smalltownsingle Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Hi, I have been seing a man for almost a year now and I am totally in love with him since the day we met. He fell in love with me only later on. He told me he would like me to be his girlfriend at one point but in fact, he kept seeing other girls and claimed to his guy friends that he had 2 girlfriends, a couple of **** friends and other possibilities on the go. He then said he loved me at one point .... but I also know that he has been flirting online with other girls for about 3 months after we started dating each other. After I confronted him with some of this he deleted all the girls that he calls his "distractions" from his contact list and I think he is now truely in love and loyal to me. But sometimes when I think back at how he was acting when he met me... and if I would of known he was like that before, I would of had a different opinion of him.... and I am afraid that sometimes he might still be like that. But he is so sweet to me, never I would of thought he was being a player like that when he met me. He says he never wants to be single again and he swears he never slept with anyone after he slept with me and we are even discussing marriage at the moment. I can't help but feel very unsecure when I think back to those days ... I am extremely jealous and I want to check through his stuff all the time because Im scared he will flirt back with other girls... He doesnt even know that I found some of the stuff his mail ... stuff that he wrote to several people the first couple of months that we met. He slowly is earning my trust, there is nothing really recent that would indicate that he is still being untrustworthy but how do I stop feeling insecure about this. He works away more than half the time and trusting him is very important... so how can I stop feeling insecure about this....
whichwayisup Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 You have to decide if he is worth it and find it within yourself to try to forget the beginning of your 'relationship' when he was still flirting and doing whatever with other girls. IT seems he has proven alot to you - Even discussing marriage! If he were still interested in messing around with other women, he wouldn't be talking marriage with you. Talk to him about how you feel inside, let him know that you need more attention from him to feel secure in the relationship.
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