Beee Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 My ex and I broke up (as in the final break up where I moved out) a year and a half ago. Our relationship was not straightforward at the beginning. We met at school and ended up at the same university, for years we had an on and off relationship and I did most of the chasing. 4 years ago we went travelling together and "decided" to be in a fully committed relationship. He moved back to my city and we moved in together. The first few months were fantastic, but as time went on I realised I was being taken for granted and not really valued or pushed in my dreams. I tried to raise the issue once and all I git was anger form him. I warned him that if things didn't change, he would push me away for good. Things did start to change but all a bit too little too late. We spent over a year being miserable and arguing. To cut a long story short I moved out February 2007. Many things happened since then and I thought I had gotten over him. I even managed to have a 6 month relationship with some one... but it never felt the same as with my ex. It never felt like the one. My ex and I have stayed in touch and even saw eachother every now and again. Recently things for me started to change. I started to realise that, despite all the pain we have caused eachother, he is my soulmate. I told him how I felt (without exposing myself too much as I don't want to get hurt). He has now moved country for work purposes for at least the next 6 months. He has started seeing some one but as he put it, its just some fun. I knwo there is something there but I also know that he is terrified of being hurt again. He keeps saying to me, who knows what will happen and the door is not closed etc.... How do I make him trust me again and make him realise that if we really work at things we could have something really good? I know there's something still there, but is it too late or can we get over the pain? thank you for any input!
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