D-Lish Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 If he moved 2 months ago, he has probably developed some friendships with people. No one can say for sure if there is another girl in the picture. It truly could be a case of a change of heart. When I was that age I was all over the map with how I felt about things and what I wanted. Boys that age were the same way. I don't know of ANYONE I went to highschool with that ended up staying with and marrying their highschool bf/gf. Same goes for college and university- none of those couples ended up staying together. That time bewteen 15-25 is full of changes and new experiences, it's such a tumultuous time in a young persons life. Feelings and convictions fluctuate so often. He truly could wish to just experience his new surroundings as a single person. That doesn't mean dating other girls necessarily... but perhaps his priorities have been shifting over the past couple months and he needs a break from being in a serious relationship. Your best course of action is to cease all contact with him. Turn the tables on him. Don't pick up when he calls- don't text or call him... just give him space and concentrate on looking after you.
Author aimeeg Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 I am doing that. I'm not calling, he isn't calling either which just makes the pain hurt more. But I think you're right. I think he is just young and doesn't know what he wants. I was just so sure he was the one. And he acted so in love with me and said he was, I know he was. I just don't understand how he changed so fast.
D-Lish Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I am doing that. I'm not calling, he isn't calling either which just makes the pain hurt more. But I think you're right. I think he is just young and doesn't know what he wants. I was just so sure he was the one. And he acted so in love with me and said he was, I know he was. I just don't understand how he changed so fast. I know it won't help how you're feeling currently- but I will share with you that I have had that same feelings about 5, maybe 6 guys in my life. I married one of them... and divorced him. I know what it's like to be young and fall in love with someone. Teenagers truly do experience feelings more intensely. But you're also resiliant, and bouncing back will happen. It's easy to fall into the trap of staying in contact, seeking further answers, trying to put the pieces together...wanting the comfort of remaining in contact with the person that you've been more than best friends with for the past year and a bit. The truth is, you probably won't ever truly know why he suddenly became cold. I don't think this is the last time you'll hear from him. I've learned from experience (and making mistakes)... that when you ignore someone...it messes with them a bit. Even if they are the one that did the breaking up. Once he can't get a hold of you, he'll start to wonder what you are up to. Every guy I have broken up with since I started dating after my marriage has eventually gotten back in touch with me when I went into ignore mode. It's better not hearing their voice and listening to them proclaim they don't feel the same as they used to. That does you no good hearing that, it will only make you feel worse. Good for you for not calling. It's tough I know. But it will help you feel better quicker.
djhall Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 And yes, that is my real face But I think I am very ugly! :/ WHAT?! No, definitely not ugly. Plenty of guys find you very attractive, no question about it. What would ever give you that idea? Do you think you have a self-esteem issue or just a bad mirror? And he acted so in love with me and said he was, I know he was. I just don't understand how he changed so fast. I know you don't want to hear this, but 15 year old boys change fast, primarily because they don't know what they are doing or what they want yet... everything is still too new. He may have found another girl closer to him, he may have cheated and is too afraid to tell you, he may have gotten spooked that he is not even 16 and already getting himself committed to one person. or maybe he just woke up one morning with another hormone surge and made a 180 change. Whatever the reason, you can't control his actions and you can't really expect a 15 year old boy to make a good long-term-relationship partner.
Vertex Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 I do want to commend you, aimeeg, for handling it all so maturely at such a young age. Holding firm to the concept of not contacting him is extremely hard to do, and for someone who has had a year-long relationship already at that age, it's remarkable that you seem to be able to follow through with it all. But, yeah, people date all the time -- well past the teens, into their 20's, 30's, 40's, etc, and hinging it all on a 15-year-old boy is just not realistic. Hell, even people my age don't know what they want yet. I'm still waiting for people to solidify in their desires a bit, even at 21.
Author aimeeg Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 Yes I have self esteem issues djhall. I have for a very long time. I've never been able to accept that I am beautiful. I just do not see it. And vertext, I am very mature for my age. People tell me that all the time. I don't know why or how but I am. And I just want see myself with someone else! This is very very hard. We had a very cute "date" too! It was July 7, 2007, which is 7/7/07. I miss that date. I don't see how things fell apart so fast.
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