Dating the younger woman - any seduction ideas?

[Balthazar]

I am going out with Irene tomorrow night(Friday).

 

Irene is an attractive 21-year old who I met about a year ago. She is single and from a conservative background(still lives at home).

 

Our relationship(as friends?) started at a book exhibition and we discovered a common interest in amateur acting(theater).

 

Irene was never really a priority for me, not because of a lack in looks or personality, but because I felt the age difference was a bit large.

But there was chemistry between us.

 

We have gone out maybe 5 times to dinner, a theater play and for drinks.

Not much for a year but I was preoccupied with other matters.

 

Tomorrow night we are going to a new Indian place and

I think I need to put my worries aside and make a move on this young lady.

 

My feeling is that she is not just going out for the company, and I am pretty sure she wanted me to ask her out for Saturday instead of Friday.

I think she wants something more but I will have to do all the work.

During previous dates with her we have always kissed goodnight but it has always been a "friendly" kiss on the cheek.

 

She is assisting in her seduction in that she is going out with me, but she will not surrender without some romantic skllls on my part.

 

I think I need to dial up the kino and romance during the date to work towards a crescendo at the end.

On the other hand, there is a chance she just wants to be friends with a more mature guy she share interests with and nothing more...

 

I think the attraction is there, but she may have certain issues(possibly concerning our ages) that I need to assuage and seduction is necessary.

 

Any thoughts about how to go about this matter?

[Geishawhelk]

Look, I'm sorry, but really, given your previpous experience, maybe the direct approach would be the best....

"I like you very much, but it would be useful to know what your feelings are, because I've been burned a few times, and I just don't want to go down a wrong route in any way."

 

How about that, and see what she says.....?

[quankanne]

pockets full of candy?

 

just funnin' with ya. But being direct is always good. Like "I like you, and I'd like to see where this goes, would you be interested in dating seriously?"

 

or are you merely interested in mattress-dancing? If that's the case, the "I'd like to see where this goes ... physically" might work here.

[tanbark813]

No offense but you're taking yourself and the situation too seriously.

 

Have a couple drinks, make her laugh a little, and kiss her. A real kiss, none of this peck-on-the-cheek bullshyt.

 

It's not rocket surgery.

[Krajt]

If I am ever single again, I'd love to know how to seduce cougars. I agree with the poster above me, you are taking this way tooo seriously!

[CaliGuy]

Dude, I've been in your situation. The best thing you can do is take it easy and don't put any expectations on her or you.

 

Let the relationship develop naturally. That is the BEST way to handle it.

[sam light]

How old are you? a big factor.

 

Drinks for both of you, then make a move and ask her about it.

 

Maybe (if she rejects you) you can blame your actions on too much to drink.

[Jilly Bean]

Five dates and always a peck on the cheek?

 

You're friend-zoned, me thinks.

 

Honestly B, not to sound harsh, but you're almost twice her age. I just don't see a 21-year old being romantically interested in someone so much her senior (even though we all know you're megawatt hot! )

 

I get the feeling you misread "chemistry" sometimes, as this story reads like the girl you were interviewing.

 

When I was 23, I had a 48 year old "mentor". He thought I was wise beyond my years (read: firm bosom), and we spent a LOT of time together, as he lived close by. We worked together, would grab dinner, hang out at his place... I wasn't foolish -I knew he was always hoping for more, however, I merely enjoyed his company and attention. He was everything a woman would want in a man, except he was 20 years too old.

[Green]

Just do shots and get wasted with her and have sex... then in the morning have sex again

[CaliGuy]

Five dates and always a peck on the cheek?

 

You're friend-zoned, me thinks.

 

Honestly B, not to sound harsh, but you're almost twice her age. I just don't see a 21-year old being romantically interested in someone so much her senior (even though we all know you're megawatt hot! )

 

I get the feeling you misread "chemistry" sometimes, as this story reads like the girl you were interviewing.

 

When I was 23, I had a 48 year old "mentor". He thought I was wise beyond my years (read: firm bosom), and we spent a LOT of time together, as he lived close by. We worked together, would grab dinner, hang out at his place... I wasn't foolish -I knew he was always hoping for more, however, I merely enjoyed his company and attention. He was everything a woman would want in a man, except he was 20 years too old.

 

I dunno. McCain's wife is 17 years his junior. They're doing fine.

[Jilly Bean]

I dunno. McCain's wife is 17 years his junior. They're doing fine.

 

LOL. Um, ok. Sure.

[Green]

LOL. Um, ok. Sure.

what ever we all know what a softy you really are tough girl. Do the alcohol thing if you want to seduce her and play on her insecurities and call her imature or whatever if she tries to stop you when your reaching under her skirt

[Nemo]

Just do shots and get wasted with her and have sex... then in the morning have sex again

So you can give quality, balanced advice. Great post.

[Green]

So you can give quality, balanced advice. Great post.

 

So you can actually say things that arn't the gayest things I've ever heard good job

[The Player]

Just do shots and get wasted with her and have sex... then in the morning have sex again

 

 

Don't take this advice, unless you want to be a punk rapist.

 

You want some Idea's and Advice on dating women, well if you are a lot older then her. Don't expect her to have a blast when you do your older activities. (No offense)

 

A 21 year old girl, is looking for fun. She wants to enjoy life at this age because she is still very young. So what that means is you have to be a fun guy.

 

You need to show her that you are a man, that has something in his life. Not some boring old man, that wants to read a book, on a friday night.

 

You need to show her a good time, and one she'll remember when she goes home. If she doesn't want to be your partner then hey..it's her loss.

 

Move on to the next quality women you find.

 

Take my advice to the heart man, it will get you somewhere.

[Green]

Don't take this advice, unless you want to be a punk rapist.

 

You want some Idea's and Advice on dating women, well if you are a lot older then her. Don't expect her to have a blast when you do your older activities. (No offense)

 

A 21 year old girl, is looking for fun. She wants to enjoy life at this age because she is still very young. So what that means is you have to be a fun guy.

 

You need to show her that you are a man, that has something in his life. Not some boring old man, that wants to read a book, on a friday night.

 

You need to show her a good time, and one she'll remember when she goes home. If she doesn't want to be your partner then hey..it's her loss.

 

Move on to the next quality women you find.

 

Take my advice to the heart man, it will get you somewhere.

 

your advice couldn't be more ambiguous if you tried good job. And yes I'm a punk rapist because I suggested he get boozing with a 21 year old hottie

[The Player]

So I'm guessing your advice was better...?

 

BTW, I'm tired and it's 1 A.M here, I just gave basic concept.

 

 

On a serious note: I don't believe, a true man would make a girl get drunk so he could bump uglies by the end of the night.

 

That's low status. All men should become High Status males. I want this guy to understand, certain things in his life is what attracts a women to a man.

 

Every guy should have a lifetime goal he wants to Achieve. Whether it be, creating a business, achieving something hard in life, etc etc.

 

This goal should drive you, it should take time and effort. This is attractive in a womens eyes.

 

This is what I meant by having something drive you.

 

When I said a 21 year old girl is looking for fun, I meant just that. No offence to the creator of this thread. But older people tend to be more dull. I was simply telling him he must be fun and an outgoing guy for her to feel more attracted to him.

 

For all I know he's that exact guy, I'm just giving him what he asked, and that was advice.

 

When I said he must make the time spent with her a good one, because at the end of the night she'll decied right then and there to keep on with our friend here, or not be involved at all.

 

There's your detailed non-amibgous response.

 

Hope once again it will help you.

 

Much luck

[Balthazar]

Actually, I enjoy reading the different viewpoints other posters have on LS and I appreciate them, especially when they are different from my own.

Listening and exchanging ideas is the best way to learn.

 

I am aware of our age difference but I feel that is what attracted her in the first place.

 

This young lady can have men her age or a bit older; I think the choice to be with an older guy is a conscious one. She has told me she prefers the older ages.

 

Furthermore, she is not really the average alcohol-guzzling, partying 21-year old.

She is more the intellectual, arty type.

 

Second, she wanted to go out on a Saturday night rather than on Friday which in my eyes is significant.

 

Third, she has indirectly asked if I am seeing other women.

 

As for tonight, I have arranged dinner and some dancing at an RnB club.

 

Let's see how it goes.

 

PS- How do you know I'm megawatt hot JillyB?

I could be Quasimodo's long lost brother for all you know.

[Nemo]

Listening and exchanging ideas is the best way to learn.

Honestly, it's just so much easier to skim down until you get to my posts. But I respect your right to do things the hard way.

 

Have fun, and wear tight underpants.

[The Player]

 

Have fun, and wear tight underpants.

 

 

 

Wtf?? Lol that was some humor!

[Balthazar]

Actually, I am thinking of going commando.

That way I don't have to verbally express my attraction.

[Geishawhelk]

PS- How do you know I'm megawatt hot JillyB?

I could be Quasimodo's long lost brother for all you know.

 

The Avatar's a portrait....

He keeps talkin' 'bout hot chicks, but I don't think anyone knew he meant literally......

[Balthazar]

By the way, the date's off.

She just called and told me she is ill(slight fever).

Asked if we could do it tomorrow(Saturday) or Sunday. Haven't replied yet.

Problem is I was going to a concert with friends on Saturday.

But I may be losing a good opportunity with her.

[Geishawhelk]

Couldn't you suggest she come to the concert with you?

 

All tickets gone, or not a good idea....?

[The Player]

Be a man Balthazar, just tell her you have plans for that day and reschedule. Your not losing a good opportunity with her, she is.

 

You got to start thinking this way bro. Just let her know you have plans, and make another date.

 

 

Update: What Geishawhelk said is a good idea, except I don't think she'll be better by the next day.