Post Your Most Heartless, and Cruel Ex Ever!

[Mike B.]

Okay, lets us hear about him or her. We probably have all dealt with that one person that just takes the cake. They were so evil and heartless that you felt like you were living in a soap opera. They left you with your mouth just hanging open in disbelief.

 

 

I want to start this for all of us out there who feel alone after dealing with an incredibly difficult and heartless partner. You are not alone! So please share your story.

 

It doesn't have to be the one you just got over or the one you are weaning yourself from now. All they have to be is an @$$hole to the max.

[ahhhchooo]

When I was 18 I met a girl (17) per chance while waiting bus. We got talking and struck it off. A few days later we met for coffee, exchanged mutual interests, started hanging out at the beach a lot (it was summer, I live close to the beach). She was stunning and I was in awe of her. I told her I was a virgin and after a month of dating.. we decided to have sex. Neither of us had a place to do it, though, and bad timing meant a few opportunities went missing.

 

After a couple of months (approaching 3), she got frustrated with me, I got frustrated with her (not entirely about sex) and we agreed to a break... however it didn't take me long to freak out about losing her and get back in contact. We met up a few times but it didn't really work. A few weeks (maybe months) later I randomly saw her at a set of traffic lights one night with a bunch of her friends (guys and girls) in the car.

 

Obviously she said something to them because a second later one of the guys is asking me if I knew a girl named Rikki. Stupidly, I let them know. "Yes I do". "Did you go out with her?". I shut up at that stage. "ARE YOU REALLY A VIRGIN?". I lost the plot and started screaming at them "YOU WANT TO GET F****D UP? KEEP YOUR F*****G MOUTH SHUT!".

 

The next day rolls around and I asked her how the hell she could be so nasty to me. She calls me a loser and a few other names... boy, I got burnt on that one.

[lofi_tokyo]

At least you didn't end up losing your virginity to a girl like her, achoo.

[Mike B.]

When I was 18 I met a girl (17) per chance while waiting bus. We got talking and struck it off. A few days later we met for coffee, exchanged mutual interests, started hanging out at the beach a lot (it was summer, I live close to the beach). She was stunning and I was in awe of her. I told her I was a virgin and after a month of dating.. we decided to have sex. Neither of us had a place to do it, though, and bad timing meant a few opportunities went missing.

 

After a couple of months (approaching 3), she got frustrated with me, I got frustrated with her (not entirely about sex) and we agreed to a break... however it didn't take me long to freak out about losing her and get back in contact. We met up a few times but it didn't really work. A few weeks (maybe months) later I randomly saw her at a set of traffic lights one night with a bunch of her friends (guys and girls) in the car.

 

Obviously she said something to them because a second later one of the guys is asking me if I knew a girl named Rikki. Stupidly, I let them know. "Yes I do". "Did you go out with her?". I shut up at that stage. "ARE YOU REALLY A VIRGIN?". I lost the plot and started screaming at them "YOU WANT TO GET F****D UP? KEEP YOUR F*****G MOUTH SHUT!".

 

The next day rolls around and I asked her how the hell she could be so nasty to me. She calls me a loser and a few other names... boy, I got burnt on that one.

 

 

That was cold! What did they expect at your age...to have slept with a harem?

 

here is mine but I think my most current ex is competing for her to take the crown but since this one I am about to speak on had held it so long, she deserves her spot here.

 

 

When I was 18, I was dating this other young woman who was the same age as I. We dated for about a year and a half. She was a very jealous person. I never cheated on her but she was always suspicious of me, especially since I hung around a buddy who just loved women to death.

 

This girl nagged me about if I was ever seeing any other girls besides her all of the time. I got so fed up with her obsession of this that I told her that I cannot defend myself or continue to reassure her because it was driving me crazy!

 

I told her that I wanted out of the relationship since she could not trust me to be faithful to her and it was ruining our relationship. I told her it was over. She begged me to come over to my apartment so we could talk it over. I told her "no." I couldn't take it anymore.

 

 

About an hour later, I heard a knock at my door. It was her. I opened the door and she asked if she could come in. I let her in. BIG mistake!

 

She came in and eventually starting arguing with me. I told her to leave. She started trashing my clothes and throwing frying grease on my sofa! I then yelled for her to leave. I opened the door and yelled at her to leave and she finally left.

 

 

About 30 minutes later. I heard a knock at my door. I looked out of the peephole but saw no one. They knocked again and said "it's the police! open the door!"

 

The evil witch called the cops and told them that I hit her! I would never ever ever hit a woman!! I despise men who do! The cops did not take me to jail or anything because they believed my story and thought my ex looked too good in the face with makeup intact and hair in place to have been beaten up but it was one big huge headache for me to deal with that. Now that's a cruel, heartless...

[audrey_1]

This past weekend, the guy I had been seeing came to watch an NFL football game with me. I noticed he had a huge hickey on his neck that he tried to cover with the wrong shade of make-up. And we are in OUR THIRTIES!

 

I asked him if he had played paintball this weekend, and he said no, he'd fallen down hiking. I said, "really," slowly shaking my head, and sat silently for the next 20 minutes.

 

When he said that he didn't fall down hiking; that I caught him by surprise; he didn't realize it was that noticeable, they'd only been out twice, and that if it made me feel any better, I was a better kisser than she was...all in a hurried, I got busted voice.

 

Wow. Just wow.

[Mike B.]

This past weekend, the guy I had been seeing came to watch an NFL football game with me. I noticed he had a huge hickey on his neck that he tried to cover with the wrong shade of make-up. And we are in OUR THIRTIES!

 

I asked him if he had played paintball this weekend, and he said no, he'd fallen down hiking. I said, "really," slowly shaking my head, and sat silently for the next 20 minutes.

 

When he said that he didn't fall down hiking; that I caught him by surprise; he didn't realize it was that noticeable, they'd only been out twice, and that if it made me feel any better, I was a better kisser than she was...all in a hurried, I got busted voice.

 

Wow. Just wow.

 

 

Audrey, if you are in your thirties and this guy is the most heartless guy you have dated, consider yourself lucky!

 

Well, did you give him the boot or what?

[audrey_1]

Audrey, if you are in your thirties and this guy is the most heartless guy you have dated, consider yourself lucky!

 

Well, did you give him the boot or what?

 

Lucky? I guess.

 

I had an experience with this same type of crap when I was in HIGH SCHOOL, and at that moment, vowed to never put up with it again.

 

I've dated a lot of quality men since that young experience, but unfortunately, they just weren't the right guy I see myself with long term.

 

So, I have been good at dodging bullets ... until now. This guy played upon nostalgic emotions, because he was a childhood friend who found me via the internet, but he turned out to be very different from what I remembered.

 

It was incredibly disrespectful and tasteless, and he is an idiot.

 

I asked him to apologize, to actually say the words "sorry," and he blew me off, instead choosing to hem and haw giving lame reasons he lies in situations like traffic tickets, etc. Like when the officer says, you know you were going 70? And he replies with he was only doing 50. This is an actual example he gave of why he lies.

 

Anyway, since he didn't apologize, he really, really has to be history. I'm working on it. I can't have someone like this in my life. I just can't.

[Mike B.]

 

Anyway, since he didn't apologize, he really, really has to be history. I'm working on it. I can't have someone like this in my life. I just can't.

 

 

Working on it? let me tell you what you already know and I want this to echo through you until he is gone.

 

 

He will never ever respect you since you have accepted this behavior from him. You might as well get rid of him because you just gave him the green light to get with more women behind your back. He knows that he can clown now.

[audrey_1]

Working on it? let me tell you what you already know and I want this to echo through you until he is gone.

 

He will never ever respect you since you have accepted this behavior from him. You might as well get rid of him because you just gave him the green light to get with more women behind your back. He knows that he can clown now.

 

I know. I do understand this. I have had no tolerance with this type of thing for the past 17 years, and with him, I seemed to lessen my threshold for what I will take, due to the misguided nostalgia.

 

Thanks for putting it not-so-delicately. I needed to hear it, though I do already know it.

 

Thanks.

[Star Gazer]

We lived together. He moved out on me without telling me he was even concerned about the way things were going. This happened the week before my first year finals in law school while I was at Disneyland. He moved in with our best friends (a couple), and I had no idea where he had gone. In fact, when I came home, I thought we'd been robbed. That's just the tip of the iceberg. Fun times.

[CaliGuy]

My mom died. While I was home tending to the funeral arrangements, grieving my mom's loss and attending the funeral, my ex (who was living with me at the time) was off galvanting with someone she had met a few weeks before. I come back a week later, they're dating. The guy even had the nerve to pick her up at my house. I'd be in the shower and she'd sneak outside and around the corner where he'd be waiting for her. Caught them the second time this happened. Booted her out of the house.

 

That relationship taught me a lesson I will never forget. What a run eh? To lose your mom and the love of your life within a week of each other.

 

The good thing is, what didn't kill me (that whole episode) only made me stronger.

[Mike B.]

My mom died. While I was home tending to the funeral arrangements, grieving my mom's loss and attending the funeral, my ex (who was living with me at the time) was off galvanting with someone she had met a few weeks before. I come back a week later, they're dating. The guy even had the nerve to pick her up at my house. I'd be in the shower and she'd sneak outside and around the corner where he'd be waiting for her. Caught them the second time this happened. Booted her out of the house.

 

That relationship taught me a lesson I will never forget. What a run eh? To lose your mom and the love of your life within a week of each other.

 

The good thing is, what didn't kill me (that whole episode) only made me stronger.

 

 

In the battle of good vs. evil, evil scored another point when your ex did this, Caliguy. What a B****!

[flc]

I was 24 and had just broken up with her a couple of weeks ago, she had been spending a lot of time at my place. Came home at 2:00a Sat from a night bar hopping and hit the sack. Around 2:30 a knock on the door and my ex is there with a girl friend asking if she could grab a few things she left. I was dead tired and said sure just lock up on your way out. Woke up in the morning and she had cleaned me out, no food, no dishes, towels even took my TV set and weber grill. Took me 3 weeks to get most of it back, never did get all of it.

[Eve]

All they have to be is an @$$hole to the max.

 

Ok, beat this. Some one I know came home to find that his Wife had left him and taken all of the best furniture, which included the settees and kitchen table. She had not taken the children with her though. After trying unsuccessfully to locate her, later on in the evening he heard a familar laugh coming from next door.. she had moved herself and the furniture in with the next door neighbour who she had been having an affair with for 8 months!

 

My friend later discovered that the mortgage had not been paid for over 6 months and the mortgage company were about to repossess his house. He had to explain to his two children, aged 4 and 7 why they could hear Mommy laughing through the wall that night and for many nights after...

[Intergalactic]

Ok, beat this. Some one I know came home to find that his Wife had left him and taken all of the best furniture, which included the settees and kitchen table. She had not taken the children with her though. After trying unsuccessfully to locate her, later on in the evening he heard a familar laugh coming from next door.. she had moved herself and the furniture in with the next door neighbour who she had been having an affair with for 8 months!

 

My friend later discovered that the mortgage had not been paid for over 6 months and the mortgage company were about to repossess his house. He had to explain to his two children, aged 4 and 7 why they could hear Mommy laughing through the wall that night and for many nights after...

 

holy ****, that is AWFUL! i can never understand mothers who can walk away from their own children, unless the mother-child attachment never formed. anyway, that is a horrible story

[audrey_1]

In the battle of good vs. evil, evil scored another point when your ex did this, Caliguy. What a B****!

 

For sure.

 

It's B****** like that, that make it hard for nice women to have a good relationship with a good man (and vice versa if the tables were turned).

 

Being burned like that would no doubt cause reluctance when it comes to connecting with someone, and rightfully so.

[CaliGuy]

In the battle of good vs. evil, evil scored another point when your ex did this, Caliguy. What a B****!

 

For sure.

 

It's B****** like that, that make it hard for nice women to have a good relationship with a good man (and vice versa if the tables were turned).

 

Being burned like that would no doubt cause reluctance when it comes to connecting with someone, and rightfully so.

 

So some people wonder "Hey Caliguy, why are you so hard nosed about NC?" Well, there's your answer. When you put yourself in my shoes for a day it's pretty easy to see why I am not quite as forgiving as other people when it comes to having your heart broken.

 

I truly believe that if someone really loves you, they'll communicate with you. They'll work with you on whatever issues need to be resolved to fix the relationship.

 

If they can walk away from you for whatever reason, they don't really love you. So sticking to NC is all you really have. You can't bank on them coming back (and as we've discussed, odds are they aren't coming back). Healing one's self should be the top priority sans none. Get your confidence, self-respect and self-esteem back. When you stick to NC, that is essentially what you are doing.

 

And odds are when you do and IF they decide they want to try again, you'll be in a better position to say no to them. And honestly, unless they've had some great epiphany/change of heart, a second chance isn't going to work. It takes a LONG time for someone to change. Years, IMHO.

 

So do you want to spend some of the best years of your life wasting away, pining for someone who probably isn't going to come back or are you going to seize the day and make the most of what life has to offer you?

 

Do yourself a favor and let your ex go. Why waste your time and energy on someone who doesn't want to be with you when out there somewhere, someone else does. They're just waiting for you to leave your past behind.

[Peter_pan]

good words cali guy. really good!

[EmperorR]

The one right now, so sweet and nice for 3 years, now so callous and mean, her pet cat taht I BOUGHT HER was really sick she couldn't afford the vet bill, out of the kindess of my heart I paid for it, then she dumped me a few weeks later how her feelings changed. So I stopped talking etc no contact, then I just msg how is the cat? and she sent the most coldhearted txt none of your business forget about us. What's worse she applied for a scholaship and i wrote the essay for it (YES IM A IDIOT, thats how much she had me wrapped around her finger) and just last week she got the scholaship (LIFE BURNS). Anyways that txt It was the first time in this whole ordeal I got angry at her, I haven't spoken to her since 4 days and counting, NC for good. Yes I begged wrote poems the reg after i was dumped then i stopped, all i asked how was the cat since i coughed up my money for it to live and then that cold hearted txt. And she wants to be friends I told her hah I can't be friends with a stranger someone I don't kno anymore. I was going to ask and take back everything I ever gave her from her mp3 player, to half her closet of clothes, but then nah i just said let it go.

[GodofNietzsche]

Here is mine. Me and this girl dated only for about 5 months. But, the attracation and chemistry were so strong, we hung out everyday and we're in love after 3 months (her telling me first). After the 5 months, I went abroad and would be so for the next 8 months. We decided it was best to breakup, even though both of us didn't want to. So, after I leave, she starts contacting me like crazy, telling me how much she misses me and loves me. So, we agree to talk on skype. At first it was once a week but quickly it turned into 3 times a week (her always asking me). By Novemeber, it turned into conversations about how depressed she was, and that she was drinking to cure her depression (which led her to turn in college papers late). I tried to comfort her the best I could, only to be told I wasn't doing enough to comfort her.

 

I came back over winter break, and spent a week with her. At the end, she told me she needed to get over me (which I didn't take seriously, because she had said it several times before), and that we shouldn't talk as much. However, after January I received only one e-mail about calling her. I only asked her 2 times over the next 4 months to see if she wanted to talk (one of which she missed, because she decided to stay out drinking with her friends at a bar).

 

When I come back home, she starts contacting me like crazy (AIm, facebook, calls, etc.) In less then a week (for the forth time), she calls me up. unfortunately, I am drunk. So, when a lull in the conversation comes, I tell her that I still love her, and miss her very much. She tells me that she has become a massive whore and doesn't love me anymore. I hang up the phone promptly.

[Mike B.]

The one right now, so sweet and nice for 3 years, now so callous and mean, her pet cat taht I BOUGHT HER was really sick she couldn't afford the vet bill, out of the kindess of my heart I paid for it, then she dumped me a few weeks later how her feelings changed. So I stopped talking etc no contact, then I just msg how is the cat? and she sent the most coldhearted txt none of your business forget about us. What's worse she applied for a scholaship and i wrote the essay for it (YES IM A IDIOT, thats how much she had me wrapped around her finger) and just last week she got the scholaship (LIFE BURNS). Anyways that txt It was the first time in this whole ordeal I got angry at her, I haven't spoken to her since 4 days and counting, NC for good. Yes I begged wrote poems the reg after i was dumped then i stopped, all i asked how was the cat since i coughed up my money for it to live and then that cold hearted txt. And she wants to be friends I told her hah I can't be friends with a stranger someone I don't kno anymore. I was going to ask and take back everything I ever gave her from her mp3 player, to half her closet of clothes, but then nah i just said let it go.

 

 

Good for you, Emperor! Don't feel bad for being a great enough boyfriend to have cared enough for her to pay that vet bill! You shouldn't let a heartless person change who you are. Let her keep all of those things you gave her and not ler her see you sweat by asking for them all back. Somewhere down the line when she thinks about you and the smoke has cleared, she will remember thow thoughful you were and it will eat her up at times but hopefully you will have moved on far enough to not really care.

 

Keep up the NC and don't let her drag you down to become a bitter person.

[Mike B.]

Ok, beat this. Some one I know came home to find that his Wife had left him and taken all of the best furniture, which included the settees and kitchen table. She had not taken the children with her though. After trying unsuccessfully to locate her, later on in the evening he heard a familar laugh coming from next door.. she had moved herself and the furniture in with the next door neighbour who she had been having an affair with for 8 months!

 

My friend later discovered that the mortgage had not been paid for over 6 months and the mortgage company were about to repossess his house. He had to explain to his two children, aged 4 and 7 why they could hear Mommy laughing through the wall that night and for many nights after...

 

Now this is what you call a "mind f***!"

 

This sounds so evil that it almost sound like something from a soap opera!

[Eve]

Now this is what you call a "mind f***!"

 

This sounds so evil that it almost sound like something from a soap opera!

 

I know, its simply beyond comprehension! Thankfully the guy is fine now and the children are well too. The eldest boy had a problem around starting fires for a while and hanging about with the 'wrong sort'. He was SO easily led for a number of years but with support he is ok now. Thankfully the mortgage company stopped all action and were extremely understanding so he did not lose his house. The Wife quickly became an Ex Wife. My friend gave her two weeks to decide what she wanted to do.. either work on the marraige or divorce. She did not make a decision (evidently she was too busy spending all the money she should have used to pay the mortgage) so he divorced her and looked after the kids on his own. He has been married to a lovely girl now for a number of years... me!

 

I suppose I admire him because he has never used the children against his ex and has never become bitter. Someone earlier on mentioned attachment issues. My Husband is not an academic type but did explain that he had always ben the one to feed and look after the children. No post natal depression, just that she was not that interested in the children. She wanted a career and a rich man really. My Husband is not materialy rich, so when she saw an opportunity to get more money/nicer home she took it - regardless of the effect on her children. A strange but true tale. My Husband said that he knew that the situation could kill him from the sheer stress of it all but I am glad that at such a difficult time he made concrete decisions which helped to guide him. I am also glad that his family, friends and his ex Wifes family really pulled together to make sure that the childrens lives could have some semblance of normality.

 

School was really hard for them though... constantly made fun off... But I am glad that they do not have any attachment issues and they do not hate their mother now. We worked so hard on ensuring that. I think some people are just sad individuals but I always say, 'by the grace of God go I' Maybe in an alternate universe somewhere that could have been me? Although I cant see myself making such stupid decisions... but I have witnessed the benefits of the whole 'forgiveness' thing via this situation.

[Mending1985]

I met my first boyf when we were both 16. Due to circumstances with my parents, I left home and moved in with him and his mother. We lost our virginity to each other etc. all that stuff.

 

Anyway after a year he was hitting me, and threatening to kill me if I ever left.

 

A year after that, when we were 18, he started having an affair with my best friend - I found out after they'd been sleeping together for 4 months. I was depressed and I tried to kill myself, ended up in hospital, where I found out I was also pregnant.

 

When I came back home, I told him what had happened, and his response was to ask me "Why didn't you just finish the job?" and then when I told him I was pregnant, he kicked me in the stomach and I had to go back to the hospital because I had a miscarriage!

 

Suffice to say, I had someone else pick up all my stuff and I moved out and never spoke to him again!!!

[underpants]

Anyway after a year he was hitting me, and threatening to kill me if I ever left.

 

A year after that, when we were 18, he started having an affair with my best friend - I found out after they'd been sleeping together for 4 months. I was depressed and I tried to kill myself, ended up in hospital, where I found out I was also pregnant.

 

When I came back home, I told him what had happened, and his response was to ask me "Why didn't you just finish the job?" and then when I told him I was pregnant, he kicked me in the stomach and I had to go back to the hospital because I had a miscarriage!

 

:eek:

 

That is so f'd up. What is scary is that I read a case about a guy that did the same thing (the beat her into a miscarriage thing). He did it twice to two different women, restraining orders filed and everything. What amazes me is that he never got in any real trouble for it.

 

There are some really screwed up people in the world. I am so glad you got away from this one.

 

As bad as that experience is. You have to be a million times better for being away from it.

 

Mean people suck.