lofi_tokyo Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Hi everyone! I read these forums A LOT. I don't know everyones age here, and its impossible to measure one persons level of love or heartbreak from another persons... but I've decided to ATTEMPT to put up a feel good post to get college kids (like me!) to move past a breakup, and see the beauty of just LIVING. Some parts of this may apply to many people, not just college kids... but as it stands, I havnt grown up enough to really know if this will be useful for anyone else. Its gonna be LONG because I have a lot of happy to share! First, let me tell you a bit about my outlook on life. I think its ****ing beautiful. You know why? Because life needs happiness and it needs sadness. The two work together. Personally, I believe sadness is just as beautiful as happiness because its like… a sign that you had something wonderful in your life, something so amazing that without it being around, you feel incredible pain. Maybe that sounds backwards but… just think… you had something no one else had, you felt an incredible magic, even if it lasted for a short time, and you held the world in your hands. It may be gone now, but that’s okay, because nothing lasts forever, if it did, we wouldn’t be able to appreciate having had it. And you know, some of the most romantic, sentimental poetry and artistic expressions of emotion, have come out of heartbreak, so it can’t be all that bad? Also, if we didn’t feel these waves of surging emotion, wouldn’t life be incredibly dull? Okay great. Maybe you agree with me, or maybe you don’t but that still hasn’t fixed things… huh? I think the first step in getting over a break up, no matter how terrible, is actively making the choice to move on. Be happy. That doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to break down and cry now and then, I definitely have my moments… but you need to just… see the beauty in the world. Seriously. It is never too late for change. If you get out there, motivate yourself to try something new, you can inspire positive change not only in your own life, but maybe even in the lives of others. I know its hard… I mean, when you’re hurting, its hard to get out of bed, let alone change the world lol. But… try it. Make a goal for yourself. If you’re in college classes, get to class early and sit near someone you don’t know. Say hi, maybe ask what they think of the class so far. You never know, you may end up having a great conversation with this person, or at the very least, make a new buddy to sit next to in class. You may actually start looking forward to school, to getting up and moving on, because you’ll have people to talk to and smile with! If you’re down on your self-esteem… well let me tell you something. If you’re on these forums because you’re hurting and an emotional wreak… well, you already have on fan. Me. You’re putting your emotions up on the internet; reaching out to people you will probably never know very much about, nearly complete strangers. But you’re doing it because you want to connect with people; you want someone to talk to. Not everyone can do that. A lot of people keep things bottled up inside… so let me tell you, you’re already one step ahead of a ton of people in my eyes. And you know what else? I believe each and every person reading this forum has the ability to be confident and sexy. The most amazing gift you can share with the world is yourself, your stories, your smiles, your friendship, your love. Everyone here has that. Maybe you don’t think you’re the social type, or maybe you don’t think you’d have anything interesting to say… but trust me, you do. I’m not saying you have to be a social person either. Sometimes its nice just to be your own person. Do what feels good for you. Okay this is getting long… I’m going to write a better version later that’s a bit less sappy, a bit better written (I’m an English Honors Major for godsake!). But lately, my heart has been bursting with like, love of life and wanting to share it with you guys, so I’m going to post this up now, and move on to homework, make this post cooler later. [FONT=Wingdings][/FONT]
Katherineos123 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 I absolutely agree with and love everything you've written, and sometimes it just takes someone else, a total stranger even, to remind you how wonderful life can be! Thank you, your post put a smile on my face and a tear in my eye all at the same time... a perfect illustration of the dichotomy of life's losses and gains that you so elegantly speak of. Oh, and by the way, I dont think you should re-write your post. This is whats its all about, raw ranting. Being a recent grad myself, I understand your need for college level authorship, but sometimes its more effective without it! xoxo
Author lofi_tokyo Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 Hehehe thanks I really just want people to like.. be happy. Because I think we all can be if we actively choose to change our mentality on life.
kizik Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 I like your post, and I appreciate the time you took to write it. That said, things are not so simple. I am an optimist by nature, but there's only so much alone-ness I can tolerate before I get bummed. As far as being outgoing, I do many of the things you mentioned, including striking up conversations w/ strangers, etc. When you're the best person you can be, and you still get nothing from anyone else, you can't help but feel under-appreciated. Your happy attitude is great, but I'm willing to venture that you have some special people in your life that make a world of difference. And not all of us do. -Killjoy
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