nowhereman82 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I'm tired of taking a back seat. I know she misses me and that she is scared to try. And I am sitting here waiting for her to take that step.... **** THAT!!! I'm taking charge. I'm going for what I want. And if it blows up in my face then at least I know that I wasn't such a passive pussy that I let her take control and do nothing. I can't settle for that. I won't. Carpe Diem.... p.s. I will obviously give an update for my fellow LS`ers. Love ya guys
WiseOne1 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I agree man, you seen the threads and post. For the year 2008 LS has had only about 3 sucess stories. I've been where you are and NC is only good if you want to get over someone, but what if you dont want to get over them??? NC wont do you any good and you bassically feel like you dont wanna go thru life not knowing that you didnt try. So I agree with you if you must try go ahead. What people got to understand is NC is not the best in every cirumstance, NC isnt for every breakup, and NC surely isnt the resolution to fix sistuations in the breakup. When you get older you dont wanna look back and see that you didnt try and regret it. Or it can work the other way you might get old and regret you wasted so much time on your ex. But either way do what makes you happy. Good Luck.
Author nowhereman82 Posted September 27, 2008 Author Posted September 27, 2008 I feel personally I will be happy in the end no matter what road I travel. But I will not settle for regret for not trying. We've been in LC after awhile of NC, but I have taken the back burner in letting her make the first first. So hopefuly I will have an update at the end of this weeked.
WiseOne1 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I feel personally I will be happy in the end no matter what road I travel. But I will not settle for regret for not trying. We've been in LC after awhile of NC, but I have taken the back burner in letting her make the first first. So hopefuly I will have an update at the end of this weeked. Right. Hey I did the same thing with my ex, I had to try once more to make sure I dont regret it, ofcourse this is a long ago ex, but yea.
Author nowhereman82 Posted September 27, 2008 Author Posted September 27, 2008 Right. Hey I did the same thing with my ex, I had to try once more to make sure I dont regret it, ofcourse this is a long ago ex, but yea. Guess i don't need to ask how that went
WiseOne1 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Guess i don't need to ask how that went Lol, with me being the Rated R superstar, it went bad at first then well. This was a ex about 4 years ago, she broke up with me because she wanted to date other people. After 1 year of being broken up she finally came back, but she was a whore. When she left she was a virgin, when she came back she was a porno star. So she wanted me back but I told her I think it be best that we be friends, with all respect but, I didnt want the other dudes leftovers. And she had also gained weight about 160lbs more, so I mean she was beautiful and had a great body, but I know she didnt think I wanted that s*** how she was when she came back. Then her mom tryed to make me get back with her and I was like I dun want that s***. Lol Lol I still laugh when I look at the old threads of how pathetic I was, and how I tried to get her back, Nc didnt seem to do any good, so I went on one last attempt and she came back. You should look up "WiseNitchie" thats my old screename on LS. Those were the good ol days. After that her and her friends were so mad they all they talked about was beating up my new GF. Bassically what im saying is that last reach, might get you somewhere, but every sistuation differs.
ohwhyme Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 nowhereman82, I'm on the same boat as you are. My ex is giving me big hints and misses me too but she is so damn confused right now and scared. Your not scared of pressuring her into making a decision or? I'm still wondering what I should do. Not sure if I can make anything happen when its long distance though.
superd Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Amen, "oh why all of us"?, we all need a break sometimes, even a lucky one.
Author nowhereman82 Posted September 27, 2008 Author Posted September 27, 2008 I am doing no pressuring. I hope you all realize that pressure will never get a good end result. I have simply stuck my toe across the line in the sand and I'm going to give her a chance to take a step towards me. I know her so well that I know it's holding her back. ohwhyme.....don't know how recent your break up is but mines a little over 3 months now, from a 5 year relationship. So perhaps she needs a little time if it's soon, to collect her thoughts.
HopeDiesLast Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Nowhereman what are you gonna do? call her? I tried it and still got a vague answer after 3 mos of being apart. i think my ex and urs are in similar situations. but bc he still wouldnt give me the straight yes i wanna try or no i dont, its over.....i said peace out! and dropped off the face of the earth been 3 weeks now and nothing. wonder if i did the right thing. is that part of your plan?
EmperorR Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 i feel like a idiot, i told my ex ill wait for you while she has a crush on another guy whatever, F THAT i aint waiting, but im also not going to jump into another relationship, patience is key
9Lives Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 my ex just sent me this text asking how am i. I needed that but I did not respond. I want to get my own mind clear. He has really disappointed me. I need to look at his past behavior and decide if I want anything more to do with this guy. He is a good person but he is selfish and I have taken some serious blows because I am not selfish with hm. I need NC. If he keeps moving, it is fine cause what we got right now, turns me off.
superd Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 People there is a alot of frustration and anger on this site right now. Everyone needs to cool off, even I do. LIke I said, we all need a break.
9Lives Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 People there is a alot of frustration and anger on this site right now. Everyone needs to cool off, even I do. LIke I said, we all need a break. Well that is the beauty of it all. We get to open up and express the good and the bad to one another for advice, direction, and peace for some of us. I dont know what I would do without LS. It is a heaven sent because sometimes my emotions and thoughts can get in the way of decision making that can sometimes be life changing. LS is definately my friends in my head that sometimes gives me the edge over my situation
Author nowhereman82 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 So update. She didn't like my wording and was not responsive to it. But she didn't say if she wanted to meet or not. So that got me nowhere. Guess I quit. But now I can say I tried. *shrug*
ohwhyme Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 not what i wanted to hear im sorry. I guess i wont give her an ultimatum yet.. or just wait. I haven't talked to her much just like once a week. But the thing is i dont really care what happens now. At least you know you can move on now and not think about what could have been...
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