Jilly Bean Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Shadow, I am going to have some of my friends from home take you out.
Touche Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Awww, hugs to all of you. I'm an introvert myself. I'm fine with my family but I can relate to wanting (on occasion) other social interaction. I just don't reach out in that way. And when others do, I generally kind of recoil. I guess my advice is to be really aware of opportunities for socializing. It's usually there. And don't be like me. I turn down those opportunities at every turn. Oh and forget the on line thing. Total waste usually.
The Player Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Wow, I cannot believe people sometimes. No I don't want to wallow with you! Get your a$$ up! I'm guessing your the type of person who thinks life sucks, it hates me, I always have bad luck, blah blah blah! Dude, you are in charge of your own life. No one can change your life but you. Your the driver, life is your road. Control where you want to go, don't blame things or life because it's not going good for you. If you want something in this life go and get it! You want better social life go out and talk with people! I didn't know it was so hard! You say you only have few hours to spare, well make the best of them. I'm not trying to attack you, but make you realize you are where you are, because you choose to be. Be smart, and make a move with your life. Control it, Rearrange it, Create it. But whatever you do...don't waste it. Goodluck bro, May all your dreams come true. P.S: I just found out your a girl, HAHA so I gues just change all the words "guy" and "bro" to "girl" and "sista?" LMAO
ahhhchooo Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Let's get drunk and eat chicken fingers... But yeah, I agree with The_Player. I'm newly single (found this site from a break-up) and read the rules of NC. So stupidly simple - get a life. Sitting at home in front of a PC in your free time is going to cause loneliness. Go out and beat it
The Player Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Go out and beat it That's what she said.
ahhhchooo Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 So stupidly simple - Sit at home and beat it Oh c'mon, if you're gonna cut parts out of my post you might've well done that.
Author shadowplay Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 Shadow, I am going to have some of my friends from home take you out. Aw, that sweet. But I'm no longer in Boston...in Western MA now.
Author shadowplay Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 Awww, hugs to all of you. I'm an introvert myself. I'm fine with my family but I can relate to wanting (on occasion) other social interaction. I just don't reach out in that way. And when others do, I generally kind of recoil. I guess my advice is to be really aware of opportunities for socializing. It's usually there. And don't be like me. I turn down those opportunities at every turn. Oh and forget the on line thing. Total waste usually. I'm glad other people can relate. I see a lot of social opportunities, but I never know how to turn them into real connections. Also I find that I can only relate to certain kinds of people. So I end up turning down social opportunities when I feel like it will be full of people who aren't like me. It's not that I'm picky or snobby -- I just don't know how to relate to the vast majority of people and I wish I did.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 I'm glad other people can relate. I see a lot of social opportunities, but I never know how to turn them into real connections. Also I find that I can only relate to certain kinds of people. So I end up turning down social opportunities when I feel like it will be full of people who aren't like me. It's not that I'm picky or snobby -- I just don't know how to relate to the vast majority of people and I wish I did. You don't need to relate to the vast majority of people. You just need to relate to a few, and create close connections with those few, and you will feel less lonely. The question is, how do you find those people who are "like you"? Do you have any ideas? Can you make the time to make the connections? I know you are in school and have a bf, so your time must be a little crunched, but I bet you could do it if you really wanted to. You like art. Are you taking any classes related to this? I bet you could meet someone in class. Are there any clubs at school related to your interests? This is the type of place where you can find people you relate with. If you are randomly trying to make connections in your apartment building, or through your bf, you probably won't have as much luck. I think you need to be a little strategic about it. But all it takes is one friend to get the ball rolling. If you can make that one strong connection, then that person knows people.
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