9Lives Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Sometimes it can be hard to tell if you are being used by someone. I was talking to someone on LS and we thought it was a good idea to discuss this. Some people dont really know how to love, they know how to use people. So one of my definitions of being used is when a guy is havng sex with you and the minute you say you want more, he says I dont want that...I just want sex....u are being used. What else is considered using some verse caring for someone
Tony T Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 So one of my definitions of being used is when a guy is havng sex with you and the minute you say you want more, he says I dont want that...I just want sex....u are being used. What else is considered using some verse caring for someone What you define as "using" is plain and simple HONESTY!!! Now, if the guy got you into bed under false pretenses then he was using you. But if from there he tells you he doesn't want more after you ask for more, he is being VERY HONEST...and that's a good thing. If he was using you he would go along, giving you just enough goodies to keep you coming to the sack so he could use you for getting his rocks off. This guy is a saint. If this is the worst user you will every meet, you have died and gone to heaven. You ought to thank this guy for being honest with you. He could have taken you for a long, painful ride.
Author 9Lives Posted September 30, 2008 Author Posted September 30, 2008 What you define as "using" is plain and simple HONESTY!!! Now, if the guy got you into bed under false pretenses then he was using you. But if from there he tells you he doesn't want more after you ask for more, he is being VERY HONEST...and that's a good thing. If he was using you he would go along, giving you just enough goodies to keep you coming to the sack so he could use you for getting his rocks off. This guy is a saint. If this is the worst user you will every meet, you have died and gone to heaven. You ought to thank this guy for being honest with you. He could have taken you for a long, painful ride. First of all T...this did not happen to me. If it did I would admit it. Secondly, If a guy is putting his cards on the table and you want to play then no....you are not being used. The question is......sometimes you might be getting used and not realize it....how do you know if you are being used by someone. Like you said, if a guy got you thinking he wants to be with you but really it is a sex thing....that is wrong. He is using you and you dont know it.
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