Bells Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I heard these "how we met" stories about men who constantly pestered a woman until she said "OKAY, I'll go out with you" Apparently, she worked at a desk job at a college or was a store clerk at a dept store in a mall somewhere...... FFWD to them as a couple.....she says, while holding his hand and kissing him gently. "Yeah, he must've asked me out 6 times before I agreed to go out with him! *Giggle*. Or....if you go with the "Buttefly Effect" "That friggin' LOSER couldn't take the hint, so I put a restraining order on his ass" or "I had to ask him to be escorted from the building." With that said, is persistence a serious risk? I mean, how did the smitten man not get in trouble with the authorities? Did he take a risk just for love?
Balthazar Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I guess it is all in the way the lady rejects you Bells. In some cases, she may turn you down in a light hearted, playful manner that doesn't really put you off; it just fuels your desire - as it is meant to! At other times, the rejection may be more akin to a polite F**** off. My opinion is that a guy has got to put in that extra effort if he likes the girl! Of course he shouldn't overdo it, otherwise he is going to get his lovin' from some big dude in prison.
Stockalone Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I never have, and never will chase a woman like that and ask her out multiple times. To me, no means no, and yes means yes. If she means yes but says no, that is very annoying. But I am sure there are guys who like that. Personally, I feel like there is way too much drama and high maintenance ahead if I already have to jump through hoops only to get a date.
serial muse Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 You know, I'm not even sure I'd believe what she's saying as the literal truth. I think there could be some revisionist history there - a little bragging about how much he wanted her, embellished with a tale of multiple askings. I'd bet the actual truth is they flirted for a while with no concrete asking-out but he expressed interest in her, and then she agreed to go out with him after maybe the second actual invite. Just saying.
KinAZ Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 What a guy can get away with depends on his relationship with the girl. Say if they're friends she might give him a little more room if she doesn't mind the attention. But if she's avoiding you, or hiding from you... then I say don't try anymore. As was already stated, she probably gave him smiley giggly "No"s. Playful "No" and that doesn't mean she's really interested but lying... but probably that she thinks you're cool, but doesn't really have any romantic interest, AND that your relationship and your approach are not uncomfortable.
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