yellowlilly Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Hello. I'm shy, and tend to be more reserved around guys. The guy I'm interested in is outgoing, very friendly, intelligent, kind, and has a great sense of humor. Because he's so friendly towards everyone, it's hard to tell if he's interested in me or not. He's a pretty touchy-feely guy who likes to play around with and/or tease others - male or female. He tried to get me to play with him by poking me or taking away my pen, but both times I pretty much just killed the fun by not retaliating. So that makes me worry that he isn't interested in me because I don't reciprocate. But in his own ways he's gotten me to open up more around him. He's not as aggressive around me, but more toned down. And my friend, who is in the same class, thinks this is him adapting his behavior to my personality and/or comfort level, and a sign that he respects me. When we're around our classmates, he's much more touchy-feely with me. He'll put his arm around me and we'll stay that way for a while, or once he walked really close to me, to the point that our arms and hands were brushing. I don't know if he was trying to tease me, or if he liked the physical contact, or if it was even a deliberate action on his part. Then on another occasion, he stood really close to me again. He doesn't do this with the other girls in our class, which my friend interprets as his being particularly affectionate towards me, so she's certain that at the very least, he's fond of me. However, when we're by ourselves, he's not touchy-feely at all. He invited me to have lunch with him, and I agreed. During the time we hung out he was kind and engaging. He would help me with my sushi, listen to what I had to say, and answered my questions in addition to asking me questions even though he doesn't like to talk. He even offered to pay for my lunch, which I thought was incredibly sweet and unexpected of him. Previous to our hanging out one-on-one, he had had lunch with my friend and me. I didn't talk much during the conversation over lunch, it was mostly between him and my friend. But he made a point of including me by directly asking me questions a few times. I really appreciated that. I guess what I'm wondering is, why is he touchy-feely with me when we're around others, but not when it's just the two of us? Do you guys think he might be interested in me? I've never had a boyfriend before (I'm 19), and for the first time I see real potential for a relationship with this guy. But I don't want to push it, and I don't want to ruin our friendship in case he doesn't feel the same. Any insight or advice would be greatly appreciated.
buzzie2 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Maybe he is touchy feely around you when others are around because he isn't shy and insecure, but when he's alone with you he's more self concious? I think he does like you, just give him time to come around.
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