jimmymat87 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 How long should it take to get over someone... i know everyone and every situation is different but wats a rough guide... and how long is to long and how do u know if u need proper help... Girlfried broke up with me, were together for a year... then sorta of and on for about another 6-7 months.. This was my first proper relationship and first real "love"... We no longer talk as everyone says the only way to fix things is time and no contact.... i miss this girl so much.... she made me so happy...How much longer will this go on.. I actually hate my life at the moment and am very down on myself
Geishawhelk Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 How long were you together? When did you break up? How old are you? It's all relevant.....
Rafa Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 There is no rule. I've had about 6 breakups, 3 or them major, and it was different every time. One things for sure - if you are the dumper, it's a lot easier. There is one girl that I broke up with a few years ago now - 3 or 4 years ago - and I'm only really just getting over her fully now. I've had two relationships since; the first one was ruined because I wasn't over the other girl, and even the next relationship probably suffered because of it. Some people just really get under your skin more than others. These things can speed up the process: - Focusing on you and getting on with your life. This is the most important one. Don't let the breakup derail you from your purpose, or let it be the cause of a lack of self worth. Someone else's validation of you is not a realistic measure of your self worth. - No contact. This is a funny one because although L-Shack is the centre for NC, I don't always agree with it. We are adults, sometimes things need to be said. However, it is most definitely helpful in speeding up the healing process. - Finding a new girlfriend. This is a time-frame thing too. Too soon, and it'll never work, and could make things worse. However eventually, if you can get into a loving relationship again, the need to look back will lessen. - Distractions. Doing stuff, seeing friends, hobbies, etc. I know it's obvious but spending time with friends who value your company can make you feel good about yourself. It can depend on whether it's the ex you are missing or whether it's the security they brought into your life. One thing is for sure. You WILL get there in the end. We always do.
Author jimmymat87 Posted September 30, 2008 Author Posted September 30, 2008 How long were you together? When did you break up? How old are you? It's all relevant..... together 1 year then 6-7 months on and off broke up first time on new yrs eve 07/08 then patched things up off and on was bloody crazy im 21 she is 20 been doing no contact for over 3 weeks now.. like day 24 or sumthing i miss her so much.. when it first ended i wasnt to bad.. like i was really upset and all but i just listened to everyone and believed in time i would get over it... but im not over it:( i still feel as if i love her just the same as i always did... wen we last spoke and i sed i wanted no contact she told me she loved me but things would never work between us
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