Author stuckinoz Posted September 25, 2008 Author Posted September 25, 2008 Sorry---2sunny....(called you someone else -my apologies)....I guess I should not speed read screen names on here.
2sure Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 Stuck - My H and I have now been married 3 years. Most people would have bailed. But I love him a lot. And I know he loves me just as much. The affairs were not important to him, I knew that. It wasnt the affairs that threatened the marriage. He really really seemed to believe that since it meant so very little to him, that it was harmless if I didnt know. THAT was what broke my heart - they werent important, yet important enough to risk me! I really believe that until I took some kind of tangible action that involved me, him, and the OW...it was like it all remained harmless to him. After it affected HIM, it was like a lightbulb went on. He then seemed to actually understand where I was coming from. If he forgets that, he wont forget that hus harmless actions have direct consequences. He still apologizes, so I know he thinks about what he has done even tho I never bring it up anymore.
Author stuckinoz Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 Well I intend to confront him tonight or tomorrow. Lay it on the line........Tell him it's either THEM or ME. I have other options - Yes, should have stayed gone....but thought we could work thru this. But I am finding that yet again I am the one that is trying & seems he is still NOT. I will still need to be the Marriage Police for a few days after that - & If I see that it has not continued then maybe he & I can move on. I will say this, I don't have much hope for it to stop. And IF I see the one particular person's name scroll around on his phone - I definitely WILL confront her....whether I decide to stay in the marriage or not. And, I WILL do it so the other girls (that do like & respect me - for real) hear what I have to say.
DealingWDrama Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 If he really wants your marriage to work - he will stop texting EVERYONE - he will get a new phone and the two of you will be able to work together to give one another all that you both need in your relationship...games are for kids...I contacted the other woman via phone...she bashed into me telling me I was unloved by my H and a fool, ect...to prepare yourself if you do this...it makes you think!
NewSunrise Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 No more contacting any of them. Sounds like you may to have to do some soul searching whether to stay married with this man or not? When you do, define the kind of relationship you would like to have. And then ask yourself if he fit those requirements. And don't make up for what you did in the past for this. Sometimes divorce is the only best left thing to do.
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