Flowerpower7 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 ok, I'm confused. I met this guy about 3 years ago online. We became friends and more, but it was just casual. We took dance classes together back then (salsa and country)...during that time he never had problems dancing with me. He broke off the casual relationship thing as he wanted to find someone to date. He told me that he wasn't interested in me to date. Then I told him that we would never have a casual relationship again. He is a shy guy who always waits for the woman to make the first move. I know. So, he has been single ever since. He can't find a girl to date. We are friends, just by email and the odd movie. We see each other once a week at social dancing. I'm confused: lately he wont dance with me at social events. He will dance with other women who he's not interested in though. If youre not interested in someone, it should be easy to be around them....right? I'm not interested in most of the guys I meet, I dont have to worry about impressing them....so I dont care. Wouldn't this be the same for him? Or....is he attracted to me....as he isnt finding anyone ....but I told him No.....and he wants to stay away as temptation is difficult when you cant have what you want????
norajane Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 If he's hoping to meet someone new, he knows he has to distance himself from you at the dances. Other people have seen you together often and assume you are 'together'. He has to be seen without you, so another girl might notice him and realize he's on his own now.
IrishCarBomb Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Uhh... why would he dance with you? You two are over. Maybe he doesn't dance with you to avoid any confusion about the "status" between the two of you.
Author Flowerpower7 Posted September 30, 2008 Author Posted September 30, 2008 Norajane: thats ok, just sounded like you did. This is social dancing, not at a bar, pub or dance club. Its ballroom dancing, where we are in closed frame. Everyone dances with each other, even if youre married or single.
TigerCub Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 do you know who I am? You should say that to HIM when he turns you down for a dance again.
norajane Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Norajane: thats ok, just sounded like you did. This is social dancing, not at a bar, pub or dance club. Its ballroom dancing, where we are in closed frame. Everyone dances with each other, even if youre married or single. Even so, if he's waiting for a girl to make the first move, then he's going to want to show everyone that he's no longer with you and that he's single.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 If he doesn't want to dance with you, then find another dance partner. I suppose he just feels awkward towards you because you guys once had thing, but if he's being elusive then you might as well avoid him as well.
Author Flowerpower7 Posted September 30, 2008 Author Posted September 30, 2008 ...but the thing is....this is just happening now. We havent been togther for 2 years. He has always ben interested in dancing with me, up until a few weeks ago. He is also nervous around me, fidgity and I catch him looking at me the odd time. If he didnt want to dance with me right after...us being over....then I'd understand....but its been a long time....
marinemom5740 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 ok, I'm confused. I met this guy about 3 years ago online. We became friends and more, but it was just casual. We took dance classes together back then (salsa and country)...during that time he never had problems dancing with me. He broke off the casual relationship thing as he wanted to find someone to date. He told me that he wasn't interested in me to date. Then I told him that we would never have a casual relationship again. He is a shy guy who always waits for the woman to make the first move. I know. So, he has been single ever since. He can't find a girl to date. We are friends, just by email and the odd movie. We see each other once a week at social dancing. I'm confused: lately he wont dance with me at social events. He will dance with other women who he's not interested in though. If youre not interested in someone, it should be easy to be around them....right? I'm not interested in most of the guys I meet, I dont have to worry about impressing them....so I dont care. Wouldn't this be the same for him? Or....is he attracted to me....as he isnt finding anyone ....but I told him No.....and he wants to stay away as temptation is difficult when you cant have what you want???? what he is doing is he has moved on you gave him what he wanted and dosen't lookat you the same way anymore. sorry to be harsh but, it is the truth. maybe he is looking to settle down you don't know what he is thinkking. guys do things like that if he is danceing with other women that could be his way of makeing you jelious and not want to be around him anymore. you do care or you wouldn't be hurt or confused. I have been where you are and I moved on and what God has for you is for you. don't worry about what he is doing or who is doing it with. if he is telling you to stay away temptation is difficult then he is telling you the truth. get your self involved with other things that he is not, go to new places meet new people. you will feel much better and about your self too. blessings
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