spiritual girl Posted August 21, 2003 Posted August 21, 2003 He broke up with me because: I go out with my sister I don't call I don't ask him to go out We had a few arguements this month He said I do not put him as a priority. Maybe I didn't call so much, but he did... I don't ask him to go out cos he always planned that... I saw him once or twice during the week and all weekends- except about 6-7 fridays out of 9 months of togetherness when I went out with my sister. We talked and decided together to work through the arguements-they weren't even that many and over little things. Everyone said we were so in love. He said he was so in love and saw a future for us-last week. I told him I loved him but he never seemed to quite believe me. Now he said he didn't love me and felt sorry for me- broke up with me when he called and I was in a cafe with my sister-he came and found me there and broke up with me. I was always there for him, listened to him, stroked him. It was always beautiful when we were together. All cosy, loving with a connection. He had started changing over the past few weeks, but we always talked, held eachother but during the week or when we were not together he always seemed angry at with me. Like it was building up and I never really knew why. And tonight I was going to call him to ask him to talk about the now, and if there was anything that bothered him so we could resolve it together. But tonight he called wanting to see me, got annoyed that I was out and came there to pull me to one side in the cafe to tell me what I mentioned above, that I go out with my sister I don't call I don't ask him to go out We had a few arguements this month He said I do not put him as a priority. Do you think that me not calling him too much did it? I do not usually chase guys around, I suppose i could have made more effort...but lately I did not have many credits in my phone and he had free calls... I installed a homeline but calling his cell phone would have cost me too much too. I must admit I was budgeting a bit. But I did used to text him nearly every other day but sometimes it tapered off... Do phonecalls matter that much when you are together physically and you are both happy? Also, when he got a bit distant and angry these past few weeks I did not chase after him, thinking he needed space plus he had a busy schedule. After all, when we were together it was all love...
Jamie31 Posted August 21, 2003 Posted August 21, 2003 I was always there for him, listened to him, stroked him. Maybe you should quit stroking him and take it to the next level!!! Seriously, maybe this is just a case of mis-communication. Maybe you aren't putting forth the effort to make him feel appreciated, and therefore he thinks that he comes 2nd to a lot of things in your life. Why don't you plan a nice, romantic evening for the two of you and make it really special. Just show him that you do care about him, but try to explain that there are other important things in your life. But make sure he knows that he is important to you and you care about him a lot. I think a romantic evening and then a good hearty boink fest should do the trick.
Ryan Posted August 21, 2003 Posted August 21, 2003 I'm guessing he had other reasons....and the ones he gave are less brutal than the truth. I'm thinking you walk away from this as-is. He's no longer interested...and that's the best answer you can get.
spiritual girl Posted August 21, 2003 Posted August 21, 2003 Thanx Ryan, I am glad to know that I din't lose him because I did not call so much and didn't ask him to go out. They did seem like silly reasons to me...but just had to be sure so I don't mess up my next relationship for the same silly reasons... And Jamie31, we made love too, was just too shy to mention it. He loved the stroking btw, he was addicted to it.
yes Posted August 21, 2003 Posted August 21, 2003 those reasons sound silly to me, too. most likely, the relationship just didn't feel right anymore, so he thought of some reasons to justify it. goes back to the idea that people make emotional decisions, and then look for ways to rationalize for them. good luck, -yes
Recommended Posts