Bells Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I have seen this in alot of women's profiles. (not sure if men have them, you tell me that,lol) But I've been seeing, "Must be able to keep my interest" That's a bit of a demanding woman, wouldn't you say? It tells me she's one of those Pri-Modonnas, does it not?
TigerCub Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Not really, I think it just means "don't be boring". I think both sexes would desire that from whoever they date.
Yamaha Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I see it as someone who is demanding, expects you to keep her entertained and who you are always going to worry that she is going to get bored with you and look for someone else. I would stay clear of a gal who posted this in her bio. She sounds high maintance and selfish.
Isolde Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I think this is yet another example of people overanalyzing about obvious truths. Kinda like when guys say "There has to be attraction."
Lucky555 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I myself am this type of young woman. I do want the guy to keep my interest. The guy that comes on very suave is great, captures my attention, but then he slacks off and becomes BORING. I want a guy that wants to do stuff. Keeping interest means "I just don't want to lay in bed all day" I want something more, i want a mate that shares my interests, i want someone who doesn't sit there drink beer and passes out. Taking her out to dinner, captivates her mind, does more than just "be there."
westernxer Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I usually skip an ad if I don't like or understand it, but I'll stay a bit longer if they look hot in their pics.
IrishCarBomb Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 i want a mate that shares my interests, i want someone who doesn't sit there drink beer and passes out. Taking her out to dinner, captivates her mind, does more than just "be there." These are important things. However, I think that saying "must be able to keep my interest", a girl comes off as high maintenance, entitled, or bratty. Certainly every girl wants to have a guy keep her interest, but when you list it out in the profile, it's a red flag
fral945 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Women are more demanding and probably more honest about what they really like in online profiles because they can be and get away with it. It's essentially their way to cherry pick guys, since the male to female ratio is heavily in their favor. They know there is a plentiful supply of men and a high demand for women. If you don't like what they have to say pass them up. It's probably better you learn that upfront anyway.
SarahRose Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 What should the ad say instead? I think this just means a woman wants an active participant in the relationship. It doesn't mean she wants to be entertained 247. I want someone who is genuinely interested in me and the things I do and not just when they are trying to win me.
mental_traveller Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I have seen this in alot of women's profiles. (not sure if men have them, you tell me that,lol) But I've been seeing, "Must be able to keep my interest" That's a bit of a demanding woman, wouldn't you say? It tells me she's one of those Pri-Modonnas, does it not? It always makes me wonder, what is she gonna do to keep the guy's interest?
Balthazar Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 It means you must have a high sex drive.
Ocean-Blue Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 No one wants boring. Keeping her interest means you have to be THE man.
CaliGuy Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I myself am this type of young woman. I do want the guy to keep my interest. The guy that comes on very suave is great, captures my attention, but then he slacks off and becomes BORING. I want a guy that wants to do stuff. Keeping interest means "I just don't want to lay in bed all day" I want something more, i want a mate that shares my interests, i want someone who doesn't sit there drink beer and passes out. Taking her out to dinner, captivates her mind, does more than just "be there." But that's not how men will read that. To men, that says "High maintenance" even if that isn't what they mean. Women should be more specific in their profiles. I don't know anyone who sits in bed or drinks beer all day...
Author Bells Posted September 27, 2008 Author Posted September 27, 2008 But that's not how men will read that. To men, that says "High maintenance" even if that isn't what they mean. Women should be more specific in their profiles. I don't know anyone who sits in bed or drinks beer all day... Yeah, when I read that, I feel like she's asking the "Court Jesture" to keep her entertained...otherwise OFF with his head! Like you're some sort of tour guide to keep her laughing and entertained during the course of your dating relationship....ONCE things start to lull...she'll dump ya.
vonerik012 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 In reality it is difficult to find women to have a real conversation with. That is what keeps my interest. Someone well versed in history, current events, or has a passion for something other than being entertained and fine dining. It would be helpful if they were more specific about what keeps them interested. It could be as simple as a good conversationalist, someone with a high sex drive etc. Or it could mean you must take them out all the time and entertain them, who knows.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I think it's kind of rude. Like the guy is auditioning for her. Must he be constantly on his toes?
rod_in_gtown Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 What should the ad say instead? I think this just means a woman wants an active participant in the relationship. It doesn't mean she wants to be entertained 247. I want someone who is genuinely interested in me and the things I do and not just when they are trying to win me. Something other than "Keep me interested", it comes across as wanting to be entertained no matter what. something along the lines of "he must include me in his activities and be willing to take part in mine" would sound more along the lines of both people actively taking part in the relationship. "keep me interested"? I'm not your own personal clown. If you're part of this relationship, then be proactive as well.
carhill Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Yeah, that "must" word would have me clicking right on to the next page. Beware of anyone (man or women) who speaks in absolutes regarding a potential mate, because, IME, their life is anything but (absolute). It's all about projection
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