ohwhyme Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Hello everyone. So my ex recently wrote to me saying shes sorry for everything thats happened and that she misses me, loves me and still has dreams about me. She dumped me. Now we talk again after months of NC and shes giving me hints about stuff. I gave her an ultimatum a few weeks ago to either try again or be off, she says she has made up her mind but wants to make sure and wants time and make sure never to hurt me again. We've been together for 1.5 years and this summer she dumped me and got crazy and started partying a lot. She says she isnt as happy now as she was when she was with me. So what am I supposed to do? I've had dreams about her too but I won't be as affected about what happens as I would have when we first broke up. Give her time or just wrap it up and make her make a decision so I can close this chapter? Now we just small talk and she usually gives me mixed signals etc. She called me drunk too saying that she loves me and misses me eh. Oh and I never initiate conversation anymore she does.
superd Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Keep in contact with her and find a new girl.
lofi_tokyo Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 She left you for another guy, right? So I think the first step is to see what happened between them, if thats possible. Why? Because if he dumped her... then maybe shes just looking for someone to stroke her ego, make her feel good again, and so shes going after you. That could be why shes taking time to figure out what she wants, because she feels guilty getting back together with you just because the new guy hurt her. Does that make sense? That may not be the reason, but its worth figuring out. How long has she had time ALONE, not attached, to really think about what she did to you? If her new man dumped her say... a few weeks ago, she probably hasn't seriously figured herself out yet.
Author ohwhyme Posted September 30, 2008 Author Posted September 30, 2008 yea she did. she hasnt had much alone time almost a month maybe. She did sound like she meant what she said though. But anyways she didn't like the guy as a boyfriend and got him to dump her, i dont think it lasted very long heh. But yes she has been pretty confused and broke up with me because she thought it was the easiest thing to do and did it without thinking. Well ive been fine without her but apart of me misses her too... I don't think I'd like to keep in contact though if nothing happens because I'll just end up thinking about her again, I did so well NC and she begged me to talk to her again heh.
superd Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 she sounds like a terrible B***h. Does she really have a right to do that to you? Wow, she is the meanest person I have ever heard of. She wants to shovel her unresolved crap right in your face to sully you. I mean I know that only like two people have ever listened to me in all of my posts, but take my word, this woman you are dealing with is a viscious w***e. And she calls you drunk so she can rub her "new" life in your face. That's b.s. man. Trust me man, I may be the best friend that you ever met even though you will never meet me, get away from this chick and never call her again or talk to her again or recieve her calls. She is more than using you, she wants to get revenge on you for being a good guy because she is not a good girl. Damn, what is the world coming to with all these freaking cheaters. Can you trust anybody these days. I know you sadsacks on LS all think that way. Screw this place, I won't be back for a while, maybe never.
Author ohwhyme Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 Well she says she wants time so I guess I will give her that and assume that she says no so I will be expecting the worst. What I don't understand is if I should ignore her so she can miss me or if I should be there for her? I'm going to be looking for other girls to in the meantime.
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