torranceshipman Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 So my friend calls tuesday and said she had a totally awesome date-hot guy, great chemistry, she said she felt like he was really into her and vice versa...so I'm like wow, good for her, I need one of those kinda dates too, haha! But...roll on this afternoon and she tells me that apart from trading a couple of friendly texts about random stuff over the last coupla days, he hasnt asked her out again yet. I was expecting to hear a bit of romance but no. So I said dont worry, its only been a few days BUT is he just being a super flake?? Jeez, dating! Why cant it be more straightforward! ps sorry for lame title but Loveshack wouldnt let me write anything for some reason...
LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 So my friend calls tuesday and said she had a totally awesome date-hot guy, great chemistry, she said she felt like he was really into her and vice versa...so I'm like wow, good for her, I need one of those kinda dates too, haha! But...roll on this afternoon and she tells me that apart from trading a couple of friendly texts about random stuff over the last coupla days, he hasnt asked her out again yet. I was expecting to hear a bit of romance but no. So I said dont worry, its only been a few days BUT is he just being a super flake?? Jeez, dating! Why cant it be more straightforward! ps sorry for lame title but Loveshack wouldnt let me write anything for some reason... lol, it's sad, but your friend sounds like she could be ANY ONE of us females - including myself!!!! You sound just like my guy best friend who has heard this before!!!! Yes, dating!!!!! Don't get it!!!! lol
Lucky_One Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I think that this is why I don't quite "get" some of the dating angst at LS. I don't think it IS that hard. You like someone, he seems to like you. One of you asks the other out. You may or may not want a second date, and he may or may not have the same feelings as you. If he doesn't, then you accept that it wasn't "meant to be" and you move on. If he does, then you go out again. If he says he wants to see you but calls sporadically or doesn't make plans within a few weeks, then you assume that he doesn't feel it, and you move on and you refuse his dates if he does happen to call next March. If people would talk about what they really want or say how they really feel, then it wouldn't be this hard. You might get rejection when you say that you really like him and he says that he doesn't feel the same about you, but you would get that anyway in the next month as you fruitlessly chase him and post threads about "Does this mean he is into me or not?" It's a matter of getting it up front, or getting it slowly over a period of time. Take the bandaid off already, and get it over with. Your friend texted back and forth a few times with a guy between Wednesday and Friday afternoon. That is good. He may be busy or have other plans. Why worry about it so much?
carhill Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 If people would talk about what they really want or say how they really feel, then it wouldn't be this hard. Perish the thought. Mystery and ambiguity are such aphrodisiacs
Lucky_One Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Perish the thought. Mystery and ambiguity are such aphrodisiacs Then wear a lace teddy to bed instead of just a thong!
Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 If I were to guess, my guess would be that he's multi-dating. Also, sometimes chemistry can be lopsided.
carhill Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Then wear a lace teddy to bed instead of just a thong! I do but for some reason it doesn't do it for my wife
Lucky_One Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Trying to imagine all that chest hair getting tangled in the lace.... Seriously though - my mom always told me to keep some of the mystery in the bedroom!
superd Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I don't get it, he seems abnormaly concerned how his friends date went and why the guy didn't call her. Something doesn't make sense here. Maybe the torrance can add a little more information.
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