cheezy100 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 do i not smell nice already? i wear victoria's secret Love Spell lotion every time I see him. i shower before meeting him. Does it not smell nice? he wants me to wear this perfume, which he doesn't know the name but is trying to find out from one of his girl buddy. He said it smells like a hot girl walked into the room. He doesn't want to ask her, and wants me to ask her what's the name of it. I mean, you want me to wear it, then YOU should ask her. But then he said it would be awkward if he went up to one girl that wore that perfume, tap her shoulders and say "hey, what perfume are you wearing cuz I want to get it for my girlfriend." Does he think I don't smell nice enough? Or he doesn't like my VS Love Spell? Or that perfume would turn him on if I wore it. Make him wanna POUNCE on me...that foresay. Personally, I don't wear perfume that often unless it's a party.
jerbear Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Guys just have preferences, that includes perfume. It is not a reflection on you or your choices. Now, if he doesn't have to guts to ask a girl what the perfume is, then why should you do the work for him? If I want my gf to wear a certain perfume, I find the name, buy it and give it. I won't hide behind the GF and say, hon, you go ask. The other possibility, just goto a perfume store and start describing the perfume. He has to do some leg work and not play with his Wii all the time! :lmao:
Geishawhelk Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 What smells good to you, may not smell the same way to someone else. It's a delicate sense, the sense of smell. Why not go out together and choose a perfume for you - and an after-shave or Men's cologne for him - that cracks it for both of you?
Krajt Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I love what my girlfriend wears already, it makes me weak at the knees. I like sniffing her neck, I could just bite slowly down her neck, man her perfumes captures me and make me rather.... We all have our favourite perfumes, or colognes. As the poster above said, why not go out with him and choose a perfume and cologne? Buy him, Obsession Night, that's the finest cologne for men and the women's one is fantastic too.
my body is a cage Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Creepy creepy creepy! This reminds me of Hitchcock's Vertigo... CREEPY
Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I agree that guys have certain preferences regarding perfume. And after all, you are the one who gets the most close to him, therefore it would stand to reason that he wants to like the way you smell. The way he is going about this is a little immature. I could see why you'd be a tad annoyed that YOU have to ask her, but maybe he just doesn't want to give her the idea that he is coming on to her or something. Maybe he is embarrassed. Have you asked him the reason why he is embarrassed asking this girl? Do you have an anniversary or birthday coming up? You could tell him the name of the perfume and then ask for it for a present? Has he offered to buy you this perfume that he wants you to wear?
loki Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 haha, I'd actually be put off by a request like that. I guess it's only normal, but I'd want the guy to like my own smell, and not try to make me smell like his fantasy! what I mean is, I'd rather have his fantasy be me than me mold into his fantasy. and I'd definitely make him ask for it. he wants it, you'd be already doing a favor by using his perfume.
Shygirl15 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Looks like he has hots for his girl buddy. Go figure.
Author cheezy100 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 I agree that guys have certain preferences regarding perfume. And after all, you are the one who gets the most close to him, therefore it would stand to reason that he wants to like the way you smell. The way he is going about this is a little immature. I could see why you'd be a tad annoyed that YOU have to ask her, but maybe he just doesn't want to give her the idea that he is coming on to her or something. Maybe he is embarrassed. Have you asked him the reason why he is embarrassed asking this girl? Do you have an anniversary or birthday coming up? You could tell him the name of the perfume and then ask for it for a present? Has he offered to buy you this perfume that he wants you to wear? NO anniversary or birthday. he just randomly said there is a perfume he wants me to wear. He didn't offer to buy or said anything related to that, but I ain't buying or asking for anything. I already have a perfume..perfumes are expensive! if he wants me to wear it, then he should go ask and buy it himself. he is immature for his age, but I heard men are mentally 5 years younger.
Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 NO anniversary or birthday. he just randomly said there is a perfume he wants me to wear. He didn't offer to buy or said anything related to that, but I ain't buying or asking for anything. I already have a perfume..perfumes are expensive! if he wants me to wear it, then he should go ask and buy it himself. he is immature for his age, but I heard men are mentally 5 years younger. How old are you two?
Author cheezy100 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 How old are you two? i'm 22, he's almost 27
Lucky_One Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Sounds like he has the hots for his girl "buddy".
Jersey Shortie Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I have to agree that it sounds like he has the hots for his girl buddy. Preferences are okay and even okay to indulge your boyfriend or girlfriend in but if he wants you to wear it because of his hot friend, that's not cool.
porter218 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I said the same thing to my H. It wasn't a personal attack...or that I didn't like the cologne he was wearing. It was just that there is one cologne that just makes me melt...Creed Imperial He already smelled good but I wanted him to wear the one that makes me want to jump him. He wears it now every once in a while, but not everyday because it is $150/ bottle.
Star Gazer Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Just because he likes the way someone smells does NOT mean he has the hots for her. Those who are saying such are ... (no offense) jumping to conclusions and out of their minds. I've asked TWO BFs to change their colognes. One was way too strong, and another's just was not pleasant. I got them each a cologne that I like. It was no reflection on them or anyone else who's ever worn it. As for VS Love Spell... I know lots of girls who wear it, and they wear so much you can smell them 50 feet away. It's a strong scent. I also know many guys who don't like it, as it's too floral. Perhaps he's just trying to get you to change out of what you're wearing now.
Trialbyfire Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Have you never smelled a cologne that cranks you, regardless if you can see the guy or not? I wouldn't take it personally. Just tell him that if he buys it for you, you'll be glad to wear it for him. Of course this means he can find out what it is himself. He's a big boy. Let him do the work.
Author cheezy100 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 Sounds like he has the hots for his girl "buddy". I don't think he has the hots for her since she's married already. i think her perfume turns him on though. I mean, there is one smell I LOVE in men that I sometimes smell it while walking down a street. Seriously, they can be like 50yrs old and I'm like "OH THAT SMELLED SO NICE!~" kind of gross, but true. I don't know the name of the scent, but man, i would really want to know. I heard it's the after-shave. But there is just that one smell...
Author cheezy100 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 Just because he likes the way someone smells does NOT mean he has the hots for her. Those who are saying such are ... (no offense) jumping to conclusions and out of their minds. I've asked TWO BFs to change their colognes. One was way too strong, and another's just was not pleasant. I got them each a cologne that I like. It was no reflection on them or anyone else who's ever worn it. As for VS Love Spell... I know lots of girls who wear it, and they wear so much you can smell them 50 feet away. It's a strong scent. I also know many guys who don't like it, as it's too floral. Perhaps he's just trying to get you to change out of what you're wearing now. he did tell me I smelled like a watermelon. (Love Spell doesn't even have any watermelon extract in it) I guess, "fruity" is what he's saying. I personally don't think it's a strong scent, but I don't wear a lot (i think). He did say that one of my other lotions Bath & Body Peony lotion smelled like a HOT GIRL.
Shygirl15 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I don't think he has the hots for her since she's married already. He probably doesn't have the hots for her, but it's not becuse she's married, just so you know.
Sks Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 I never got the idea of perfume, it just seems creepy - polluting the air with engineered chemicals on purpose. I never understood deodorant either, I like all natural, sweat and pheromones given off by the girl is the ultimate turn-on.
Author cheezy100 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 I never got the idea of perfume, it just seems creepy - polluting the air with engineered chemicals on purpose. I never understood deodorant either, I like all natural, sweat and pheromones given off by the girl is the ultimate turn-on. i get the idea with perfume...but deodorant is a must! i would be turned-off if my boyfriend doesn't wear deodorant. i mean, it's already bad enough that he has stinky feet. i have yet to tell him...someday to spray stuff in his shoe!
Sks Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 i get the idea with perfume...but deodorant is a must! i would be turned-off if my boyfriend doesn't wear deodorant. i mean, it's already bad enough that he has stinky feet. i have yet to tell him...someday to spray stuff in his shoe! I am an animal, I don't try to change that. If I stink I stink, if my GF does not like it she can leave me, its part of who I am.
KinAZ Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 I think it's a little weird that he has a problem asking her what it is eventhough he likes it so much. For this reason, I might wonder if it is a crush, OR if he just doesn't want the girl to think he is interested in her. Tell him you'll ask her, but you're not going to buy it. If he wants you to wear it so badly, he can gift it to you. I think it's a bit much to not only ask you to wear a certain fragrance, but to also ask you to ask another woman what she is wearing. It could be that he doesn't like what you normally wear, or it could be that he REALLY loves the way that other stuff smells. I've asked an ex why he stopped wearing a certain cologne and told him how much I loved it on him. He said he would get some just for me, and he did. I was happy (hahaha), thought it was cute, and it wasn't because I hated his other cologne. I LOVED the other stuff. I loved it so much that if a man was out and about wearing it... OMG! LOL, I'd be in love with the air. Liquid sex. So, I can related to that feeling. One way or another, I say indulge him. I also liked the idea of the two of you shopping for fragrances together. There might be something out there that he likes even more. Also, while you're at it... tell him to spray his shoes already, or ask if you can do it for him. If he's free enough in the relationship to make fragrance requests, you should be able to as well.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 lol...this thread reminds me of the time my H brought me a bottle of perfume and said, "One of the girls in the office was wearing this and it smelled Rockin' so I wanted you to have some." I threw it out. When I met the H, on our second date, he was wearing Tommy, which my xh wore, so I bought him a bottle of Tiffany Sport and gave it to him, saying, "I went to the counter and smelled them all. When I found one that made me wet, I bought it for you." He threw out the Tommy and wore Tiffany from then on, lol. You gotta have the right approach if you want to change the scent of a person.
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