GroupFitness Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 Yup, I've been dating my BF for 7 months and we have yet to have one fight, or even fuss or get irritated at each other. I'm not exactly sure why, speaking for myself, this man honestly just doesn't piss me off. He may have done one or two irritating things like not reply a random text message I send but even that has never escalated to me calling him out on it. This is so unlike any relationship I've had as I can be drama queen when I put my mind to it. But he doesn't give me any reason to be a drama queen. We see each other once during the week and spend every weekend together(Friday-sunday) so it's enough to grate on each other's nerves but nope, nada, zilch. I think this is weird, does anyone else? p.s. I don't want to pick fights with him just because, I just find it very odd that not even a minor disagreement has yet to happen
Krajt Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 It is weird, you had best hope that when the arguments come that you two are stronger to stay together. Arguments are like pringles at times.
Shygirl15 Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 You need to test how good he is at managing anger and conflict resolution; so I say pick up a fight! Kidding. Or perhaps not..
Author GroupFitness Posted September 24, 2008 Author Posted September 24, 2008 You need to test how good he is at managing anger and conflict resolution; so I say pick up a fight! Kidding. Or perhaps not.. That's my thought exactly. I jokingly told him that what if he's the type to slash somebody's throat when he gets mad, I'd like to know that now not later:laugh: But honestly, I wouldn't even know how to pick a fight because he just doesn't piss me off. I mean, I do know he's very easy going, shy but quite assertive. He's a middle school teacher so he's fond of telling people what to do..8 graders anyway. And he's a natural leader, take charge kind of person. I'm sure I must have annoyed him with something or the other, I mean it's me:) but I don't understand why he's never called me out on it.
Ruby Slippers Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 Do you have a lot of chemistry? I would guess that you are either highly compatible individuals, or you have no chemistry. I have found that, in my life, when there is no disagreement whatsoever, it's always with a guy I have no real spark with. When there is passion, it emerges in both agreeable and not so agreeable ways.
Author GroupFitness Posted September 24, 2008 Author Posted September 24, 2008 Do you have a lot of chemistry? I would guess that you are either highly compatible individuals, or you have no chemistry. I have found that, in my life, when there is no disagreement whatsoever, it's always with a guy I have no real spark with. When there is passion, it emerges in both agreeable and not so agreeable ways. I think we have chemistry..How do you really define chemistry? He excites me and impresses me just by being himself. Sex is great, conversations are frequent and do span a wide variety of topics. We share similar views and on the ones which we done, I don't think either one of us is passionate enough about the topic to really take a stand. He's kind, he's loving. I am physically and emotionally attracted to him and he's always on my mind. I don't know, what else constitutes chemistry?
bayouboi Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 You may as well break it off with him now because you'll be bored with him at some point in the future. You need the drama to survive as a woman, it's your lifeforce.
Krajt Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 You may as well break it off with him now because you'll be bored with him at some point in the future. You need the drama to survive as a woman, it's your lifeforce. And we men need the added spice that comes with "make-up" sex.
Ruby Slippers Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 I don't know, what else constitutes chemistry? I think chemistry is self-defined. If you feel it, you've got it. Sounds like you've got a great thing! I do think it's important to discover whether you know how to disagree or argue, because a more significant disagreement will probably arise at some point. But it doesn't make sense to pick a fight and make that happen. I say enjoy the peace and good times.
Krytie TV Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 In my opinion and experience, a relationship without fights means that someone is trying too hard to please the other. This will invariably end and there will be that "you are not the person I fell in love with" moment. It will be taxing on the relationship, not to mention I would not want to invest so much time without knowing my mate's fighting style. Some people can be very vicious and unable to disagree amicably, and that is always bad news.
djhall Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 That's my thought exactly. I jokingly told him that what if he's the type to slash somebody's throat when he gets mad, I'd like to know that now not later:laugh:. Sure, because if he is going to kill you eventually, it is better to die now and not mess around with these last few months or years of life and happiness! May I suggest: I jokingly told him that what if he's the type to slash somebody's throat when he gets mad, I'd like to discover that with someone else and not me:laugh:. Find someone you don't really like and start pitting them against each other, trying to get them pissed at each other so you can see what happens when he finally blows.
Mahatma Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 It just means he is laid back. I never get into fights with my girlfriends. Whatever problems we have, we just talk them out before they reach an anger level. I've been dating my current gf for 3 months and in those 3 months, most was summer and we hung out every day. We would hang out for 30 days strait. Now that we are both in college, I can only see her on the weekends, but we hang out Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. I even drove 4 hours to San Antonio with just me and her, spent the day in the hot sun at a theme park, and then drove back again. We just DON'T get sick or annoyed by eachother. Treasure this.
malibustacydoll Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 I don't find that abnormal. My boyfriend and I dated for just about as long before we had a real fight. Him and I honestly haven't even had a huge blowout fight like many couples have. We have been together for a year and a half now and have had disagreements, however, we have always talked them out. I think the longer you date, the more likely you are to have fights-- or when you get married or in a more serious status then the odds of fights will increase. However, if you continue good communication they wont be such huge fights.
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