nopainnogain Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Its been 7 months since the split and 7 months N/C. I have come a long way. I dont have any intense feelings for her anymore. I was thinkin of sending a "happy b-day " text. I know i know, wtf for ,right? I am not looking for anything but i wouldnt turn down friendship(aquintence) if she offered it. But i dont expect anything from her. So I think a b-day text would be harmless:confused: enough time has passed and I am moving on in life quite fine. Like my mom always told me tho, never have bad blood with any one because u never know what the future holds. And since I am starting my electrical contracting co. it migh be good for buisness. Maybe she will need electrical work later or have associates that are potential cli-n-tell. I am not jonsing for customers but the more the better. either way, I genuinly want to wish her a happy b-day . And if I do i will do so not expecting a response. If she does respond thats cool too. What do u all think:confused: thanks
Intergalactic Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 yeah, why not?! if you don't think it will set you back and you're genuinely interested in a friendship, i definitely think you should go for it.
Peter_pan Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 erm... dude. whats the point? also you would have to be living in an extremely small community if you believe she would hold a key to more clients. why should you contact her? did she wish you a happy bday this year? personally i wouldn't bother my ex didnt wish me a happy bday. so next jan when its hers i have 0 intention of wishing her one.
wareagle Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Don't do it man!!! You will open up the lines of communication. It's not worth it.. Would she do the same for you? You've come a long way why take the chance "even if it is a small one" that it might set you back?
CaliGuy Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I vote NO! Stick to NC. There is no reason to have a friendship with her. It's been 7 months and she hasn't reached out to you. What would be the point? And what can she offer as a friend that another friend can not? Answer? Nothing.
westernxer Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Maybe she will need electrical work later or have associates that are potential cli-n-tell. No she won't.
jerbear Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 What do u all think:confused: Nope. Bad blood or not, does not mean you have to say hi. Not having bad blood means you'll help a fellow human being and hold no grudges. It does not mean you have to send a birthday card or call to an ex.
ninjaturtles Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Did she contact you on your birthday? If she did, then maybe you could wish her happy bday. However, keep it short and don't expect any re-ignition of flames etc. If she ignored you on your birthday, I doubt you should contact her.
D-Lish Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I wouldn't send the text. I agree with everyone else. There really is little point in it now. I have no bad blood with most of my ex's- but I wouldn't be sending clients thier way either. It's easy to say you are in a good emotional position to do so because you have moved on. But what if a dialogue starts up? What if she doesn't respond. I don't think any of us TRULY send something NOT hoping for a response. Deep down, I think you'd be somewhat disappointed if she does not respond. you've been doing so well with the NC. Texting her on a special occasion just isn't necessary- and you really don't know how you'll truly feel after sending it. I've done such things- and it served to set me back- even if it was just a small setback... I vote no, don't acknowledge the b-day. An ex of mine sent me a text a couple days ago saying happy b-day (um- it's not for another 10 days)... and all it made me feel was a bit smug. He broke the contact first! I didn't text him back.
BackonTrack Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Dude, I can't believe your thinking about contacting her. She cheated on you twice. Once with your best friend. Once with her co-worker whom she gave a blow job too. She lied to you for months. She wrecked your vechile & did a whole bunch of ****. I will list them in case you have forgotten. ---- -She also crashed my car.(1982 pontiac trans am metallic blue on TT2s) -Before she crashed it she scratched,dented(accident),kicked,and broke my windshield - Would take her out ,treat her great then when we get home she would fall asleep -in the closet alcholic(didnt find out till the end) -threw pizza at me -slapped me for the passenger seat being moved when she got in the car(thought i had chicks in there,jelous:confused:) -verbally abused me -lie over BS.... ---- Forget about her dude, you know she's no good.
Author nopainnogain Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 unfortunantly before I read most the responses I have already sent the txt. She responded "thank you so so much ,that made me happy. " I think the main reason I sent it is because It really was a big day for us the last 7 years.Plus, my b-day is in one month and If she wishes me a happy b-day on my b-day and I didnt on hers I would feel a little bad. But I dont think she will . We shall see. I dont expect it tho. I did so much for her on her previous b-days that today I felt weird. When I got her response I was honestly surprised , I did not expect a response at all. Ive been drinking beer and watching football with my buddys. I dont feel set back at all. No sweat off my nutsack. I think the main thing in getting over someone is acceptance that its over. It took me about 3-4 months to reach that stage. lol @ back on track.
Melrapuo Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Ya know, my birthday comes up in a few months. I pray she doesn't try to be nice and contact me about it, even after I told her we couldn't be friends. And if she does, I'm NOT giving her one for her birthday. Sorry, I don't give birthday wishes to stupid bitches. GDI I wish that actually rhymed. I'd sell that idea to Hallmark.
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