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Nemo Established Member

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Which part

All of it. The sum of your parts is definitely more than your hole.

RecordProducer Established Member

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All of it. The sum of your parts is definitely more than your hole.
My hole doesn't contain any parts! :laugh:
Trimmer Established Member

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Are you sure your boss is not married or involved?

This was exactly my thought, too. I don' t remember it being mentioned or confirmed one way or the other.

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Spookie is really good with men though. I think she can get the boss even if he is involved. I don't think there was ever a guy since I joined LS that spookie had a crush on and didn't get.

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Spookie is really good with men though. I think she can get the boss even if he is involved. I don't think there was ever a guy since I joined LS that spookie had a crush on and didn't get.

 

I don't know if this is necessarily an admirable trait.

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This was exactly my thought, too. I don' t remember it being mentioned or confirmed one way or the other.

 

He isn't married and I'm about 85% sure he's not involved. Had he had a serious gf, I think I'd have heard about it during conversations about weekends, etc. As far as I know all he does on the weekends, for example, is go to baseball games with guys from the office, participate in a sport in which he's nationally-ranked, and attend professional conferences. I haven't heard any mention of any women.

 

He's 28.

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Spookie is really good with men though. I think she can get the boss even if he is involved. I don't think there was ever a guy since I joined LS that spookie had a crush on and didn't get.

 

I dunno about that. I still love my ex but I know there's nothing I can do to get him back.

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We didn't interact too much today, because I spent 3 hours working on a 10 minutes assignment which I stupidly decided to attempt to automate. He did invite me down to play bridge with him and some other people, and then stopped by my desk to offer pointers.

Nemo Established Member

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, participate in a sport in which he's nationally-ranked,

I love curling! It's like lawn bowls on ice.

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We didn't interact too much today, because I spent 3 hours working on a 10 minute assignment which I stupidly decided to attempt to automate. He did extend me an invitation to play bridge with him and some other guys during lunch though, which I declined as I've started a bridge group of my own for some beginners. After lunch he also stopped by my desk to chat (which felt like flirting) and offer some bridge-learning pointers.

Nemo Established Member

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Each day seems pretty much the same as yesterday. And the day before that, maybe.

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Each day seems pretty much the same as yesterday. And the day before that, maybe.

 

More or less.

 

For what it's worth, this is the most PRODUCTIVE crush I've ever had. I liked my job before I got transferred into his department, but now I'd live at work, if I could. And it's encouraged me to get up in time to brush my teeth and hair in the mornings, which is probably healthy, as well as to work out at the company gym each morning in hopes of running into him.

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More or less.

 

For what it's worth, this is the most PRODUCTIVE crush I've ever had. I liked my job before I got transferred into his department, but now I'd live at work, if I could. And it's encouraged me to get up in time to brush my teeth and hair in the mornings, which is probably healthy, as well as to work out at the company gym each morning in hopes of running into him.

 

Sounds like a healthy crush, but you have to manage it properly. Never boil over - instead just smile like you mean it, respond professionally and try to be a good team player. Job first.

 

If something more happens, then you should keep things very professional at the public level.

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Sounds like a healthy crush, but you have to manage it properly. Never boil over - instead just smile like you mean it, respond professionally and try to be a good team player. Job first.

 

If something more happens, then you should keep things very professional at the public level.

... while boinking him senseless at the private level. :laugh:

Nemo Established Member

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... while boinking him senseless at the private level. :laugh:

Yeah, baby. The temperature's rising.

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don't be friendly with him, just professional.

If he's interested, you can't really get fired just for dating an employee. Let him make a move. he will if he's interested.

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I dunno about that. I still love my ex but I know there's nothing I can do to get him back.

 

Maybe if he knew you had a cool real job in the real world that would impress him.

Nemo Established Member

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, you can't really get fired just for dating an employee.

Agreed. The rules aren't readily enforced, if at all. They merely put the dating thing into the "guidelines" to make people think twice. But nothing ever comes of it, discipline wise, should you decide to pursue a work colleague. As long as they don't turn into some crazy stalker, or something.

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You know what...

 

Have you two gone out to a happy hour? What is the interaction like?

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You know what...

 

Have you two gone out to a happy hour? What is the interaction like?

 

Nope. I've been in this dept. for a month and we've yet to go out as a team. Actually it doens't seem like there's a whole lot of that going on at this company normally anyway.

 

We did go out twice during the summer, but that was when I was an intern in a different department and I barely knew who he was outside of being TT's boss.

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TT's boss.

:eek:

 

Did you mention this before? (If so, I have a comprehension problem.) Anyway, sounds like you're making your way up the chain. Let's hope that you don't have to explore your bisexual nature before you make it to the top.

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Nope. I've been in this dept. for a month and we've yet to go out as a team. Actually it doens't seem like there's a whole lot of that going on at this company normally anyway.

 

We did go out twice during the summer, but that was when I was an intern in a different department and I barely knew who he was outside of being TT's boss.

There are two parts to every story, I wonder what "boss" is?

 

I think he is interested but remember it has only been a month. Infatuation maybe? You are lonely, upset, depressed, missing friends, etc...

 

I think you need to be ok within your skin (having seen a picture of you, you have "nice" skin:bunny::lmao:)

 

I think it is best to wait this out for another month or see what the interactions are like after more than a month on the job. Go to a happy hour to see what the interactions are like before asking your boss for a transfer or a date.

 

Let's hope that you don't have to explore your bisexual nature before you make it to the top.

I think she might! I know, my bad... :o

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