westrock Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 hmm...well...maybe if i thought his relationship wasn't going smoothly. it wouldn't hurt, would i? i would have zero interest in talking to a married guy though. i guess that sounds ****ty of me. hmm... But you seem to forget that you know something that he doesn't know or realize and that is that you are are single. But in his mind you gave him all the indications just recently that you are in a relationship. Maybe he does not want to interfere with someone in a relationship and wants to stay away from someone like that he is giving him the vibes. It seems like you are trying to come up with every excuse why he is not making the moves on you without realizing the role have in all of this. Sometimes you just need stop thinking and start taking action. What's the worst that is going to happen?
Lucky_One Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I'd go. There might be someone even better there!
Isolde Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Maybe if you flirt with someone else, he'll see that a) you're capable of running away from him annnnd b) you're single and looking.
mortensorchid Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 This is an odd situation. I've run into a few old bfs (and all those others in miscellaneous catagories) from time to time, they quite honestly do not care whether or not I am looking / single / interested, etc. At most they just want to catch up for a bit ("What have you been doing since last I saw you?" type stuff), and that's that. But quite honestly I have never approached an old bf with the hopes that we will or may get back together. I always assume it's over and it's over for a reason. Even if I wonder from time to time what they are doing with themselves.
Author daterhater Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 well, i ended up going last night. here's an update if anyone cares! while i was at the concert, i tried to be social and talk to everyone i know and not just stand there looking sad. i was talking to this one guy i know and i see my crush walk by us and glance in our direction. it turns out the guy i was talking to came with my crush. small world. so i've noticed if i am engaged in a conversation, my crush will not stop by and interrupt us. ever. we haven't said hi to each other by this point or acknowledged that the other one is there. i am waiting to make eye contact with him for a moment when i know we can say more than "hi." anyway, later on in the night i'm outside chatting to this random old dude and my crush walks right be me and says, "Hi Sarah." I say, "Oh, hey!" but I can't chat any longer than that because i'm in the middle of a conversation with the random dude and don't want to be rude. sigh. finally at the end of the night it's time to go and my friend and i are walking to our car. we pass my crush who is with a couple other guys and i dno't know WHAT to say at all, so i just say, "bye dudes." one of the guys with my crush says, "hopefully we'll see you around again." "i bet you will." says i. crush says, "It's been twice weekly lately!" and i don't know what to say and there's such an awkward tension, that i just head out. i know this update sounds like NOTHING at all...which...well... is the truth. what do you make of this? he didn't talk to anyone that night but the two guys he came with while i was social and had a whole lot of people to talk to. he did make a point to say hi, but it was a weird, awkward hi.
Author daterhater Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 also... do you think it would be weird to send him a message on myspace saying something like, "hey, let me know if you ever want someone to go to a show with." to me it seems weird to ask him to hang in the future when we don't talk in the present. am i beating a dead horse? he's so cute i can't resist him even if he's so hard to read.
Bloodelf Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Do it, there is nothing worse then wondering "What if" the to most terrible words in the english language. At least you will know...
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