wayfaerer1 Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Just wondering what you guys are up to this weekend? I hate weekends now...Trying to think of something to do to take my mind off of things. I feel like I should go out, but I don't want to put too much pressure on myself. But I know if I stay in I'll probably end up doing absolutely nothing and go crazy. I can't watch Swingers anymore anyway, if I watch it again I'm pretty sure the dvd will catch on fire for being used so many god damn times in the last week. I dread the weekend.
northstar1 Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Just wondering what you guys are up to this weekend? I hate weekends now...Trying to think of something to do to take my mind off of things. I feel like I should go out, but I don't want to put too much pressure on myself. But I know if I stay in I'll probably end up doing absolutely nothing and go crazy. I can't watch Swingers anymore anyway, if I watch it again I'm pretty sure the dvd will catch on fire for being used so many god damn times in the last week. I dread the weekend. I hear you. Do you have any buddies going out? Even if you just go for a bit? I know going out sometimes isn't easy, when you're feeling sad or angry. I have forced myself to go out with friends to a bar/restaurant, even if I leave early, just so I am out amongst people again, and not at home the whole night.
evie613 Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 I actually like staying in on the weekends. Then I don't have to put on the forced happy face and pretend I'm having fun.
RogueAC Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 I know you are hurting and life feels like it sucks right now but the weekend will only feel long and awful if you let it!!! There can be so many great things to do!!! I know it is hard but having of activities helps, at least for me anyway. Have you called/e-mailed any friends to make plans? If you don’t have a big network of friends try asking new people or acquaintances to do stuff. Ask your coworkers to go out for happy hour drinks or try checking out a meet up (I’ve met some cool people doing this). I know this might seem hard and you may feel strange but what is the worst that can happen? Someone says no? Try it. It will be easier than you think. Do you have any hobbies? Spend some time working on those. Don't have any hobbies? Now is the time to try something new. If all else fails do something fun alone: Go see a movie. Go out to dinner. Go to a coffee shop and read. Watch a game at a sports bar. If from the US, watch the Presidential Debates. See a play. Find a trivia night. I have list that goes much longer if you want…
superd Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 No "offense", but i hate all this "hobby" advice. I think you should just probably ask the next girl you see out on a date. I get the feeling you are ready.
EmperorR Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 hate the weekend to, im probably just going to the mall tommorow, not because i want to, but just to burn some hours. I actually saw a attracted girl today, but i have no courage still have no idea how to pick up a girl because its been so long
lofi_tokyo Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 I think if anger or sadness is ruining your weekends, then you need to stop letting it. Easier said than done, maybe, but I think this one is kind of a mental game. You can either be defeated and let ****tiness rule your life, and go on hating weekends, or you can try with everything you have to be proactive and do something, however small. This is the first weekend I'll be actually enjoying myself. The last two weekends were more like... me feeling like ****, being turned off of live, but going out anyways. Did it distract me from my pain, those last two weekends? Not too much, but it was nice to have a friend by my side, to be not so alone... but I encourage going out, even if you need to fake a little happiness.
Lizzie60 Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 I absolutely love the weekends... I can sleep late.. go shopping.. restaurants.. cinema.. I love it..
Author wayfaerer1 Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 Yeah, still not sure what's going on tonight - worst comes to worst I'll just plug in my electric guitar and crank it. Tomorrow I have some plans - gonna catch a baseball game (the Phillies) and then hit some bars afterwards. Hopefully that'll at least keep me somewhat occupied. Sunday I think I'll just hit the gym and maybe relax a little. I'm trying so hard to not let this b**** ruin my free time.
nowhereman82 Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 To me my weekends feel like I am just trying to fill my time so I am not just sitting there. I don't feel I do it because I have actual interest to. Figure that one out...
superd Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 wayfearer, working on that girl thing i suggested yet? Go for it!
Author wayfaerer1 Posted September 27, 2008 Author Posted September 27, 2008 Yeah man, I'd love to hang out with a nice girl - But like I said, I feel so out of shape and out of touch with the dating scene. I haven't really worked on my appearance much over the years, and now that I'm single it's like do or die. So I've been going to the gym a lot. It just sucks right now, because I'll be doing fine, and then all of sudden out of nowhere, I'll think, "what is she doing tonight? I'll bet she's with some guy." And then I feel like I'll go crazy, and I usually end up crying like a little baby until I get it out of my system. *sigh*
heggs Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 ay, man sall good heap up, My gf is gone for good. She told me it was forever and nothing will stop us, pfft total **** man, 4 days gone and im alrdy getting dates, im sure you can too mate Peace
mental_traveller Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 One of my friends and his gf are inviting me out and bringing a ladyfriend of hers along. I bet 10:1 she isn't my type, but I'm gonna go anyway.
Intergalactic Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 already the weekend for me, saturday night. i didn't do anything last night, just sat with my dad and watched law and order svu reruns, but it was fun! and tonight i'm going to dinner at some family friends' house. shouldn't be too bad. i'm actually surviving pretty well considering it's the first weekend back in australia and i'm not obsessing about where the ex is.
SarahRose Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Sounds like you are managing to keep somewhat busy. Weekends are hard. It's a holiday weekend here so even longer. I just moved so I spent most of it unpacking boxes and putting things away. Also been sleeping a lot too. The weather will be warming up so hopefully spend a lot of time at the beach. I don't feel ready to date yet either as I'm so out of shape. I've been working out and signed up for dance lessons and painting lessons. I wish I was a bit thinner now as then I'd have enough confidence to go out on a date.
Intergalactic Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 spoke too soon. went out tonight for a bit, dinner with the family friends and then to a bar with some other friends........ and it was awful all i thought about was tim and how much i miss him, and all the songs reminded me of him, and being out reminded me of sitting in cosy corners of bars with him or dancing with him and just being OUT made me remember the feeling of how happy i was then and how miserable i am now. plus, NONE of the guys who talked to me came even remotely close to how interesting tim is. ahhhhhhh it's torture. i guess i'll just be staying in and watching movies for a few weekends because i am NOT ready to be out, considering i've cut the evening short and come home for a good cry in the shower, and then ice cream on the couch.
HopeDiesLast Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Today is his sister's 30th birthday and shes having a big PROM themed party. I should be there. Im not. He made it a point to say hes going as her date last time we spoke. I'm going to be so tempted to look at myspace pics tomorrow. while being totally miserable today. i have no plans. this fricking sucks.
northstar1 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Today is his sister's 30th birthday and shes having a big PROM themed party. I should be there. Im not. He made it a point to say hes going as her date last time we spoke. I'm going to be so tempted to look at myspace pics tomorrow. while being totally miserable today. i have no plans. this fricking sucks. Hey HDL. I know it's tough when you know the ex is out doing something and you aren't part of it. But you also need to think that you will out be doing things soon (with friends etc) and he won't be out enjoying what you are doing. It goes both ways. I would definitely not check myspace. In fact, I'd avoid it entirely, or remove his profile from your list or however that works. Seeing pics of an ex enjoying their life is like a little stab in the heart, avoid it. WHy don't you make some plans? Go to a spa? Go out for dinner with some friends, have some fun of your own.
EmperorR Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Yeah man, I'd love to hang out with a nice girl - But like I said, I feel so out of shape and out of touch with the dating scene. I haven't really worked on my appearance much over the years, and now that I'm single it's like do or die. So I've been going to the gym a lot. It just sucks right now, because I'll be doing fine, and then all of sudden out of nowhere, I'll think, "what is she doing tonight? I'll bet she's with some guy." And then I feel like I'll go crazy, and I usually end up crying like a little baby until I get it out of my system. *sigh* Your describing me, I don't even know what to say to a girl its been that long. In the babck of my head i think dumb thoughts how i'll probably be single for the rest of my life now. And I think the smae stuff you do, thats why I keep doing NC, so at least if she is doing it I do not know.
Author wayfaerer1 Posted September 27, 2008 Author Posted September 27, 2008 Yeah I pretty much think the same thing - that I'll never find a girl as attractive as her and I'm doomed the rest of my life. This blows. Screw this, I'm watching Swingers again.
Konfuzion Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I am being bad... I have been hanging out with this beautiful girl from Honduras. Shes 5'6" weighs like 105 and has a D cup... I just cant get enough.... Yes i am going to hell... Oh and shes 24, I am 33 (Thank god she acts like shes 30 though).
EmperorR Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 well i went to the mall today, i usually hate the mall etc. but i was just thinking of my ex all day so i went out,. Of course every time i see a couple i just want to go in a corner and cry but it felt to get out and get my mind of stuff
Author wayfaerer1 Posted September 27, 2008 Author Posted September 27, 2008 Hang in there Emp, I'm right there with ya - At first it feels good to get out, and then the second you get to the place you are going to, it's like it all sets in again. Why are those people having such a great time together and I feel like crap? Oooh look at that girl over there, oh wait, I look like crap and I feel like crap. I'm heading downtown tonight with a friend to check out the bars and pubs. I'm optimistic but I'm not expecting a damn thing either. At least drinking should be fun. It's $9 beer night
Konfuzion Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 It's $9 beer night Is that a good thing?!?! Or is that so that all of the money you spent hurts worse than whats going on in your life to take your mind off things?
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