This is exhausting!

[Quiet Pro]

I have given myself 2 more weeks to find what I am looking for before I take the circumstantial information to the OM's wife.

 

I will have evidence coming back from the lab soon that will identify that the semen in the garment isn't mine. But, I really don't have anything past her phone records as evidence.

 

I will have to quit this investigation soon. I am spent. Emotionally and physically.

 

 

I need to finalize this soon before my health is gone for good.

 

Any advice?

[Bryanp]

Look you know she is cheatin on you, putting your health at risk for STD's and totally humiliating anddisrespecting you as a person and a spouse. Why are you still with her? Clearly she has no respect for you. If you do not respect yourself then who will?

[Reggie]

Beg ,borrow or steal and hire a PI. I got a buddy that works as a PI and he did mine for free. It's just so much faster and the reuslts are often irrefutable. This circumstantial stuff will drive you nuts. The semen evidence is good, though.Pretty clear.

[Quiet Pro]

She has made me feel like I am out of my mind to have such suggestions that she would cheat on me.

 

I am also trying to save my marriage. I have 2 girls (6 and 3) that need to be raised in a good environment. If I quit now, my girls have no hope. But I am losing steam quickly. I am starting to feel it might be better to just get out and start over.

 

But I want to rub the truth in her face to let her know the damage she has done to this family as well as the family of the OM.

[Reggie]

Yes, the gaslighting/crazymaking stage is terrible. I was elated when my PI busted her.How's that for a weird reaction? But, at least i knew i was sane.

[Geishawhelk]

She has made me feel like I am out of my mind to have such suggestions that she would cheat on me.

So, soon you'll find out if you're right, or she is.....

 

I am also trying to save my marriage. I have 2 girls (6 and 3) that need to be raised in a good environment.

 

This is not a good environment, and your comment below - and above - reveal that.

If I quit now, my girls have no hope.

On the contrary. Your two girls would have more hope with two separated parents who are happy, than two together parents who are at loggerheads.

 

But I am losing steam quickly. I am starting to feel it might be better to just get out and start over.

Me too....

But I want to rub the truth in her face to let her know the damage she has done to this family as well as the family of the OM.

 

Revenge is never an attractive trait.

if you wreak revenge and vindictiveness you belittle yourself and disrespect your children by creating something even more despicable. Good environment, heh?

 

Think about this.....

[Al_Bundy]

I have given myself 2 more weeks to find what I am looking for before I take the circumstantial information to the OM's wife.

 

I will have evidence coming back from the lab soon that will identify that the semen in the garment isn't mine. But, I really don't have anything past her phone records as evidence.

 

I will have to quit this investigation soon. I am spent. Emotionally and physically.

 

 

I need to finalize this soon before my health is gone for good.

 

Any advice?

 

Yes, your health should not be in jeopardy because of what your wife is doing. You have all the evidence you need. Semen is not yours.

 

Divorce her.

[Owl]

Have you put a keylogger on the home computer? Checked the computer history, downloaded files, etc...? Logged into her email/IM accounts and looked at the logs?

 

I suggested you have a friend that she doesn't know tail her sometime when you suspect she's meeting with OM.

 

Who is OM? What can you do to get info on HIS side of things? Is he married? Have you talked with his wife if he is?

 

Talked with your neighbors about cars staying over night at your house while you were gone? Talked with any of your mutual friends that might be willing to tell you the truth if they know she's cheating?

 

Put a GPS device, and/or a voice activated digital recorder in her car to hear conversations she might have driving around? Put another one attached to an unused phone jack in an out of the way place in the house where she likely won't find it?

 

Checked credit card spending...see if there are meals or motel bills that she can't explain?

 

Searched her car, her purse, gone through any place where she might keep a journal or diary?

 

Trust me...there are TONS of stuff you can do to figure this out.

[Al_Bundy]

She has made me feel like I am out of my mind to have such suggestions that she would cheat on me.

 

You have the proof. Semen in her underwear that isn't yours. Did you tell her of this evidence you have?

 

I am also trying to save my marriage.

 

Whats to save? Your wife has other man droppings coming out of her.

Sorry to have to put it like that, but thats the way it is and you need to see it in that way.

 

 

I have 2 girls (6 and 3) that need to be raised in a good environment.

 

Then collect this evidence, get a divorce and go for custody. Use her unscrupulous ways to prove her unfit ,and yes, I believe that makes a mother unfit as far as full custody is concerned. you don't want your daughters growing up like their mother.

 

 

If I quit now, my girls have no hope. But I am losing steam quickly. I am starting to feel it might be better to just get out and start over.

 

But I want to rub the truth in her face to let her know the damage she has done to this family as well as the family of the OM.

 

Honestly, I doubt she cares about the damage she has done. All she cares about is getting her rocks off with this other man.

 

But it would be delicious to out the other man to his wife. Some will disagree, but I say go for it. If you get satisfaction out of it, then why not afte the hurt they have bestowed on you. But before I go to the OM's wife, I'd hire an attorney without your wife knowing and start your case well in advance of contacting his wife.