Author gummybear Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 This is correct. Women think guys will just hang around and be friends because they enjoy their comany so much . BS. Women will hang out until they find a guy they want and guys will hang out until they realize he isn't going to get some or he finds a gal he can get some from. Not true. I have maybe 2-3 guy friends I hung out with back in my old city. When I had a bf, I hung out with them less but still we remain friends. I'm not talking BFF, just a good general friend.
Author gummybear Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 Below is our email conversation. Will we make it as friends? yay or nay? Morning after the date: Hi Gummy! I wanted to drop you a note to tell you that I really enjoyed meeting you last night. As I think I mentioned last night, I am going out of town this weekend but would really like to meet up again next week if you're available. Hope you have a great day, talk to you soon. -XX My reply: Hi XX, It was nice meeting you as well. I didn't quite feel romantic sparks between us, but you seem like a really nice and fun person so I hope we can still hang out every once in awhile as friends. Let me know if you're interested and I'd love to meet up next week or whenever we're both available. Gummy His reply Gummy, I agree-the sparks did not necessarily fly the other night. However, I really did enjoy your company and sense of humor-not to mention finding that we have a few fun things in common. Anyway, I'm out of town for the next few days.....yahoo.....and won't have access to email, etc. unless I get really lucky. So, I will drop you a line when I get back and see what you are up to. Have a great weekend. -XX I think it seems friendly enough. (gosh, i must be bored....)
carhill Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Not true. I have maybe 2-3 guy friends I hung out with back in my old city. When I had a bf, I hung out with them less but still we remain friends. I'm not talking BFF, just a good general friend. So, which one (or more) of those 2-3 guys did you want to bang and settled for being friends with? That's what Yamaha was commenting on. If neither party has attraction, of course friendship is possible and healthy
Crestfallen_KH Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Honestly, I'll be surprised if you hear from him again.
Yamaha Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Honestly, I'll be surprised if you hear from him again. Me too. Why hang out when you could be dating someone you enjoy being around? If he does hang out he must be needy or a completely inept in the game of women.
Isolde Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Me too. Why hang out when you could be dating someone you enjoy being around? If he does hang out he must be needy or a completely inept in the game of women. No, I don't agree with this. What about when friends try dating and it doesn't work and they stay friends? Doesn't happen often, but I fail to see what's so pathetic about it. Many people are single and don't go on dates every weekend. Friendship is a normal part of twentysomething life.
Crestfallen_KH Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 Me too. Why hang out when you could be dating someone you enjoy being around? If he does hang out he must be needy or a completely inept in the game of women. Yep. I've found that guys who say they are ok being friends tend to be lonely, recently divorced (or not comfortable being single), not as experienced dating, etc. In the meantime, simply by being female, you take away some of the loneliness and meet a few of their needs. When they meet someone else who is interested in them romantically (and can, therefore, meet more of their needs), they get gone quick. This doesn't always happen, of course, and it is possible to build a real friendship, but I think it's less likely to happen online when you are both looking for a romantic partner. And, in these instances that I'm referring to, I know the guys wanted more from me and I also think part of the reason they hung around was in the hopes that I'd change my mind.
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