Whitefox123 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 3 months ago, my fiance and I ended our relationship.Well I should say my ex ended our relationship (I was having issues with being insecure..but I have since realized how stupid I was) We were together for almost 3 years...in fact our anniversary or would be anniversary is coming up here in a few weeks. Over the last 3 months, we have remained in contact. Part of the reason we have is because we have classes together. We have had our major ups and downs within just the last few months. There were times where he told me that he still loved me and wanted to be with me, and other times where he said that he was done with me/us. As soon as we get close again actually is when he starts to pull away.we could try to work things out. Things were going amazing for us....and he even posted a blog about me on myspace saying just how wonderful I was, and included the fact that he wants to spend his life with me. Yesterday, he told me that he was starting to feel those bad feelings again, and he wasnt sure what he wanted. I ended up writing him a very long email and basically poured my heart out to him. Things were fine for the most part today at school, but somehow we got into a small argument about our situation in which he said i was preassuring him to make a dicision. (I said "you need to make up your mind about what you want, because this is getting really frustrating for me!" but i did not mean that he had to do it right that second, or even sometime this week...just SOON) well this argument expanded into me bawling my eyes out (in private with him) and telling him that all I wanted was to be back with him, and that I didnt know what to do because he is sending me mixed signals, which is causing me to be depressed. he then refused to tell me whats on his mind (exactly) because he said it doesnt matter.... and we parted on a sour note. I am just soooo confused and hurt right now. Why does he keep leaving and coming back? Things will be perfect and then one day out of nowhere, he'll change his mind.I asked him about the blog he wrote and he said he meant everything in it....but I dont know now. Does anyone have any insight on this? Am I stupid for sticking around?? Its just SO hard to leave...and I honestly dont know what to do anymore. I've even asked him if I am supposed to move on, and he said he didnt know yet. I dont understand this at all.... and I'm terrified that I'm being strung along...I really hope not, because I still love him and all I want to do is make it work! P.S. In case anyone is wondering I DO make time to spend with my friends and doing fun things...but he is actually really jealous of my friends (who i pretty much see on the weekends when hes working) but he says that they have nothing to do with what he's feeling.....I kinda think otherwise....
winter Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Why does he keep leaving and coming back? That's messed up. Why are you tolerating this? This is not healthy for you at all. If you keep taking him back, there is no reason for him to stop this torturous cycle. How many more times does he have to do this to you before you've had enough? Your in control of your choices, and I'm sure you know you deserve a consistent life partner! I'd dump his ass. You've already given him so much time and energy. Why give him even another moment of your time? He may not mean to, but he is seriously f&cking with you and your well-being. This is hurting you, and it will take time to recover. You cannot trust someone who does this push/pull crap. He is not a healthy emotional investment.
Author Whitefox123 Posted September 30, 2008 Author Posted September 30, 2008 So I have just been sitting here thinking about everything and I know you (and everyone else who knows the situation) is right...I need to just walk away from it. I'm making myself miserable and I pretty much bring it on myself since I wont let him go for good. I guess the reason I wont is because I have this hope that one day things will change...and we will go back to how we used to be. Espeically since i feel that the reason we broke up could have totally been avoided with more communication on both of our parts. I guess it wont change though.... Thanks for your input...I do appreciate it. It's just very very hard when I know we have to see each other and our anniversary is coming up.
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