whats your view on my situation

[saint]

Hi

 

Need other peoples views on my situation

so current situation is have a girlfriend off 9 years 2 young children and split up 2 of them years,on off sort of relationship,ive haven't been happy in this relationship for around 2 years,very depressed.

before i was with my current girlfriend i was seeing/with someone else she was my first love and she would have done anything for me and i ruined it as i was more interested in doing others things instead (i needed to grow up really) ,i didnt know what i had till it was to late,i have thought of this girl for years never forgetting her and always haveing a little love for her tho i hadnt seen her from when we split up, she too has 2 young kids now and is single,she also says she always thought of me 2,she gave me her number by email from a friend of hers and mine,soon as i saw the number with the msg "missed you" i got excited all feelings seemed to came back,i couldnt sit down,we been txting and meeting each other only for past weeks if that,my problem is i think i want to be with her and im on a time limit really,my current girlfriend kicks me out all the time for staying out all night but if i want to see my ex i need to,i want to tell my girlfriend whats been going on and say sorry and be with the other ex but i dont know how to manage it,its driving me crazy,my ex said the other day she loves me after 9 years of not seeing her (is she lieing or just excited,is it even possable after so long) is it gonna work if i get back with my ex. if i leave even if it isnt for my ex i cant come back to my current girlfriend.

ill keep it short on this bit but ill lose job,girlfriend,house well everything if it back fires on me.i have reacurring depression and ive tried to take my life for less so to lose everything could cause my problems for me.

 

 

if i could have what i got with my current girlfriend with someone else i would.

 

is the risk worth it,i think it is. please leave your thoughts

[TigerCub]

Well you are in a tricky situation, you say you love the ex but you have a lot to lose if you leave everything you have now and take the 2nd chance with her.

 

I guess the question you need to ask would be with regards to what ended your relationship with her in the first place. Would the same issues rise up again?

 

As for your relationship with the current woman, the mother of your 2 children, is that relationship just doomed or can it be salvaged? I mean I would immagine that 9 years with someone, even if some of it was on/off would be a long road with inevitable bumps on the way. Do you think you and your current gf can get to a place where you're both happy? Is this something you guys can achieve with some relationship therapy? If so, then maybe things will get better and you can have a good life with her and your children, but if you really feel that you're just in love with the ex and you can't offer much to the current gf, then do the honest thing and man up and end it with her, take the risk and try to find your happiness, but don't do things behind her back until you think its all good for you to make a break, because that wouldn't be fair.

 

Hope that helps