RogueAC Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 It feels like everyone in my life is either getting engaged or having a baby. Yesterday my best friend asked me to be her maid of honor and all I can do is cry. She was afraid to ask me right now because this break up was so hard on me. I feel bitter and selfish because all these great things are happening to people I love and I am struggling to remain upbeat and positive. I want to be a loving and supportive friend but today is just hard. I really want to break nc and call the ex so I am posting here instead.
Intergalactic Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 good on you for posting here instead, first of all. and i just want to say, no matter how cliche it sounds, that it WILL be you someday. maybe not now, maybe not soon, but one day. because you obviously have a lot of love to give, and because of that, i really believe you will find someone who will love you the same back. i know that sounds really lame but whatever
sunshinegirl Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 It feels like everyone in my life is either getting engaged or having a baby. Yesterday my best friend asked me to be her maid of honor and all I can do is cry. She was afraid to ask me right now because this break up was so hard on me. I feel bitter and selfish because all these great things are happening to people I love and I am struggling to remain upbeat and positive. I want to be a loving and supportive friend but today is just hard. I really want to break nc and call the ex so I am posting here instead. (((hugs))) I had to be a bridesmaid in two weddings not long after my first relationship ended (this was 7 years ago). It was excruciating. I had to plaster a fake smile on my face and keep all my crying on the inside - I was so envious and upset and missing my ex... it all seemed so unfair. There's not much to get you through except realizing that yep, that will be you one day. In the meantime, it sucks - BUT, the happiness you're going to experience will be out of this world. That has helped me, anyway.
Author RogueAC Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 i really believe you will find someone who will love you the same back. i know that sounds really lame but whatever IG, Not lame at all! Thanks for the support. I was able to make it through the weekend and maintained NC. This was the hardest weekend since the break up-- and it has been almost two months! I think it was especially difficult because I was already missing the ex and feeling angry that my relationship ended so poorly. Lame is that I still want to share good news an ex. The couple that got engaged is awesome and their relationship really works. Great communication, etc. If I am honest, the hardest part is not that they got engaged but the fact that they have a realistic second chance story... i.e. they broke up like two years ago because the relationship stopped growing, they worked on their issues separately and realized during their time apart that the other was the "right person." They came back together stronger, more committed and actively worked on the relationship since that day. I didn't realize until now how much "their story" affected me. (((hugs))) BUT, the happiness you're going to experience will be out of this world. That has helped me, anyway. Thanks SSG, this will help me too. Luckily, the wedding won't be for a year; and phew, the 10 couples I know that are pregnant, I get a few more months on those babies too.
Sysyphus28 Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 It is lame when you want to share anything good with your ex. Tell them to turn on the radio for a good song, or catch a good concert in the city, or that you had some success at work or in your life.. two months is good. POST HERE don't call anyone. We all need to set examples for eachother and practice NC. It is for the sake of mental health and self-preservation. It is not healthy to not have power over your emotions and to let someone else's reactions or actions to control you. Stay strong.
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