NewKid99 Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 (Posted in wrong forum earlier) I recently found myself in a rather awkward relationship. I've been seeing this woman for a few months. Things have been going great. We've always had good times together. First off from day one she never calls me. She'll call me MAYBE once a week, maybe. Usually, Im the one calling and setting up the dates and leading the way. I have been leading the way on ALL aspects of the relationship. Now, there has been no mention on being exclusive, which I want. I believe she wants the same, BUT since of her rather passive personality, I think she will never bring it up. What should I do? It feels like Im doing all of the work and would like her to step up the the plate. It's about time I know where this thing is going. I mean a man can only do so much in a relationship, correct? Ideas?
Ocean-Blue Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Stop calling her. Stop making so much contact and initiating so much. If she's interested, she'll wonder what's up and start chasing you.
Lishy Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Stop calling her. Stop making so much contact and initiating so much. If she's interested, she'll wonder what's up and start chasing you. I second that motion!
Star Gazer Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Stop calling her. Stop making so much contact and initiating so much. If she's interested, she'll wonder what's up and start chasing you. I second that motion! This coming from two-women who whole heartedly advocate that a woman NEVER chase a man?! Don't play games, NewKid. Just talk to her. Communication is key.
Lucky_One Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Don't play games, NewKid. Just talk to her. Communication is key. Talk to her. Yep. Say something like, "I would like it if you initiated contact or making plans more often," See where the conversation goes from there. Maybe her mom and dad told her that a girl should never call a boy. Maybe she read "He's Just Not Into You" and thinks that she can judge your interest by your efforts. Girls read in Cosmo and crap like that all the time how men are afraid to commit and how women shouldn't push them the wrong way by being needy. So girls can sometimes be slow to bring up commitment issues, and we wait for the guy to do it. Just talk to her - and listen to her.
Lishy Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 This coming from two-women who whole heartedly advocate that a woman NEVER chase a man?! Don't play games, NewKid. Just talk to her. Communication is key. Hmmmm they have been dating for a few months! I stand by the fact that you should never chase a guy but this would not be chasing after a few months of dating. I dont know if she is into him and if he pulls back he will know for sure. I agree you should pull back and see what happens.
Ocean-Blue Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 This coming from two-women who whole heartedly advocate that a woman NEVER chase a man?! Don't play games, NewKid. Just talk to her. Communication is key. I don't recall saying that a woman should NEVER chase a man. On the whole, I agree that a man should pursue, BUT that is how I like to do this (it doesn't apply to everyone). I personally don't chase men, but that doesn't preclude me from suggesting it to others. The OP is a guy and I'd hazard a guess that if she's interested, she'll respond (esp. since he has shown ample interest in her). It's a balance. The initial chasing should be done by the man, of course. But at the end of the end, it's about mutual interest.
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