beautiful_stranger Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 He asked "when are you buying me coffee?" out of the blue, when i never "owed" him coffee in the first place. Is it strange? Is he being cowardly, non-committal, or is it some sort of game? Any of you blokes out there done this before?
TigerCub Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Without much on the history of your relationship with this guy, its pretty hard to make a call on what he might be trying to do. Is he just a random guy you've met? Is he a friend/co-worker?
CommitmentPhobe Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I do this sometimes get a girl to buy me a drink it's a good laugh Why read into it so much?
Author beautiful_stranger Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 Without much on the history of your relationship with this guy, its pretty hard to make a call on what he might be trying to do. Is he just a random guy you've met? Is he a friend/co-worker? Is a friend of mine, i'm just sorta interested in him and think that he knows. But i also know that he recently really liked this other girl who he didnt eventually get together with.. and before that, he was playing the field a bit, i.e. casually dated a number of girls.. so im really unsure what he's trying to do now.. o.O
Author beautiful_stranger Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 I do this sometimes get a girl to buy me a drink it's a good laugh Why read into it so much? Normally, im okay with it. But with this guy, because im interested in him, i dont want to get hurt by getting the wrong idea, i.e. assume that he is interested only to find out he's merely seeking the thrill of flirtation or just being friendly...
CommitmentPhobe Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Normally, im okay with it. But with this guy, because im interested in him, i dont want to get hurt by getting the wrong idea, i.e. assume that he is interested only to find out he's merely seeking the thrill of flirtation or just being friendly... Well your options are 1. Go out with him for coffee 2. Sit around wondering People often (in my experience) over-estimate the fallout that happens if someone you're interested in turns out to be not interested. You have to take these risks if you want to find out and you're not made of glass and going to break if it doesn't go your way.
Walk Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I agree with CommitmentPhobe. The big regrets I have in my life are from not doing anything. The times I've taken the risk (ask the guy out or whatever), even if he wasn't interested I bounced back really quickly. Not that it wasn't a bit of a ding to my pride but it actually hurt far less then pining over a guy from afar. I've had guys ask me to ask them out. Actually, my H started our relationship that way.
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