Rudeger Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 So theres this girl that I'm friends with. Lately shes begun texting / wanting to see me a lot more. She's always calling me a dear and saying she wishes all guys were like me. She sends texts like "Hey Rudeger, hope you have a good day. Love Mary xo" etc. On a day she had no school she went to my school just to visit me (a 1.5 hour trip!) She asked me to the movies recently(just us 2), she said I could hold her hand if I wanted too... and she kept clutching at my arm the whole time and putting her head on my shoulder. Heaps other stuff too but thats all from the top off my head. I'm rather green at dating and picking up signals, but I get the feeling she might be into me, and my problem is I DON'T want to be with her in that way. She recently ended a relationship with my best friend and has been turning to me for support for quite some time. Since I value my friendship with this guy very much I don't want to start anything with her. Perhaps the main reason, and I feel very shallow and low for saying this, but shes not very attractive at all. I just can't see myself with her... So yeah, I'm not really sure what to do now. I've never really had a girl pursue me before, and I'm not sure how to act. I still want to be friends with her, but not to date, but I think I will feel like a complete jerk if I reject her, but I don't want to play her around.
neowulf Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 So yeah, I'm not really sure what to do now. I've never really had a girl pursue me before, and I'm not sure how to act. I still want to be friends with her, but not to date, but I think I will feel like a complete jerk if I reject her, but I don't want to play her around. You already have your answer. You don't find her attractive and you're not interested in entering into a relationship with her. What you'll have to face (as we all do) is the discomfort of hurting someone elses feelings. The only advice is to be honest and upfront with her as soon as possible. Rejecting people isn't fun. But it's better than leading them on.
Author Rudeger Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 Thanks neowolf, it's not gonna be pleasant but I guess I've gotta do it sooner rather than later right? She's a good friend to me so I don't want to hurt her feelings or anything. Like I said I'm also feeling ashamed that I'm rejecting her primarily cause of her looks. I'd always been brought up being told all around me that beauty was within etc etc. She really is a nice girl... Sigh, why can't the ones who I like chase me up? lol
Geishawhelk Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Like I said I'm also feeling ashamed that I'm rejecting her primarily cause of her looks. I'd always been brought up being told all around me that beauty was within etc etc. She really is a nice girl... Yeh, but of course, you're not going to tell her this.....right......? Sigh, why can't the ones who I like chase me up? lol probably your looks.......
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