lazlow99 Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Ok, this has happened to me a few times now. I'm a 20 year old guy, and fairly attractive on a good day. I don't get many girls actually approaching me (although I think more like me than say), and I'm not confident enough to be a ladies man (although I don't do too bad), but a couple of girls i've been with, and a friends girlfriend have refered to me as being gay. Each time I've been like, WTF?. My friends girlfriend said, ''You'd make a wicked gay'' another girl said ''I think you're really cute, are you gay?'' and the last girl I was with said, ''You look gay.'' And I said ''why?'' and she said ''you have a gay face, but you're a fit gay.'' Now I dress pretty normally, not extroverted or camp, and I don't act camp. I'm not a pretty boy type who straightens his hair either, so I'm guessing I'm cursed by my facial features or something? Maybe I need some stubble or a scar or something...
Isolde Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 The good news is that you probably have a sensitive demeanor which girls are mad attracted to. The bad news is that you're going to have to pursue women more than you might otherwise; obviously, if they assume you're gay, they're not going to pursue you.
Krajt Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Gay men are actually more attractive than straight and a lot of hot guys are presumed as being gay by a lot of women. Take it as a compliment, I know I would and I'd even snog another man to make them wet...some women really get off on that.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 That's a huge compliment. It means you are good looking. For some reason, gay men seem to be better looking than the average straight guy. (Don't pounce on my all at once guys, I'm just speaking in generalities). Anyway, it probably has nothing to do with how you act or behave. Unless you are gawking at men, or reading gay porn, or religiously watching Project Runway, of course.
Enema Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Maybe they're just intuitive. How sure are you that you're not gay?
KinAZ Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Are you sure there's nothing at all feminine or delicate about you? The way you sit, speak, level of excitement, and so forth? I've known guys who put off a "happy" vibe when I was much younger. Sure enough... after college and such these same guys came out. For all the girls they fancied, there was still something about their behavior. Super excited and giggling as much as I did. Anywho, if they're just saying it's your face, and you're sure that you don't get facials or have your eyebrows waxed, and you know that your barber doesn't make men look prettier than they should... it could just be delicate features and long eyelashes maybe? I've never thought a guy looked gay simply because of his face as it naturally is. Either he seemed rather "pretty" or behaved like a 16 year old girl. Are you very bashful or nervous or something? Small hands? "Pretty" features? See if you can get specifics...
burning 4 revenge Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I think you should carry a teddy bear wherever you go. I used to do that and I attracted all kinds of girls as friends. They would talk to me about everything and confide in me and when things went wrong they always asked my advice on guys and stuff. They still would play hard to get though, always
mortensorchid Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I LOOOVES me the pretty boys. Sounds like you're a pretty boy. You won't have trouble attracting women. As to worrying if you will be perceived as gay? Women KNOW if you're gay. Experienced, older women will that is, not young twentysomethings who don't know much about except what they see on TV rather than seeing / meeting people in real life.
Green Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I've seen this before it could be that you come off as gay or it could be that these girls have the hots for you so they just call you gay as a way of provoking your hetro side...
monkey00 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Maybe you're just a fashionable guy that knows how to dress well and take care of yourself physically. Unfortunately most women assume that a guy who knows how to dress is either metro or gay. I think you should play off this 'gay' facade and use it to your benefit. Pretend that you are and you could probably get really close to some of these girls, even they'll confide or complain to you about their guy problems. Eventually they'll want to get into your pants because of you being unattainable.
Green Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Maybe you're just a fashionable guy that knows how to dress well and take care of yourself physically. Unfortunately most women assume that a guy who knows how to dress is either metro or gay. I think you should play off this 'gay' facade and use it to your benefit. Pretend that you are and you could probably get really close to some of these girls, even they'll confide or complain to you about their guy problems. Eventually they'll want to get into your pants because of you being unattainable. I tried this once before girls can usualy see right through it... although I also pretended to be a soldier of Fortune and they believed that
monkey00 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I tried this once before girls can usualy see right through it... although I also pretended to be a soldier of Fortune and they believed that Well yeah, anyone that tries too hard will likely come off as fish out of water. Maybe the way to solve his problem is to get a beer belly or something...thus making him unfit:lmao:
Isolde Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I think you should carry a teddy bear wherever you go. I used to do that and I attracted all kinds of girls as friends. They would talk to me about everything and confide in me and when things went wrong they always asked my advice on guys and stuff. They still would play hard to get though, always HAHAHA! *snorts in laughter* Seriously, that isn't far from the truth. I love a guy who can show a bit (not too much, obviously) of vulnerability.
Krajt Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I wore a David Hasselhoff Tee and not woman came upto me and asked if I was gay.
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