johnnyboy8786 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 me and my girl have been together for 2.5 yearss and we got engaged this year.. but recently she said she wanted space, it was rite after she got this new job she started hanging out with friends from work, and the next thing i knew she was breaking up with me. i was shocked. i totally didnt see it coming, being caught off guard i did all the things i was not suppose to do i chased her for 2 months.. i hope i did not damage anything to badly. she swore there was no one else.. but i found out she is seeing someone new. i asked her about it and she said its not serious but she is sleeping with him.. i stopped talking to her 2 weeks ago after an argument and she told me we are done move on... how can that be she loved me so much now she just acts like i meant nothing to her....... help me please give me some advice i dont know what to do.
mental_traveller Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 She probably just lost interest in the relationship, felt it going stale. Sorry mate but if she's porking someone else then I don't see much hope. Leave with your dignity still intact, don't chase her, just stop all contact and move on. You'll have plenty of chances to find a better girl who doesn't break off and hope into bed with the first new guy to come along.
Author johnnyboy8786 Posted September 27, 2008 Author Posted September 27, 2008 so i have no chance at all
WiseOne1 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 You have a chance, but its very unlikely. A thread her talks about how you only got about a 3% chance of getting back with a ex. You actually need to figuire out the real reason she left, she wont tell you anytime soon though, and once she does, you choose where to go from there.
CaliGuy Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 so i have no chance at all Only if you forget about her completely and move on. And when that happens you won't care about a second chance. She basically took you for granted and proved that she doesn't love you (the way she should). Do yourself a favor and delete any trace of her in your life (IM, phone, email, photos, etc) and move on. Why waste your time on someone that doesn't want to be with you?
ed-205 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 i stopped talking to her 2 weeks ago after an argument and she told me we are done move on... how can that be she loved me so much now she just acts like i meant nothing to her....... help me please give me some advice i dont know what to do. Some women seem to have the ability to turn love on and off like a light switch. I never could figure out how they do it myself, unless she never really loved you in the first place. No emotional investment=no pain when she decides to move on. If that's the case, you don't *want* her back because she'll just do it to you again. I'm with mental_traveler and CaliGuy on this one.
bunny25k Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 my opinion is... all the things you did that you shouldn't do, those 2 months of chasing...was more damaging than you thought. speaking from my personal experience. i think any ounce of a chance was lost.
Konfuzion Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 There is someone better for you out there, Like mentioned NC and erase her from your life.... She will probably come running back after you have found someone that is even better than her at which point it wont matter.
Yamaha Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 she said its not serious but she is sleeping with him.. Does this sound like someone you want back? Right now your hurt but in time you will realize she did you a favor by breaking up. You miht have gotten married and then found out she was cheasting on you. Take her advice and move on to someone much more deserving of you.
Author johnnyboy8786 Posted September 27, 2008 Author Posted September 27, 2008 well the reason she left is because she said she just cant trust me anymore i lied about some stupid stuff... and i cheated on her before we got engaged but we got past that.... i thought. i feel if i just leave her alone and do exactly the opposite of what ive always done she will come running back.. i feel this way because at one point she called me "systematic" so im thinking if i switch it up and do exactly the opposite she will come back.. what do u guys think
BackonTrack Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Ok, Listen, we have to get on the same page. 1) She's not with you. 2) She broke up with you to see someone else 3) She lied to you about who she was seeing (common of females) 4) She told you to move on. Right now your like a pest to her, her mind is not on you, her mind hasn't been on you for some time. As about her statements, She is a LIAR, do not believe her. If that was really true, she would of left you a long time ago. She wants reasons to justify her actions. Its not about YOU, its about HER. She doesn't want you. Best thing you can do is REMOVE YOURSELF from the picture. Disappear like a GHOST. If she really loved you, she'll come looking for you after a while and if she doesn't, it means she never cared about you. Eitherway, your benched myfriend, the coach took you out the game. Question: If you know your goign to get fired, despite the reasons, would you a) quit? b) try to work it out with your boss while he has your replacement already lined up behind you and is currently telling you there is no talking, pack your stuff and leave right this minute or c) just say "**** it", I'll find a new job? Your answer to the above question should be what you deciede to do with your situtation. This is YOUR situtation. NOT HERS. YOUR SITUTATION. Recap Girl left you, is with someone else, told you to move on Ball is in your court now, what you gonna do?
Author johnnyboy8786 Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 thanks dude that was the best advice i have gotten... i have been ghost for 2 weeks now and i will continue thanks the support
nopainnogain Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Eitherway, your benched myfriend, the coach took you out the game. Ball is in your court now, what you gonna do? I like these analogies. Its like the packers trying to bench brett farve . He said screw that. Im a starter ,trade me. Now he is kickin but with the jets and the packers have an aaron rodgers who is iffy now. Any ways , youve come a long way backontrack. Keep up the good work and stay up.
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