marlena Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Yes I will insist upon letters/proof from doctors about his progres my son is 12 I will 100% get supervised contact. If the court says unsupervised I would move, I swear! And I don't blame you. Most mothers would do anything to keep their children far from harm's way. Lishy, if the meeting is supervised, then, I wouldn't worry about it. What I would worry about is what happens if he should ever have the right to visit the child without supervision. Hopefully, that will never happen. Or better still, hopefully he will fully recover but I highly doubt it.
sam light Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 By no means an easy thing but have you considered moving to another English speaking country, Canada, Austrailia, NZ, USA etc. His resources for legal help and travel would dwindle fast.
Author Lishy Posted September 28, 2008 Author Posted September 28, 2008 I dont want to move to another country Sam, I do not think he would phyically hurt my son and I will only allow supervised contact He has been having psychiatric help for 3 years now and has a steady girlfriend so I think his life has changed from the days he was going beserk. Marlena, Thank you for your kind words - The thing is that my son is less than a year away from being able to go and knock at his dads door, and if he did that I would have no control or say in a thing. I will agree to supervised contact and see how it goes
Gold Pile Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 I dont want to move to another country Don't ya get tired of lamb-chops, bad toothed neighbors, and fog? My home is small but I could squeeze you in if ya don't mind sharing a bed.
RecordProducer Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Lishy, are you the girl from the UK? When did you have a son? Were you married? Wow, the last time I read your posts, you only had like two partners in your life. I think if you feel that he is not fit to spend time alone with your son, you should insist on supervised visitations even if all medical experts claim he made great progress. It's not their bay, after all. If they impose their authority on you, you impose the responsibility on them: tell them that they accept to be legally responsible if the ex causes any harm to your child. I don't think they will like it. I know you're probably not afraid that he would harm him physically, but it's your prerogative to protect your son from any type of less-than-perfect treatment. In addition, if you can find a mutual language with your ex, it's the best way to go, depending on how reliable he can be.
marlena Posted September 29, 2008 Posted September 29, 2008 Marlena, Thank you for your kind words - The thing is that my son is less than a year away from being able to go and knock at his dads door, and if he did that I would have no control or say in a thing. We'll cross that bridge when the time comes. By then, he will hopefully be able to judge for himself and not allow his father's ways to influence him at all. For now, just stop worrying as the meeting will be supervised. You have a whole year after that to gently talk to him about his father's health and its effects on his behaviour.
Author Lishy Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 RP, Yes tis me! My son is 12 hon I will insist upon supervised contact and just see how it goes And Marlena, you are so right, the longer it is the older my son gets and the more able he is to look after himself
RecordProducer Posted September 30, 2008 Posted September 30, 2008 RP, Yes tis me! My son is 12 hon I never knew you had a son. You sounded like an inexperienced girl.
Author Lishy Posted September 30, 2008 Author Posted September 30, 2008 I never knew you had a son. You sounded like an inexperienced girl. That is the first time I have been called that!!
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