Sawyer Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 We were together a year and a half but been split up now for about 2 months, was sort of a mutual thing at the time but then i regreted it and tried to get her back but i couldnt. The main problems were arguments, and the fact since i finished uni i still havent got a job. She started saying she would maybe want to get back with me in the future when i sorted myself out and became happier with myself? but that was right at the start of the break up so i dont think it applys anymore. Now ive been leaving her alone except for the odd email to each other for the last month or so because she needed space to sort her head out, but i went round to see how she was today. When i rang her doorbell she took ages to answer so i started walking back home and she ran out and up the street to shout me back and we gave each other a hug. Once i was inside the house she seemed like she didnt want me there and made up some excuse so i could go, but i managed to talk to her for a about 20 minutes and she seemed quite happy with it even though i could tell she was a bit stressed about me being there. I dunno what im asking here but i just want peoples opinions why she wouldnt want to be friends anymore after everything we used to have together, because we really did love each other. I think part of me is annoyed because i feel like i didnt mean as much to her as i thought if she can cut me out of her life so easily, because i know i couldnt cut her out of mine. I know nobody here knows her so only she really knows whats going on inside her head but i was just wondering if anyone has got any advice how i can get her to be friends again before to much time passes and we get to distant. Also could any girls try understand why shes acting like this because i cant get my head round why she would want to cut me out of her life completely, even though im sure weve both accepted we wont be together as a couple again.
Simplycaroline Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 So in other words because your life is not progressing the way that she thinks she broke up with you? Honey focus on yourself and making friends with peiple that understand that it takes time to get employment after graduation and that times are tough now. You are not established yet but you will be someday. You do not need people in it that are dependent upon you "sorting yourself out" before they sort themselves out.
Author Sawyer Posted September 30, 2008 Author Posted September 30, 2008 Nah there were other problems like the arguments and it all got to much for both of us really, but saying that i still love her and want her in my life as a friend. Im just finding it really hard to get my head around her being able to cut me out of her life so easily. I asked her straight out if she loved me, if she didnt it would be cool and ill give her space and then we can be friends after. She told me she didnt love me anymore. I dont even expect any answers really i just dont see why she wouldnt want to be friends when we get on so good and she doesnt have any emotional feelings left for me so it should work.
Simplycaroline Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Nah there were other problems like the arguments and it all got to much for both of us really, but saying that i still love her and want her in my life as a friend. Im just finding it really hard to get my head around her being able to cut me out of her life so easily. I asked her straight out if she loved me, if she didnt it would be cool and ill give her space and then we can be friends after. She told me she didnt love me anymore. I dont even expect any answers really i just dont see why she wouldnt want to be friends when we get on so good and she doesnt have any emotional feelings left for me so it should work. I think that I get it now. I do not believe that it is easy for her. No contact is difficult but staying friends with an ex in the beginning is more difficult for some people. Just give her some time and she will possibly call you again.
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