shadow60069 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Hi, I am in a situation with my girlfriend that I am not quite sure how to handle. I'm sorry but this is gonna be a long one. I have been with my girlfriend for about 6 years, 4 of which were very long distance. Now she was my first real girlfriend and i'll admit I let her walk all over me including taking her back ( but never really forgiving her) for cheating on me in our first year "together". Recently It has hit me like a ton of bricks and I am ashamed to say that it took me so long, to see that there have been very few times that she has been genuinly kind where she didn't have some alterior motive in mind. I guess I just didn't want to see it because when she was nice things were great, but those times were few when compared to everythign else. In addition to that she used to be on meds to "even her out" which she hasnt' taken in very long time... I moved out on my own about a year ago, and 7 months in to it I had some sever nieghbor issuse as well as lost a great job. When I was unable to find stable work, she offered that we move in together to which I protested. After not being able more than one part time job I agreed to make the move as I soon would not be able to pay my rent and my niegbors were becoming unbearable. I now know that moving in with her was a mistake, but at the time it was alright when we kept clear of eachother space. When It came time to move again I was determened to find my own place without her, but I was unable to find one near my work that was within my price range. At that point she became "nice" again and graciously offered that if I could not find my own place that we should find a new place togther. well I never found my own place and we ended up moving in together, only this time things are much worse. She has begun treatign me liker her mom treats her dad, which is pretty bad. Psycotic outburts over the smallest of things consistanly over the last couple of months. I initially thought if things didn't get better by the time our lease was up I would end things then as I am moving out of state for an advanced degree. But I am begining to think this is more then I can handle for this lenght of time. I have since begun to isolate myself from her so that would be no conflicts at the moment. Well this has caused her to become " nice" again, but I am trying not to let it effect me anymore. I just don't know what to do If I stay with her I am miserable, if I break up with her and she bails on me ( she is a co-applicant on the lease.) I am screwed unless I can get someone in here quick, I also run the risk of her hurting herself, me, or my possessions. In addition to that ( this is probably the worst part) I have a huge crush on a co-worker who is an intern going in to same field I will be when I am finished with school. I will admit i flirt with her a bit, and I don't know much about her as I have tried to keep a little distance because of the situaiton. But what I do know has me caught and I would love to get to know her better, wither it be as a friend or possible more, but with my current situation both are impossible... For those of you who have read this far and are willing to share with me I am truely gratefull.
Konfuzion Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Nothing personal but it sounds like you both need some counseling, for yourself to figure out why you choose to let anyone walk all over you and put up with her abuse. I don't know what else to tell you except get the hell away from her no matter what!
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