Rob929 Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Alright well first of all thanks for taking the time to read this. what im basically trying to figure out is another point of view on what im going through with this group of people i work with. but first a lil background. Im 18(well turn 18 tommorow), im really shy and i have no real experience with dating, barely even talked to girls before i started working with this group. But anyways i've worked with this group for a lil under two years and i've been the only guy that has actually lasted for more than 2 weeks. We've all jumped ship from one job to another and we all know eachothers life story, they all know me better than i know myself. We always are joking around and all that fun stuff, rarely ever leave there without a smile on my face and same with them. So lately i've been really talking a lot to one of the girls at my work that just broke up with her BF. Every time we walk past eachother we either push one another or just make some witty remark to keep us on our toes. But the thing is i can't tell how she feels about me, she's been trying to get me to go out with a friend of hers but the thing is i like her. I want to say she likes me due to just the way she acts around me like just the physical nature in which she acts and she always points out when were working together and all that jazz. The thing is though she is still in that transitition stage between the breakup and being considered single( her BF wants to get back together but she doesnt, at least thats whats i've been hearing, shes a tad stand offish about that kind of stuff but she usually ends up giving up a lil info to me about whats happening) and well i would really love to go out with her, be it just bring her to a movie or something but between just my shyness and well my lack of self-confidence when it comes to this stuff. Then the other factor is we work with eachother 2-3 times a week and if i asked her about something like that i wouldn't want any akwardness in the workplace, granted i am thinking about leaving where im working and going to a resuraunt and well start learning the tricks of the business(i wanna open a resturaunt someday) but i also dont want to leave and risk losing my friendship with this group(not losing the friendship, but losing touch if ya get what i mean) so i dont know, i just want an outside perspective, i hope i gave enough info but i will be on the site and can answer any questions or anything at all. I tried looking for a similar topic on multiple forums and well, it seems as if you guys are just overall the most helpful. I hope to see some responses. thanks in advances
D-D Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 I'd be inclined to think she may not be interested if she is trying to play matchmaker with one of her friends and you. Plus she just got out of a recenet relationship and may not want to date right now. I think only you can say whether she is interested or not, and there is only one way to know for sure. If you ask her out, she could say yes. If she won't go out it could make things akward at work. It could also be akward at work if you go out and it doesn't work out. I've gone out with co-workers before. It's always akward to some level, but you can keep a positive work relationship afterwards. Personally, if you are seriously interested in the girl I'd take the chance and ask her out (nothing can happen unless you try). I'd never let the fact that someone is a co-worker stop me from asking her out if I was interested. Most people would probably disagree with me and say to avoid work relationships. The way I see it, kids date each other in HS and survive, so how is the workplace that different? Just my $0.02!
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