sigh Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 The xMM has become strange. He contacted me last week pretending to be someone else. The a few hours later contacted me as himself, asking me if he could do something that only a complete idiot would let him do! I got an email later in the week of him offering to help me do something I needed to takecare of. I need some support :-( Thank you
whichwayisup Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Ignore him. He's baiting you, waiting for reaction. Keep posting and don't cave! He's an IDIOT! Be glad he isn't in your life anymore. I mean his most recent actions have proved how little respect he has for you.
GPFan Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Sounds like he is desperate to reestablish contact, use all the means you have at your disposal to block him. Good luck.
Author sigh Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 A few weeks before I stopped contacting him, he started showing up at a place with his W where he doesn't go that I always gone with my friends. He doesn't even say hello to me, but is within my sight almost all night every time which is bothersome to me as well. Could be a coincidence and not just really weird, right?
Steelrain21 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 He likely still has feelings for you because he's trying to get you jealous. He's hoping that if you see him with another girl that you'll get so jealous that you'll confess your undying love to him.
whichwayisup Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 He is doing it on purpose to mess with you and show you that HE IS with his wife. He is playing a game with you. IGNORE. No matter how much you want to react, don't. Eventually he'll realize he's acting like a jerk and leave you alone.
Author sigh Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 Why does he feel the need to show me he is with his wife? It's not like I'm stalking him or something. I haven't contacted him in ages. Contact has been initiated by him every time for quite a while.
whichwayisup Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 He is playing a game with you, taunting you. Have you ignored his contact every single time?
jj33 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Sigh you had said earlier that there was something you needed done. He is using that now as a hook to get you to talk to him. The fact that he would tie it to something that "only a complete idiot would let him do" shows that he is simply being a jerk. He is toying with your emotions, wanting to see just how badly you miss him and how much you are willing to demean yourself to be with him. block his contact. Dont respond. I never thought this would be appropriate before but if he persists and it is upsetting you, contact his wife. This guy is bad news.
Author sigh Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 I could never tell his W. That wouldn't be fair to her. She probably thinks he is an angel and could never do any wrong. Who am I to ruin that for her? It's been a major smack in the face. He pretended to be one of the best friends I've ever had for a long time and I miss that false persona tremendously. Now he's doing these things. I don't think I will ever understand as I am not skilled in the art form of mind games. He obviously has a very low self esteem as he has fished for compliments from me a few times over the past few months and has made up blatant lies to try to make himself look good. All of this started as I started distancing from him.
Author sigh Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 He just contacted me. He's using my work email so I can't block or anything. I don't know how much longer I can take this. It hurts so much hearing from him. Especially this new, strange person he's become
jj33 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Dont respond. At all. He doesnt work with you does he? Just delete it. If he doesnt work with you, you may be able to mark it as spam so that it doesnt reach your inbox. Otherwise you might be able to institute a command so that whatever he sends you is automatically send to your trashbox. Sorry you are going through this Big hugs
Patience08 Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Sigh, Would you please update me? I understand he is now your exmm, right? And am I correct to say that his W does not know about you, and he is now showing up at the place, your place that he knows you socialize at?
Author sigh Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 Patience: Yes, he is xMM His W does not know He shows up every few weeks, it's not constant. He showed up once without her and the rest of the times with her.
whichwayisup Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Just ignore him. He isn't worth your pain, your tears, your anything.
DealingWDrama Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Sounds like he misses having his cake and getting to eat it too. There is something wrong in his marriage where he isn't getting fulfilled so he is looking for that fulfillment. You are worth more as a woman and he needs to get some therapy!
Patience08 Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Patience: Yes, he is xMM His W does not know He shows up every few weeks, it's not constant. He showed up once without her and the rest of the times with her. Sigh, I know you did say you didn't want to tell his wife and I have to agree right now. But, if you are sincere about wanting this contact to end and if he continues show up again at your hang out with her.......I'd talk to him. Point Blank....."you know this is where I hang out, this is my space and stay out of it. If you contact me and show up here again expect me to introduce myself to your wife and I'll be telling her about your escapades." "Are we clear?" I know it is a free country and we can all go where we want, but we also have freedom of speech. Believe me, he won't be bringing his W into your space again. Been there. Good Luck
Owl Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 He just contacted me. He's using my work email so I can't block or anything. I don't know how much longer I can take this. It hurts so much hearing from him. Especially this new, strange person he's become Fwd his emails to his boss. Or the HR department. You can't block him, but you can definitely convince him to stop sending them.
Author sigh Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 His emails are from his personal account, so I doubt his boss would care. I really don't want to get my place of employment involved. If I just ignore him completely for longer, will he stop contacting me?
NoIDidn't Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Sounds like he misses having his cake and getting to eat it too. There is something wrong in his marriage where he isn't getting fulfilled so he is looking for that fulfillment. You are worth more as a woman and he needs to get some therapy! Something is wrong in his marriage alright. Sounds like his W is too good for him, so he's acting out as she's not likely to ever make him feel like the big man in town. Shame he is playing this game with you, Sigh. I'd *sigh* too. What an idiot he is behaving like right now.
winter Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 If I just ignore him completely for longer, will he stop contacting me? that's a good possibility can you block his emails somehow? or change your email address?
Owl Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 If they're from his personal account, to your professional account...still...go to HR. Or your IT department. If they're coming from an external source, your IT department probably already has some type of 'spam filter' on the company email...he just gets added to this list (and reprimanded for misusing YOUR email and time as company assets). Its also highly unprofessional for him to be doing this...if it gets taken up the food chain, it could still force him to stop. If you REALLY want to put an end to it, these are some suggestions.
Geishawhelk Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Print off a couple of the more incriminating, personal intimate e-mails. Keep them, then either block his communications or just delete them before you read them. You now have 2 options. reply Once and once only, telling him to stop, or you'll show the e-mails to his wife next time he shows up at any places you hang out. If he doesn't get the message, or ignores you then follow through. Next time you see him with his wife, go up to them with his e-mails in your hand, in an envelope, and say to her "I think you should see these. Your husband keeps sending them to me, I wonder if you could get him to stop, please? " Enough is enough, don't you think? He seems to think nothing of playing mind games and of trying to screw your life up. It's about time he sampled some of his own medicine.
MizzBlue72 Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 Maybe you should take a break from this guy. Change emails maybe?
JamieA Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 His emails are from his personal account, so I doubt his boss would care. I really don't want to get my place of employment involved. If I just ignore him completely for longer, will he stop contacting me? **Whips out crystal ball**.....Let me see.....hmmmm....YES!
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