SmartWoman321 Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Ok- I told a friend that I wasn't going to post the "results" here because some of you might say "I told you so"....that said, the D therapy tonight DID have some positives as well. Well, we went in there and this new T asked each of us why we were there, and he siad he wasn't sure and I said to perhaps facilitate some communication between us as we journey thru this divorce because we haven't been communicating about it and jsut living life like it wasn't happening at all, and this was frustrating to me. We were able to say some things that needed to be said (we both chose our words carefully so as not to hurt the other) (especially me).....and in the end she asked each of us if we wanted to continue and my stbx said that he feels that he is not yet in the same "place" as me in this whole thing, so he feels that it would not benefit him at this point. I agreed. We are on such different pages, (as we always have been), that I realized it won't do much good right now. He said he needs to continue with his IC, to get to the place where I am at emotionally, to deal with the stages of grief (that I have gone thru, cycled thru so many times now).....and that seeing someone with me might conflict with his IC. It was all very somber. There was more, but all in all, it was helpful in someways- it wasn't hurtful- so thats good. It didn't HURT anything and it made some things more clear. SO thats good. But it didn't really change anything either- I wasn't sure if it could. remember, I was just trying this out. Oh well. No pain, no gain, right? So....on to other topics, this one has been spent.
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