Touche Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Well, hitting on someone usually implies with the intention to date. Flirting might be a better description. I agree with the other posters that they do it because you're safe, cute and there's no risk of rejection. Exactly. I agree with this.
Author kashmir Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 Sorry, I just saw this. But above you said "could they be any more direct?" What does that mean? Again, different definitions of 'hit on.' As shadowplay said, flirting is a better word to use. I don't think there was any question that they were flirting. And "get to my head"? Touche, you're making me sound like I'm fawning after some woman in her 60's, lol. Just as you don't even THINK about considering younger guys, I don't even think about considering a woman that old. It creeps me out just thinking about it...
Trialbyfire Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Okay kashmir, I get it now. You wish that more girls your age would flirt with you, even though you enjoy the attention and tips given by 30 - 40-somethings. Point blank, girls in their teens and early to mid-twenties don't have the confidence to flirt lightly. Of course there are some pretty bold ones but most often, they overdo it or bumble through it.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 i also go with the safe route. I have said some extremely flattering things to gay men that I would NEVER say to a straight man simply because I know it won't go anywhere.
Touche Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Again, different definitions of 'hit on.' As shadowplay said, flirting is a better word to use. I don't think there was any question that they were flirting. And "get to my head"? Touche, you're making me sound like I'm fawning after some woman in her 60's, lol. Just as you don't even THINK about considering younger guys, I don't even think about considering a woman that old. It creeps me out just thinking about it... Ok, gotcha. I do see what you're saying now.
Author kashmir Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 Ok, gotcha. I do see what you're saying now. Awesome.
pretty professional Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 OK I think you need to get over yourself. These women are just being flirty and friendly, they aren't "hitting" on you. They don't want to date you or take you home.
Touche Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 OK I think you need to get over yourself. These women are just being flirty and friendly, they aren't "hitting" on you. They don't want to date you or take you home. OUCH! (But yeah...)
Author kashmir Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 OK I think you need to get over yourself. These women are just being flirty and friendly, they aren't "hitting" on you. They don't want to date you or take you home. Again, missing my point. I know they're just being flirty. What I'm asking is why do only older women flirt with me instead of women my age...ones who I CAN and WILL consider dating.
Eve Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Again, missing my point. I know they're just being flirty. What I'm asking is why do only older women flirt with me instead of women my age...ones who I CAN and WILL consider dating. I hear you Kashmir.. I understand a little of what you are saying because I have younger men flirting with me because they are unaware of my age. Of course I let them down kindly. Essentially, I am 36 but still get asked for ID when buying alcohol and people simply do not believe that my children are really my children, they always think that we are sisters! Even the Teachers at School have questioned me when I go to Parents evenings! I would say that you could use the situation to your advantage. For example, if the ladies are pretty good looking and intelligent you have a brief idea of what their daughters are like. You are going to have to come up with ways to get across that you are single and you are looking for someone right now. I think that these older ladies see something in you.. their flirting is an indication of this but I dont think they are pervs. Even though I am not allowed to get involved in my childrens love lives I always take note of hot young men or women who I think they would be interested in!! Funnily enough they do usually agree with my comments but the two eldest are not that interested in relationships because of their work and Schooling committments. So, this may be a cosmic opportunity to meet someone... you never know... The more opportunities the better I say. Oh, BTW, 'shy' is sooooooo cute - especially if you are a bit geeky too. I tell my children to accept nothing less than geek. You'lll be alright.. I just hope that one of these ladies is as devious as I and invite their daughter/Granddaughter to dinner at your place of work.
Lizzie60 Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 I was writing something for another thread, and it made me wonder... When I'm out in public settings, usually at my job (I'm a waiter), I get hit on by women a lot, but NEVER by women my age or close to my age (I'm 19). It's always a woman who's at least in her 50's or 60's. They're usually pretty direct too. One woman even said on her way out, "Has anyone ever told you that you look like a movie star?" Another one once mistook me for the manager, so I told her, "Sorry maam, but I'm just a waiter." She responds, "No...you're not just a waiter...you're too handsome to be just a waiter." Then tonight I got, "Wow, you're really sharp. I'm surprised...most young men with your looks tend to be pretty dull." I'm very flattered when this happens (plus it boosts the tips ), believe me, I'm not complaining...and it happens at least once a night...but why are only older women attracted to me?! Do I have some kind of look and personality that was really attractive 30-40 years ago and is suddenly mediocre or unattractive? It'd be nice for a hot girl to come in and be interested in me for a change. Maybe they were hitting on you. .maybe not.. I think that a lot of men tend to imagine they're being hit on when women are just nice with them.. I've seen that sooo many times. In your case, it,s hard to say.. there is more than just the 'words' it's also about the way they look at you.. but then again. .you can imagine a lot of things.. I'm an older woman that sleep only with younger men.. some really much much younger.. and I DON'T (rarely) hit on any of them..unless they have already showed interest... (flirt, etc) they hit on me..
Krajt Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 I worked as a waiter and no older women ever hit on me, not even women in their mid 20's, thirties or forties hit on me at all. The only girls I attracted where the more aggressive types who were around my age and gay men. I guess you're more attractive than to me, ergo these younger women do not flirt with you, because as someone else said, they do not feel safe. Older women will, because realistically a 50 year isn't going to want a 19 year old man. Just soak it up and maybe one day, a hot cougar will show you a fun time.
Author kashmir Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 I think that a lot of men tend to imagine they're being hit on when women are just nice with them.. I've seen that sooo many times. Ha, not me. I'm soooo skeptical about women liking me . I always convince myself that they're just being nice. I'm so oblivious to flirting, but in a case like this it's pretty obvious that they were flirting. Again, not 'hitting on' me, just flirting. And I'll say it one last time...THESE WOMEN ARE TOO OLD, I don't desire them! At all! When I'm past my 40's they'll be attractive to me, but seriously, I'm not even 20 yet!
a4a Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Ha, not me. I'm soooo skeptical about women liking me . I always convince myself that they're just being nice. I'm so oblivious to flirting, but in a case like this it's pretty obvious that they were flirting. Again, not 'hitting on' me, just flirting. And I'll say it one last time...THESE WOMEN ARE TOO OLD, I don't desire them! At all! When I'm past my 40's they'll be attractive to me, but seriously, I'm not even 20 yet! ok as an old biotch that teases the hell out of young men I can tell you we have no interest in forming a relationship with you. We have already snagged enough young bucks..... but a little teasing is our way of having fun. We don't care if you don't find our saggy boobies attractive. Why would we. You're just eye candy and something to do at the moment. You reach a certain age and you are entitled to say what is on your mind. :lmao:
Author kashmir Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 we have no interest in forming a relationship with you. Neither do I. Knowing I gave some old woman some eye candy or enjoyment for a bit is enough fun for me too.
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