DealingWDrama Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 I emailed a friend of the OW who claims she is pregnant to ask her if OW was showing...apparently OW has cut off her friendship with this person as of a month ago. This friend works with my H! OW was not showing a month ago - would have been 17 to 18 weeks pregnant the last time this friend saw her...makes me think again...there is no baby! The OW is about 5'2" or 5'3" ... this would be her 3rd child...granted her other two children are in their teens now...you still show QUICK after you have been pregnant once...she isn't over weight either...so no fat hiding a buldging belly. Just thought I'd let you gals know....I'll keep everyone posted. AND THANK YOU all for your support in this matter. I realize it's kinda odd for a wife to be talking to women who have been or are other women regarding my situation, but if there is a baby involved in this mess...I want to at least be able to put myself in her shoes as much as possible for the sake of the child...ya know what I mean?!?!
Agent_99 Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 I posted a reply but it's not here. I have been in a similar position. about 7 years ago my exH had an affair and the girl got pregnant. I had a hard time beleiving her because of certain things that happened, plus the posibility that it wasn't my H's. But paternity test said yes. Her and I developed a friendship out of the thing, to the point that even though exH and I are divorced her and I get together a couple times a year. I also find myself involved in an affair, so I can maybe help you with both sides of the coin. ~99
Author DealingWDrama Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 Thanks 99 - I don't see me developing a friendship with her any time soon...she hates me...funny you would like it would be the other way around. I have offered to help her in any way possible, but all she does is threaten and attempt to blackmail...now that her ammo of telling me all is used up, she threatens him with never being able to see the kid...
wildsoul Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Gotta' say that the idea of faking a pregnancy is something I cannot get my head around! But there are some kooky desperate people out there. Still, it boggles my mind to play a game about something so serious. I wanted to add that the support here between OW/M and BS's is very good. For one thing, many of us OW have spent time in the other role of having been cheated on. Few of us here are serial cheaters. I'd say the majority of us are OW for the first time and have been manipulated enough by the MP that we've been hurt too. The formerly BS's that post here are quite helpful. What most of us have in common (no matter whether we are an OP or a BS) is that we are trying to clean things up and/or help others to do the same. More often than not, we find our commonalities rather than see ourselves as opponents--at least on the board. So welcome! I hope your situation gets cleaned up pronto!
Agent_99 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 DwD~ I didn't see your other post until after I had replied to this one. I agree I don't think she's emotionally stable enough to do it the way OW and I did. But I still commend you for keeping a rational head in this, especially since there may be a child involved. I can say that if she is pregnant, the hormones and such may be affecting her pretty heavily, expecially this late in life. But it does sound like the legal system is the best way to back yourself up in this case. ~99
GPFan Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 For your own peace-of-mind and to give yourself room to focus on healing your marriage, it is best for both of you to establish no contact with OW. Have no doubt you will be informed should anything 'drastic' occur, she will make sure of that. If there is a child, you might consider taking the initiative of petitioning the court for proof of paternity else you will be living with the uncertainty of if/when she will act. Should the child be proven his, your Husband will then be able to petition the court to establish child support and visitation. He may be looked upon favourably by the Judge for having taken the initiative. This will also take away OWs power to threaten and/or blackmail either one of you.
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