Jenksz Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 There's this girl I've been going to school with for a few years, I'm in grade 12, shes in 11. Ive barely ever talked to her, she's friends with people I don't know, but she did add me on facebook a while back. I recently just started noticing her more and am fairly attracted to her, I've also caught her glimpsing at me occasionally. However, I don't know how to approach her, I want to send her a message on facebook that would translate into a real life conversation, but since I know nothing about her and am friends with none of her buddies, I don't know what to say to start a conversation going Thanks for the advice.
Geishawhelk Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 easy tiger.... Simple. Wait for the next opportunity when you see her, go up to her and ask if she'd like to hang out some time. She can either show interest, or not. Simple. Now, could someone please tell me why it seems so hard for kids to talk to one another nowadays? What is so hard about just saying 'hi'....?
Author Jenksz Posted September 25, 2008 Author Posted September 25, 2008 easy tiger.... Simple. Wait for the next opportunity when you see her, go up to her and ask if she'd like to hang out some time. She can either show interest, or not. Simple. Now, could someone please tell me why it seems so hard for kids to talk to one another nowadays? What is so hard about just saying 'hi'....? See, doing simple things like that, call me paranoid, but it affects social groups. For example, in this situation, me asking her to hang out causes all the girls in her grade to know about me and the situation between us, now despite the fact I dont talk to any of them, it still makes for a slightly awkward situation at school.
Geishawhelk Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 Well then you have a choice. Forget about what other people think. If they want to be imbeciles, that's up to them. You're just being nice. If she blows you off that's her problem, and she's missing out one someone who's sensitive and considerate. If someone creates an issue with you over it, you were just asking her to hang out, what's so bad or weird about that? Or - let her make the first move.
joshaz Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 In a short time you'll be out of highschool... If you go to college or go and get a job, it will be forgotten in short order. Worst that can happen (practically): you feel a bit awkward. I constantly make the mistake of taking the present too seriously. It's never worth it.
Author Jenksz Posted September 25, 2008 Author Posted September 25, 2008 Im pretty sure both of your posts just gave me an epiphany, thanks, both of you.
The Player Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Jenzksz if they gave you an epiphany I hope mine will too. I know really good information on High School game, as a matter of fact I am apart of a group called The Paragon Project, that are creating a Handbook for HS Game. But it's not done yet, so don't get too excited. Anway, here's my advice. Do not just walk up to her and say hi want to hang out sometime. No offense to anybody here, but it's just not good advice. If you do that, w/o knowing her and her friends, her defense and shield will go up because her friends are right there. She doesn't want to look like a slut/hoe and accept any guys invitations. So what do you do? Well there are several things. Have a group of friends that can help you out. Have aobut 4-5 friends, they can be women too. Have them gather together in a group just like any other social group in HS, and just talk normally and have a good time. But here's the trick, do this in front of the girl and her group she stays at. While your in her group be laughing having a good time, and show her that you are a fun guy to be around with, have friends and something amazing will happen. She will have attraction for you, before you even talk to her! Because she sees you having a good time, and that you look fun and outgoing. She will already in her head have an image of you. This is good. Girls in HS are careful about there Rep. So they won't do anything that causes possible harm to it ( Accepting any guys offer to hang out ) especially in front of her friends. So here's your gameplan: Have your group hang close to her group and have a good time and show her your a great, fun, outgoing guy. She will see this and want to know more about you. I also highly recommend you, catch eye contact with her during your break or lunch. Because you can use that as an opener when you approach her. Say your doing your thing at lunch in your group, and you notice her looking at you, Keep the eye contact, and don't look away till she does. Make sure to smile when she's looking at you. Then lookout for it again. If she looks twice then that is your cue, go and approach her and her set of friends she's in. Or if you want to take an easier route: You can approach her, when she's by herself and say something along the lines of this, but confidently: "Hey I saw you staring at me during lunch today, it kinda creeped me out" ^^^ Say this in a playful tone, and give her a nice player smile. More than likely she will respond positivly, and you take it from there player. =D If you like what I'm teaching you ask anything else. I've know and learned so much from The Paragon Project I am apart of. Goodluck.
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