lattimershotgun Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Ok here is a new one. I come on here like every couple years it seems with a new crazy girl story. For some reason I attract younger girls with mental problems. They are usually liars or depressed as hell or some sorta combo. I get a lot of insecure attention whores as well. Overall dating always sucks for me and I am kinda take breaks from it on occasion and then go back to it just to find more crazy girls. Ok so here is the new problem. Keep in mind she is 20 (21 in 3 months) and I am 27. I met this girl online on a dating site we talked on there and soon took it to yahoo messenger. She erased her account on the site and we continued to talk lots on messenger. She lives in my state because of school but was back in her home state during the spring and summer. Well we talked on and off during that time online and some on the phone. She and I for awhile talked a lot and she would text me nonstop about being excited to see me when she got back home. Well their was a month of it siliencing a lil bit but then she got back to school and it picked back up. Now we talk on the phone everyday and she texts alot and such. Here is where it gets weird and very typical of my situations... We planned on going out for the first time on saturday the past weekend and friday night she texts me after i get out of work. She is at some college party and wants me to come up. She gives the phone to her friend to give me directions but the friend hangs up. The friend then texts me saying my girl is passing out. I asked the friend to keep an I on here cause they were around a bunch of frat dudes. The friend sends me some rediculous texts about letting (my girl) get raped. I was flipping out asking what she ment and she went on to say she wont remember her first time and rape isnt a big deal. All this weird ****. I of course felt helpless and didn't know where they were. Long story short the next day the girl im talking to went to the hospital to have a rape kit and it turns out her roommate set up her to get raped. So her roommate is crazy ad ****ed up and set her up to get raped. She also torments her and does all types of weird stuff to her. My girl before any of this happened deals with depression and stress and talks about wanting to die sometimes and says she cuts her self. I of course am used to all of this because from my experience this is how about 80% of girls act even if its just words haha. I deal with girls like this alot. Back to the story now since the rape obviously we didn't hangout the next day which I totally understand. Her parents flew in and she is depressed and talks about bad stuff to herself more now. She is crying a lot and then laughing the next when we talk. I can cheer her up but it fades fast when I get off the phone with her. The roommate is still in the house because she threated the girl im talking. So my chick is all scared and insecure and doesn't know what to do and wont go to the police and her parents yell at her and make it worse. It seems horrible for her to deal with all of this. This weekend we were just going to chill and relax and get a movie and talk some to make her feel better. I said lets just chill as friends at first and take it easy because i knew all of this would stress her and she just needs someone to listen to her. Problem is she was ready ready ready and then the day of she cancels and gets all upset. Which i can understand considering what just happened to her the previous week. She seems to have a lot of mental issues and here is the cynical part of me coming out but since I do not have any proof of any of this really happening part of me doesn't fully believe her. I hate to sound mean or uncaring but some of it doesn't add up. Also from my past experiences with girls making **** up about being raped or attacked and hurt it is hard for me to believe her totally. I almost feel like she just wants some attention and knows if we actually hangout I will see some of it is bull****. Like the roommate might not even have done anything to her or she is just covering something else up. Do my thoughts seem justified and should I just run far away as possible from this one? It seems I never find out how they really are till after a couple months and then the mental issues and problems pop up. I hate to say it but even though part of me feels bad for her part of me cant forgive her for ditching me two weeks in a row. I know she is justified if her story is real but its just from so many girls pulling weird **** like this on me in the past its hard to always believe excuses. I don't say any of this to her and of course try to support her but it hard when she is so confused an depressed. Welcome to my life of dating!
Lucky_One Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I am not a lot of help to you for what you are going though. But I would suggest that you take your cell to the police so that they can get proof of the texts that her housemate sent to you. I think they can be pulled off your phone memory even if you have deleted them. Matter of fact, I wouldn't delete them now, bc that could be considered destroying evidence in a criminal case. This girl, regardless of if you ever meet her or if you ever have any other sort of relationship with you, is a friend to you, and she does deserve your support in her criminal case, even if you don't take the friendship any further. Her parents need to be taking a stronger stance in her rooming situation, I think, but I certainly don't know the whole story. Has the boy involved been arrested? Charges filed?
D-Lish Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 No, you're not wrong to question such things. I am female- and I have seen girls do some crazy horrible things in my day. I've known compulsive liars, attention whores, cruel girls (often all three atributes wrapped up in one person). I was recently talking to a friends younger brother- who is 21, and he has little experience with love and relationships. He has been dating a girl that has a similar dramatic character as the girl you describe. She tells outrageous stories and is always involved in something dramatic. The stories are so outrageous and there are so many of them, even she can't keep her lies straight.... But he feels sorry for her and doesn't believe that a person would ever intentionally lie and manipulate. She's claimed being stalked by her rapist, having a fatal illness, her ex bf still comes by and beats her up.... the list goes on. I've warned him he's going to get hurt.... but he just doesn't believe anyone could have such a personality. So, yes, I believe you have a right to be suspicious. Sometimes when things seem to outrageous to be true... you have to be suspicious. Especially since you haven't actually met her in person yet. It's not to say these things are not true- but I have met people like this in my life... many, in fact. Never be afraid to pay attention to your gut.
Author lattimershotgun Posted September 30, 2008 Author Posted September 30, 2008 no the boy hasn't been arrested and the parents haven't pressed charges. According to her she sat out front the police station but coudln't get the nerve to go in. She supposedly went alone even though her parents are staying in a hotel by her place now.. I would think they would go with her if she told them what happened like she claims to have. Something seems fishy and now she is crying every night about lil stuff. She has new drama every night. sounds like way too much baggage huh?
D-Lish Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 no the boy hasn't been arrested and the parents haven't pressed charges. According to her she sat out front the police station but coudln't get the nerve to go in. She supposedly went alone even though her parents are staying in a hotel by her place now.. I would think they would go with her if she told them what happened like she claims to have. Something seems fishy and now she is crying every night about lil stuff. She has new drama every night. sounds like way too much baggage huh? Definetely too much drama. It would be enough to make me step away. It seems like a lot of work- and a lot of obstacles in place getting in the way of you meeting with her.
Recommended Posts