no probs. She did email me back soon after with a funny comment (non related to lunch). But we have not emailed since.
Bells Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 D_lish you still on the forums hehehe. Don't think you will remeber me I think I'm trying to sus her out...and maybe she is susing me out too. Let's just saying in our emails we have both tried to keep it open and continous so we would email each other back. After she emailed and said maybe later I wrote back saying yea no probs. She did email me back soon after with a funny comment (non related to lunch). But we have not emailed since. Right...and move on and find a chick who WILL meet you for lunch.
BaD_Day Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 I think I asked the same question before, I don't know what happen to the girl I tried to ask, but she said she was busy, then on that very day she called me to go get lunch with her. Spins my head around 360 degree. But I hate hate hate girls that do it, if they're not interested then just say so, don't do the busy thing, it throws all logical sense out the window, unless she absolutely HAVE something super important to do, if you girls are interested, get your ass out and hang out for 1-2 hours, it ain't gonna kill you, gee...
carhill Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 The non-starters are getting their egos fed, plain and simple. Moral of the story is invest in friends and date women. Don't invest a bunch of time and energy into what might be. Go with what is. The earlier the meet, the fewer expectations and greater opportunity for spontaneous chemistry to occur. No interest in meeting (that's what "busy" is) =no furthering of investment of my time. That's my .02 as someone who invested way too much for too long way too many times.
Author jusified Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 Hmm, well she did get back to me and we catching up for lunch next week. Now I'm wondering if she sees it as a friend lunch... For me at the moment it's at a stage I am kind of interested so not exactly a date, but i think shes a nice girl and want to get to know her more. Would girls go out with a guy to lunch in a situation like ours without thinking of nothign more then friendship?
carhill Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 It is what it is. Enjoy the food Don't over-think. This is the important part...*you* decide what *you* want. Communicate that to her with your actions. If she's not receptive, move on. Don't worry about what she wants....
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